how do i get over him?

Question

My boyfriend broke up with me a while back... he was a MAJOR player. my sister tried to tell me, but i didnt listen..... Im not completley over him but he has already moved on about 3 times now... maybe 4. He is WAY over me... how do I get over him

Answer 1

In my experience, you can’t. All you can do is wait for time to heal the damage he’s done to you. It took me a long time to heal when the woman that I loved “moved on” from me! I don’t remember exactly how long it was, but it was something like 3-5 years. It just depends on how much in love you were with the person. When it’s you, it’s hard to realize that what’s actually happened to you is that a piece of your hear has been ripped from your chest. And that’s the reason why you still long for him. You want your heart to be complete again, but with no way for you to fix things, all you can do is wait and let your heart heal back up. Some people heal faster than others, while others don’t. You’ll always have a scar of course, but I think the way to know when you’re healed is when you don’t think about him as much any more; when he’s just a passing thought and you start to find yourself wanting to look for someone else.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

You seems to know exactly what the situation is, and most importantly, you also know exactly what kind of guy you are trying to get over right now. Then why is it so hard?

The guy had shown his true color and he move on. You should know better and do the same thing. Depending on someone who is not trustworthy will fail you time and time again. Why not back yourself up by saying, I am much much better than that, and deserve something way better. You really have to love and value yourself more than this. If you can do that, not only will you get over that man, you' re in for a chance of meeting someone worthwhile.

Good luck.

Answer 4

Look inwards and not outwards sweetheart!

Make a list of the things that make you happy - big and small (like having a big bubble bath with candles and wine; catching up with friends for coffee; reading a book; making something special for dinner; getting a manicure - whatever works for YOU) then as time and finances permit - when you start to feel lonely and miss him - try something from that list.

Go get a new hairdo - nothing like change to make you realise that things can be different (and there is something about washing him out of your hair that feels good!!)

You were way too good for him anyway

Answer 5

I was in a similar situation.The best way to get over the old guy is with a new guy.I suggest that you start dating a few guys for awhile with out jumping quickly into a relationship or else you'll be in the same situation again.That way your ex will no longer be on your mind.After dating awhile(not necessarily having sex)You'll find a MAN that will not take your love as your weakness.

Answer 6

The old saying is the best way to get over some one is to get under someone . . .

. . . but use protection!

Seriously, though, you need to distract yourself. Dating someone else can provide that distraction, but so can reading, volunteering, doing things with friends, working on a hobby, playing sports, etc.

The only thing I would warn against is simply using another person only as a distraction. They have feelings, too.

My point is that the worst thing you can do is just sit around thinking about that person. Do anything, just don't do nothing.

Answer 7

Keep yourself busy and stop thinking about him, he's moved on and you need to also. Why are you hanging on to someone who was a MAJOR player, do you want more of the games that he obviously played with you? When you find yourself thinking about him, tell yourself to knock it off and then find something to do that will take your mind off of those thoughts and keep doing that until you no longer have thoughts of him. You deserve better than to waste your time thinking about someone who just played you. Good Luck.

Answer 8

Let's face it ..it's not going to be easy and everyone is different. I'm going through the same thing. I say focus on yourself for a bit...make yourself happy and only time will fix the problem. Good luck hun!

Answer 9

well realize how much of an donkey he is and he isnt worthy of your time, but it will take ahile, I'm still getting over my ex for cheating on me and I loved her with heart and soul. but you have to realize there are other people out there for so justtake it as best you can surround yourself with friends and talk it out thats what I've been doing, also dont lose track of more important things like work or school

Answer 10

By starting to date again.Girl whats wrong with you he's already had 3or 4 why waste your time on someone like that.