Parents, come on, be honest for once, Answer this?

Question

Come on i know ur all likely to say you love or like your children equally, come on b honest you do have a favourite? do have a child you don't nesscarily love more than other children, like more than your other kids? and when your kids ask you, ' mum/dad who's your favourite, do you lie? and say you like them all equally or tell them the truth.

Answer 1

I have six children. I don't have time to play favorites. The "baby" is the most spoilt, though, by default. I make sure to tell all of the others how good they had it when it was their turn to be spoilt, and give specific examples. They all know that little ones don't understand as much as older kids, that they need more help, care, & attention. I hope I'm raising kids who understand that different people have different needs, and you give more to those who need more.

I also agree that each child has their different positive & negative qualities. I have one child in particular, who on paper is the "perfect" child. My biggest issues with this child are a hopeless inability to keep anything organized (takes after Mom), and a penchant for sweets that sometimes leads to sneaking. But this child doesn't demand a whole lot of attention all the time, and can easily go through the day with hardly any conversation besides the necessary stuff. By rights, she *ought* to be my favorite! She's easy to discipline, well-mannered, obedient, quiet, sweet-natured and kind, an A student in the gifted program.... but I find myself having to make sure I go out of my way to interact with her some days, because she makes it easy to overlook her with the hustle and bustle of the household.

No, I don't have favorites, but I do have some children and some circumstances that demand more attention for one child over another at times.

Answer 2

I love all my children equally, of course I only have one child.

Now being a parent I can actually say that I would love all my kids equally but not in the same way. Does that make sense. One child may have one interest that I favor more than the other, but then the other child may be better at something else that I do.

I think there is a place in your heart for all your kids. I wish I had more but I dont and I still love the one I've got, no more or no less.

Answer 3

I would say that I do love all mine the same but there is difference with each one ! You can't replace any one child with another child! They are each different and you love them each differently !! They have their own personalities and behaviors ! There may be some things that you don't like about one of your children and sometimes you may not even get alone with a certain one of them but you still love that one just the same as the other ones !! I don't see how a Mother could Love one child more then the other one? Maybe she likes something More about the other one or she gets alone better with one of them, but she still should love each child with the same kind of love !!

Answer 4

I have 4 and love them all the same. ie. if anything broke our relationship I would lose purpose in my life. However, having said that; some I connect with better and talk to more. We have more in common. Despite my best efforts the youngest is only interested in computer games and anime, both of which I neither understand or have any interest in. As a result we don't communicate much. And yes I tell them the truth.

Answer 5

You obviously have no children or you would know that everything you just said is ridiculous. I have two children that are very different in almost every way. Yes some of each child's behaviours irritate or upset me but that has absolutely no bearing on how much I love them. Liking or disliking a behaviour is just that-a behaviour. That would be like saying you like Suzie better than Jamie because Jamie is wearing a green shirt and you don't like green. The behaviour doesn't define the person any more than clothing would

Answer 6

Hi Drew, I have 2 growth daughter. One knows where,and what she wants in life,and work's very hard to get there. The baby seems to be more mix-up, and don't know one end to the other. She tries, but something inter-fears,and the whole day is shot. My girls' are alot different than each other, which is the way it should be. I love both my girls in the same way.The baby,she does try to help me out at times.The oldest lives in oregon.She calls me every saturday,to see if everything is okay. Both my girls' love me,and i love them to. A single parent. Clowmy

Answer 7

I love my children the same, however i do like my daughter more part of the time . She is 6 and has a very outgoing , willing to please attitude.

My son is 15 and well that should say it all......I dont favor one but do expect more from him naturally since he is much older and should be earning more privileges then his sister.

They both have their good points, I do enjoy the time I spend with them both, I do get to do more with my daughter, like doing her hair, and girlie stuff. My son is a young man and doesn't need me to do everything for him he just needs guidance.

Both children are excited about the new baby on the way...

Answer 8

Well, I don't have more than one child yet. But I can say I think it's definitely true that parents may "click" more with one child's personality than another's. That isn't the same as "liking" more, and of course there's no difference in loving. You can't measure love for your own child, and folks who say they do are folks who don't know themselves too well. I think that in some situations we may like child A better, and in other situations we like child B better -- it's just like there are some things you love about your own mother or sister and some things rub you the wrong way. No biggie.

Answer 9

Good question. I have 3 beautiful daughters who I love dearly.
We have debates with them saying "she gets away with more than I ever did" referring to another sibling. My middle daughter was born after I had a still born (who I never saw so I always look at my middle daughter wondering if her sister would have looked like her. Her elder sister believes she is my favourite because of this.
I have a younger daughter who her sisters sometimes think I love her more but she still lives with me and of course I spend more time with her, so I am usually stuck in the middle and hopefully they know I do LOVE them exactly the same.

Answer 10

Actually, yes, I can say quite honestly that I love my three children equally. At the same time I recognise that they each have their very different personality and talent, and of course being different ages, their needs are different, but the whole family have been involved in the understanding and fulfilment of those needs.