My boyfriend proposed to me tonight. I already knew that he was because I knew he had a ring and today I stayed over late at work to give him time to ask my dad. We all went out to eat and when we came back, everyone else went inside, but my boyfriend and I took a little longer. I got out of the truck first and he asked me to come there. I was carrying a take-out box from the retaurant and my purse in the other hand. He sat down and pulled out the ring box. He asked me to marry him and I shook my head yes. Then he asked me if I was sure (he always does this when he asks me yes or no questions).
I love him and I want to marry him, but I just felt sad because I wish it would have been a time when it was just me and him (I knew my parents were probably watching). And then also, I would have loved to have spent the rest of the night with just him, but we went inside with my family and didn't even get to celebrate with just us.
2007-02-23 16:43:30 · 6 answers · asked by New mommy 2010! 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The only reason you felt sad was because you predicted it and you saw it coming.
It would have been WAY better if it was unexpected and a surprise.
You'll have your time to celebrate. its just a proposal you'll have another chance at the wedding and the years of being married!
2007-02-23 17:05:30 · answer #1 · answered by John Becker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can see why you would feel that way.
I will admit that my proposal was a bit disappointing, as well. It was at a Christmas party with a bunch of our friends. I was sleepy and pregnant and crabby and everyone knew about it but me...Then he did it in front of everyone and I became this big "show" with all the questions...I always thought it would be cool to be proposed to on a roller coaster, at the very top, looking out over everything...the rush, oh and how romantic!
I think that women build up the proposal, and often the wedding as well, into this big thing and it doesn't matter what the guy does, it wont measure up to what we have envisioned.
Congratulations and all I can say is that it wont matter a year from now. You're getting married!!! Yeah!!!! Just think about that!
2007-02-24 00:55:20 · answer #2 · answered by TiGeR 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i proposed to my girlfriend at school young 10th grade and yeah i know how you feel just being with him would have been the best but you know having people that are so close to you like your family i wish i could have done that but we didnt have the best life of living with our family. We live together now in Alaska and were getting married in June but you know i still rem her face when i got down on one knee infront of every kid and teacher may i add and asked her to marry me its a time were you cant get it out of your head. Maybe he thought that was the best time to do it because of the family. And him asking you if your sure i do that a lot too but its our way of knowing that things are good. And you will have plenty of time to Celebrate with just him years to come good luck hun.
2007-02-24 06:32:50 · answer #3 · answered by Yosapa G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Expectations...you feel this way because you knew it was coming and you wanted something different which is okay. Just make sure you are okay with this type of behaviour. How they surprise you before you get married is how they do it afterwards, ya know?
2007-02-24 01:10:39 · answer #4 · answered by GranolaGurl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Congrats! He did have it be the two of you-outside. If your parents watched, -sorry it wasn't more private for your liking. However, you can celebrate, the two of you another evening. And, on your honeymoon, you two will be alone. Take care.
2007-02-24 01:29:00 · answer #5 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand... but it could of been worse... my husband didn't even propose.. it was just understood that we'd get married...i even picked out my own ring without him there... it was pathedic
2007-02-24 02:31:19 · answer #6 · answered by vneck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋