i really liked this girl for a couple of monthes. shes really nice, shes shy, and shes beautiful... about 3 months ago, she found out i liked her, and she said she wanted to be just freinds. to my surprise she went out with some guy that was into drugs and drinking (even though she wasn't like that) he cheated on her, and they broke up so i started to like her again, and we were spending more time together and she wasn't that shy anymore. The day before valentine's day, a friend told her about me liking her and she gave me the just friends thing again. i felt so bad, she wanted to know why i liked her, so i gave a friend of hers a full page note, and it was really heartfelt. i put everything i felt about her down on that letter, it said some stuff like "she has the perfect personality a person could ever have" and "besides personality, she is beautiful, but that doesn't matter because the inside is what i love". some other girls read it and the loved it. (more in next details)
2007-02-23 16:41:54 · 13 answers · asked by piano_man_969 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and the girls said that any girl would be stupid not to love me after that... and they said that was the sweetest thing a guy could do. anyways, the girl i like got the note, and she said it was fake, and she didn't like it and she thought it was bad. but the truth is, it wasn't fake whatsoever it was all true. any advice from anyone? i'd realy appreciate it. thanks...
ps. do you think all she wanted was just a compliment from me?
2007-02-23 16:42:38 · update #1
You are blind man she's nor as innocent and nice and "shy" as you think she is. On the outside maybe, inside, forget it man. She knows what's going she knows how you feel that's for sure, she's just finding excuses bs this bs that. She knows man, and honestly she does not care, girls do not like nice guys who they can have, girls like guys who they CANT have, that's life man. The best thing you can do is pretend you don't like her and perhaps ignore her, but don't over do it, just give her a taste. I dunno about you it works for me girls don't fall for nice guys, that's why I'm a a$$hole (but I'm nice inside and sensitive) but it works a girl gives a compliment and you kinda blow it off like it does mean much she'll come back for more. It works for me so maybe it'll work for you? If it doesn't she's not interested PERIOD and just wants attention and reassurance, people always like someone who gives them a compliment and makes them feel like a beautiful superman. Hope this helps?
2007-02-23 16:51:47 · answer #1 · answered by Dispirited 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had alot of male friends go through this exact situation. Theres so many types of women, Its hard to give you the best advice since I really don't know her personally. But, what I can say is, be honest with her, and completely honest about the way you feel about her, definately let her know where you stand. You need to figure out whether or not you can have just a 'friend' relationship with her and push away the feelings you may have for her aside, in order to have that friendship. And, definately, let her know if yall stay friends, that she can't be all "close-close" or even cuddly, because well, that would re-kindle feelings, and then you'd be in the same situation. Honesty is the key in any relationship or friendship. Hope that helps a little bit.
2007-02-23 16:49:14 · answer #2 · answered by invisiblekisses2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone wants to be complimented. It's called "Affirmation".
You should watch movies like "Fast Times at Ridgemont High" and "The Last American Virgin". I think they relate.
ALl girls are stupid, by the way, and like jerks because jerks are more exciting, confident and aggressive. IT is not until a woman get screwed-over by enough jerks that she starts looking for the nice guys and usually by then she has been married, divorced, left with several children and the pieces of her life to pick-up that she gave up to marry this jerk in the first place and that is when the nice guy who has always been there suddenly becomes the man of her dreams... And no I am not bitter!!!
The point is you are young and you will feel this way again. Whenever you do and with this girl you should feel free to tell her about how you feel but not in an intense stalker way. just try to spend time with her and relax so that your feelings for her will accidentally and unplanned come out and help you say the right thing at the right time. Just be happy to spend time with her but realize the sad truth that unrequited love is a part of life and we all have to go through it several times. Odds are that once yo find someone else and stop paying attention to her that she will notice the abscence of what you gave her and then start to realize what she lost but until then don't wait for her. Spend time with her, sure, but also keep looking for someone who likes you now for who you are and realize that all this effort you are putting into this one girl keeps you from being the person you really are. Start hanging around those girls who liked you letter and let things happen as they will. A watched pot never boils and love happens when you least expected it. Focus on fixing up the rest of your life an d making friends. One day one of these friends will surprise you and tell you that she has feelings for you. Until then work on stuff women like such as being able to dance, play an instrument, get into sports and find a job cause women are expensive and you need to buy a good car and clothes. Sadly, women are also materialistic and shallow when it comes to first impressions but then again so are men. Be happy with yourself before worrying about being happy with someone else and don't "help" peopleto get them to like you; help people because helping people makes you feel good and is the right thing.
2007-02-23 16:56:06 · answer #3 · answered by Don Quesadia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok... I am going to be completly honest with you ok?
As a girl I can tell you that it was worng of her to say that your heartfelt letter was fake but she did tell you more than once that all she wanted was friendship... I know that is really hard to accept from someone that we like more than friends... But in the long run you should be glad that she did not take advantage of your feelings and mislead you to something that would never work... The truth is bad... But lies are even worse... You seem like an awesome guy.,... She is out there for you... Do not waste time and feelings on someone that will not appreciate and correspond to them ok?
Life moves on... and when you least expect she (the right one) will be there...
SKM
2007-02-23 16:48:43 · answer #4 · answered by braziliangirl120184 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I MUST agree with other answer GET some balls dude dont give a note to her friend hand it to her yourself .You must be a teenager Listen you have a lot to learn be honest to yourself and to any girl you like women have a lot of respect for someone who will tell them in person while looking into her eyes thats scary I know and it will hurt a lot if you get shot down , but at least it will show your a man . You may think that Im being hard on you but THis Q couldve been asked by me 10 years ago LEARN YOUNG SKYWALKER
2007-02-23 17:44:45 · answer #5 · answered by Rick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, i would love you too if i read that, well the reason why she believes it's fake is either becuase she was told a bunch of lies from her last realtionship or she thinks that you would cheat on her too. i don't think that she does not like you becuase of the letter, it's becuase of her last boyfriend. since she keeps saying that she likes you as a friend she takes your friendship seriously and wants it to stay that way. the reason why she says that is becuase she thinks you guys would be better friends than more than that because you guys share so much in common. i think if you just respect her wishes then she will like you. give it time, she is just going through a phase.
2007-02-23 16:51:59 · answer #6 · answered by Kidd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this girl obviously isn't as bright as you think. I wouldn't ever think that a boy who wrote that is a fake. And by the way, she also went out with a drug/drinking person. Now how bright can she be? You need to move on. She's not worth it.
2007-02-23 16:46:20 · answer #7 · answered by ACE© 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone who meets us doesnt become our beloved always, and i think u loved her luking at her beauty n so on, she might be really good friend of urs, yes it is said that girls n guys can never be friends, but as per i hav experienced its not so. i hav a boy frnd who is a good frnd of mine, n i share every feelings of mine with him, n does the same, w r more close than a lovers but w r just a frinds, w say that w love each other, but it is not a love b/w two beloveds its a love b/w two frnds.
in the same way ur girl might have seen a gud friend in u n not a beloved, she might share every feelings of her with u just becoz she thinks u as more than her beloved or her family members, every love in this world are not the love b/w two beloved, dont w hav love for our frnds, parents, teachers n so on. do w love just for our benifits.
friend, she hav never betrayed u, she was a gud frnd of ur n she will be gud frnd, its u who have misunderstud b/w love n frndshp.
so give her time, if she really finds a beloved in u she will tell u herself. i hope u will not go to loose ur frnd by misunderstanding her love towards u, she loves u yar but as a gud frnd.
2007-02-23 16:55:42 · answer #8 · answered by sweetu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously shes stuck up and thinks shes better than you. because why else would she keep saying just friends. basically she seems to want you to be there to cheer her up. she doesnt seem to want a relationship with you. i dont know why she wouldnt. you seem really sweet. and i agree with the girls that are calling her dumb for not liking you. i am really sorry that this girl wants to treat you this way. i promise one day you'll find the most amazing girl ever who thinks youre the most amazing guy ever. =] it might not happen right now....but just wait and you'll find her.
2007-02-23 16:49:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, she isn't in to you so move on and find a chick who is in to you. You can't make someone like you no matter how much you want them to.
2007-02-23 16:45:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋