what should i do!?

Question

my son was searching (bad things) on his computer and his freind was doing it to. what should i do hes 15 where is that little cute kid 5 years ago. My sons freind is also a good kid my kid is a A- student why would he do this

Answer 1

Well, it used to be that the boys were getting into Dad's smut mags, or if their dad didn't subscribe, they'd get them from their friends who stole them from *their* dads. Still, porn wasn't readily available. Nowadays, with the internet in so many homes, and a complete lack of parental supervision to go along with it, porn is just beyond the next click of a mouse, no matter where you go online.

I can tell you that my husband and I DON'T have graphic materials in our home, DO have computers and DO monitor what our kids are doing on them. But our oldest are only in middle school, and I didn't think my 11 year old son was even remotely interested in stuff like that... until my Google search bar popped up with some disturbing words when it auto-completed after I typed in the letter "V"....

He's not a bad kid. He's curious. But we let him know that we are aware of where he goes online, that we can track it ALL and that this type of stuff was inappropriate for him to be searching out. We let him know we would answer questions if he had them, although I'm not sure he'd ever take us up on that... ;) ...that if we found he was looking at sites like that again, he would no longer be able to use the internet without a parent watching over his shoulder. I think we will probably do a parental control program if/when it happens again, as well. I'd much rather be able to trust my kids not to do the things we disapprove of, but in this case, it may just be expecting too much with such a huge temptation.

Answer 2

Children, often times become curious especially at he and his friends age. Don't beat yourself up to bad, he has to see how far he can get with what he tried. Take the computer from him for a week, then before you give it back to him put parental control on it, that way certain sites he cna't even go into without a code that you put in the computer. Be Blessed!

Answer 3

Ummm... u should look into installing some cyber patrol program on that pc he is using.. but looking doesnt do any harms...i dont think. I think ur son is smart enough that he wouldnt do anything stupid beyond just watching it.

Everyone of us does it one time or another in our life time..doesnt matter how good of a student u are. Sometimes, the smartest one do the most damagesd/harms to themselves and others. But for ur sake I hope ur son is diff.

Cheers!

Answer 4

I'm not sure what he was searching, I assume p*rn? At that age, they are probably just curious. Just be honest with him and tell him that you understand he's curious, and if he has questions, he should ask you. If he is too embarrased to ask you face to face, let him write the questions in a notebook and you can answer him back in the notebook. Tell him that much of what he'll find on the net is just for "entertainment" and does not reflect what really happens in a loving, mutually respectful relationship.

Answer 5

it is tough to realize your children are growing up. be glad you caught it now and can set up some clean rules and expectations.

i would take the computer out of the room and put it in a common place so that he can be monitered. also look into parental controls.

most boys his age are doing the same thing so don't stress too much.

good luck. SD

Answer 6

Because he is a boy. Let's face it, boys like to look at naked women. On one hand, it is normal for him to be curious and want to look at those kind of pictures. On the other hand, you have to make it clear to him that it is not okay to do it at home on the computer. If for no other reason than because it is a really easy way to pick up a computer virus.

Answer 7

Children like to experiment. Let him know you are very displeased with his actions and would like to know why he is behaving in such an abnormal way. If this is something he has never done before, then maybe he was just curious and won't do it again. But you will have to talk to him to see. Good luck.

Answer 8

I would say.. my house.. my computer. Resepct it or I will not resepct your room or your items. It's his personal choice and you can't stop him from doing it elsewhere. My kids will do things... but in my house certain things aren't allowed. That way to they learn 'the standard' of acceptable and not acceptable which will follow them when they leave home

Answer 9

OK, I'm thinking it was some kind of porn... Its totally natural, we are sexual beings and he is at an age when he is pretty-much hormone soup. Don't give him **** for being human, just tell him to censor his use if it can be viewed by others for whom it isn't age-appropriate. Really, lighten-up, do you want him to have hang-ups about sex?

Answer 10

Sounds like it's time to take the computer off line until he can be trusted.