with gurls....
Gee.. All he wants to do is play sports and watch T.V
I like for him to have more of varieties ..
Do I need to push him towards this direction ..or just leave him alone but that will break my heart?
2007-02-23 16:33:55 · 20 answers · asked by Polash 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
most Mothers would only dream of son like this, most mother would switch places with you in a heart beat. Thank your lucky stars!!!!!!!
2007-02-23 16:37:18 · answer #1 · answered by birdsdafly 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your son is 19 years old where is he going to go clubbing, he is not 21. Why does it matter so much that he isn't doing these things. You should be blessed to know where your child is and that he is healthy and alive. I knew several people who died when I was in high school and their parents would move mountains for them to be alive and to see them just chilling around the house. Your child is doing what makes him happy and that should be satisfaction enough for you. A lot of the kids that go to clubs not only drink, but do drugs also. Some of these people make a lot of bad decisions and decide to drive after drinking and either end up dead themselves or someone else. Why would it break your heart for your child to stay in and do good with his life instead of running out on the streets drinking and do gosh knows what. Love your child for who he is and not what he does.
2007-02-24 06:31:25 · answer #2 · answered by dr. madison 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does it break your heart? He's only 19. Some guys are just more introverted. They still find a good girl to date & maybe later marry. His not drinking and clubbing all the time should be seen as a good thing. At least you know he's not out there getting a bunch of girls knocked up. If you push him, he'll probably push back. He'll find his way eventually.
2007-02-24 00:40:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have a good 19 year old son who likes sports plays sports likes his home and stays home with his family and watches T.V. and you wish he was out there DRINKING, and Partying, and God knows what elsing. What is wrong with this question?
I hope some parents of children who are in trouble answer you so that you can see how lucky you are.
Why not do something with your son that will interest both of you together instead of watch T.V. but don't send him out to get drunk and get lost in the dark dark world we live in and all pray that none of our sons get trapped in that macho gang world.
2007-02-24 00:42:48 · answer #4 · answered by sneetcher 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be thankful he's not out doing all that crap at his age. Not many people are like him. You shouldn't be worried. I only got drunk once when I was a teenager, and I have my reasons on not liking it.
There's nothing wrong with your son. Infact, I applaud your son for not wanting to follow the crowd of "cool kids" just so people will think he's "cool".
An eighteen year old that graduated with me was killed by drinking in 2005. Is this seriously what you would rather your son do?
2007-02-24 00:43:27 · answer #5 · answered by Annamarie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The question is not what "should" he be doing but is what he is doing making him happy. If he is happy it shouldn't break your heart that he is doing it. My son would rather read than socialize and once i accepted the fact that he is happier doing that, I was much happier too. Don't worry about him. He will do other things if and when it is right for HIM. Remember, you are two different people with different interests. What would make you happy at that age is different than what works for him.
2007-02-24 01:05:33 · answer #6 · answered by Erica G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with that? Are you saying you want him to start drinking?
It sounds like he's into positive things, whereas for most people, age 18-24 is where you're most likely to screw up your life with a mistake. Leave him alone.
Anyway, he's a grown man so pushing him will only make him resent you.
2007-02-24 00:42:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
push him toward the positive things and get him out of the drinking and things like that. it is the best thing that you could ever do for him. be there for him and support him. tell him how it makes you feel and get him to understand that doing what he is doing is not going to get him where he needs to go in life. it may take a while but i think you can do it. you are a great parent for being concerned about your child. you wouldn't believe the amount of people i know who would just let their kid go and not worry about them. give yourself a pat on the back. hope this helps. good luck.
2007-02-24 00:40:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What's more important, your broken heart or him making mistakes that millions of people his age are making?
Let well enough alone. He could be out there getting drunk and trying to drive home. Perhaps he could be getting hooked on drugs, or getting all kinds of girls pregnant, or getting a deadly disease.
In this day and age, your son sounds like a model teenager. Be grateful that he isn't bringing home more headaches and problems than you can handle.
2007-02-24 00:44:52 · answer #9 · answered by Awesome Bill 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone...he is 19, that is an adult. He has the right to live his life the way he chooses...you're heart is just going to have to break.
2007-02-24 03:53:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it kinda hits a nerve with me when you say that. I break my mom's heart and I am in my 30's. I live a good life. I just have different priorities then her. I don't value what she values and that is 'wrong ' to her... Let him be him. Quite frankly at that age I coudn't belive how immature the kids my age were... I din't want to hang with them.
2007-02-24 02:44:31 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋