The need of getting all A's in all my classes, feeling like I'm not good enough, being really scared when merely thinking about the thought of getting a B in any single class...
2007-02-23 16:44:44 · 9 answers · asked by Tiffany 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
This may be something you have learned in your family. Do your parents value what you do, praise you? Or do they expect you to always bring home A's and be perfect?
I suggest you begin to repect yourself and value what you do, first of all. Then lighten up, understand that getting A's is great, but not at the expense of your health or well-being. Do as well as you are capable of, but don't give up enjoying life either. It is a balance.
I suggest you also see a counselor at school to talk about how you are feeling.
2007-02-23 16:51:10 · answer #1 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because a B doesn't get you a scholarship.. fact is.. it ain't up to you.. it is up to the teacher, unless you are transcending the solitary reality.. keep it up A's are good.. and when your in school you do need to proove yourself.. that is the way the twisted western education system is.. if you don't make the grade your academic future may be limited.....
B will still get you in.. but unless your education is paid for it becomes a pain in the but....
but what other feedback on your life do you have.. does anyone talk to you or complement you outside of school?
grades give people a sense of acceptance.. no one likes being told they arn't good enough or arn't perfect or arnt doing enough.. how often do people get 100%.. it is a practice in attacking peoples self confidence...
if you see a C as ok and a B as expected and an A as doing more than is expected then it changes the grading system somewhat.. but the A is still the top.. I think we all try to be the best we can be.. if we don't hold ourselves to do the best.. then we become slackers...
it really doesn't matter.. life will be the way it is..
people are anal systematic zombies in general.. if it aint grades it is money.. young people usually don't have a salary.
its a sense of self worth in a mostly ignorant and alien world.
2007-02-23 16:56:12 · answer #2 · answered by intracircumcordei 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, do your parents pressure you to make all A's? If yes, then that could be one answer. Your feelngs of not feeling good enough probably dont have anything to do with making all A's. That is more of a self-esteem issue, not having enough of it. Having a fear of failing is what most of us feel, but if you are obsessive about it.. then there could be other hidden causes or reasons for making you so obsessive over it. I would suggest putting the words "low self-esteem" in search and reading some articles about it on inspirational/medical sites. Also, do a search on "fear of failing".. you can find so many good professional answers to this question.. Most teenagers go thru exactly what you are feeling. Teenage yrs are the most stressful. Be yourself, be proud of who you are and remember, you are not a failure at anything as long as you never give up trying.
2007-02-23 16:56:25 · answer #3 · answered by answers to A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like perfectionism to me. Lots of people have it, me included. Do you like activities that are very linear and precise, like origami or needlepoint? Perhaps you are very competitive, also a sign of perfectionism. My best advice is to just remind yourself to cut yourself some slack. Maybe you could take up an activity that has no 'perfect', like scrapbooking. It will drive you crazy not to have a 'right' way to do it, but if you dive in and start, you might really like it. It feels good to just do something without worrying about it being the best.
2007-02-23 16:51:14 · answer #4 · answered by hermione_speaks 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this does no longer sound stupid to me in any respect! On my honeymoon i'd not purchase some thing for myself because I felt like i became being egocentric. i comprehend precisely how your feeling, and notwithstanding i'd no longer are turning out to be over it myself, I attempt to remind myself that i'm someone too, and that i need to be at liberty the picture of truly everyone else. i imagine it tutor that you're a really tender, being concerned individual, yet bear in thoughts you want to be at liberty besides. it really is not any longer undesirable for you to do some thing for your self, or to get A's, and also you do not favor to tutor your self, be who you're! i comprehend it really is a lot less complicated said than performed, in simple terms attempt to remind your self each once and awhile that it really is o.k. to be at liberty, and it really is not any longer egocentric to do issues for in simple terms you!! i wish you're in a position to comprehend that!
2016-12-04 21:12:35 · answer #5 · answered by picart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u dont want to feel mediocre... u know... so u push harder to ur self to make hings better and better... or you are just trying to avoid something that u saw in ur past.... u dontw ant to repeat the situation and the third and not as nice option, u could be a lil bit depress....
2007-02-23 16:49:16 · answer #6 · answered by Phonegirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you have had a long history of rejection and not enough attention???? It all stems from the home!!!!
2007-02-23 16:53:30 · answer #7 · answered by krazyinchicago 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is called pride and too much of it. pray to Jesus to get rid of it.
2007-02-23 16:48:55 · answer #8 · answered by Ronald D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
culture, parents, competition
Someone answer my question please.
2007-02-23 16:59:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋