my mom keeps getting drunk like tonite she and her bf were out in the front yard for 3 hrs drinking. last time she did that wit a previous bf he tried to kill her. im like scared now cause wat if this bf tries to do the same when they are drunk. how can i get my mom to stop getting drunk i dont want to be scared anymore.
2007-02-23 16:24:48 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i already have been drunk before and so have my brothers.
2007-02-23 16:29:08 · update #1
it dosnt matter if i am there or not she will still get drunk.
2007-02-23 16:30:17 · update #2
Emawee, you should move in with your dad. No wonder you are so depressed. If she is drinking and blaming you for what the dog did and refuses to do anything about your depression, you should move in with your dad so he can spoil you.
2007-02-23 23:22:42 · answer #1 · answered by Lori 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i saw ur qq i was gonna move on to another qq but i came back. Because i know how u feel. My mom was the same way when i was a teenager. I am now 28 and my mom has been 10 years sober so dont ever give up hope for ur mom ok?? I think u should call an aunt or ur grandma or ur grandpa and dont worry abt ur mom getting mad at u if she asks u why did that u just tell her the truth that u are afraid. she is your mom and its her job to protect u from being scared. Sometimes the bottle has control over a person and they need some help. tell ur mom to choose the bottle or u. Your mom does not need ot be getting drunk in front of you.
2007-02-23 16:45:43 · answer #2 · answered by melissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are going through. My mom was an alcoholic while I was growing up and still is till this day. Unfortunately you cannot make her stop no amount of preaching or fussing will make her quit if she is not ready. The only thing I can help you with is dont you do it anymore. I come from a long line of alcoholism and broke the cycle. I am sure someday you will want children and will not want to put them in the same situation. I am sure or I hope you love your mom but I am also sure you do not want to be like her and you have the courage to do that. Even though you cannot make her stop maybe you can talk with someone about how you feel. I would go talk to my school counselor it helped me alot. You have the choice to not be her but you dont have the same choice to make her stop her actions. I hope you get through this ok and please contact me if you need to talk about this I would love to help and listen.
2007-02-23 16:39:56 · answer #3 · answered by HOT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mum you don't like it when she's drunk. Ask her if she had any plans to quit drinking. If she does, then help her thru it. Give her the alcohol and make her dump it down the sink. If necessary, talk her into AA and join the class with her so she won't feel alone. Buy lots of fruits and make juices that you both can enjoy. But if she refuses to let go of her alcohol and admits loving to get drunk and all, tell her you don't want to have anything to do with her. Move out as soon as you can.
2007-02-24 02:09:53 · answer #4 · answered by Hanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been dealing with this since I was a kid. My mom has drank all of my life. Finally I broke down one day and told her that she needed to stop. I explained to her how it would affect me and my younger brother if something was to happen to her. You have to kind of force the reality upon her and see how she takes it. She could realize that she has a problem and do something about it, or she could have my mom's reaction and just not care at all. There's a reason people grow up, and I think it's to get away from things that we can't "help". I'm sorry for what your going through, and i'm sorry I can't help more. But like I said, you have to make her realize what's really going on around her, and see what she does. You can't force her to do anything, it's all her desicion...
2007-02-23 17:08:39 · answer #5 · answered by mighty1981mouse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what you can to get her into some rehab. explain to her how this makes you feel and that you are afriad that someday if she keeps up that she is going to be dead. i am so sorry that you have to go through this. no offense but don't ever follow in your mom'' footsteps. hopefully she will listen to you and get some help. alcoholism is an addiction and she is not going to be able to quit without help. do whatever you can to make this happen. i feel for you. hang in there. if you ever see that your mom has been abused, call the cops on the boyfriend. your mom may be mad at you for doing it but i think it is a small price to pay to keep her from possibly being killed. hope this helps. you are a great person for wanting to help your mom. believe it or not, some kids would just let her go and not worry about it. good luck in the future.
2007-02-23 16:34:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
MAybe she has the problem known as alchohaulism. It is when you love alcholhaul, and you are sort of addicted. Something is wrong with your mind when it comes to alcahaul. Speak up. Tell someone you trust; a school councler, or anyone else. YOu need help.
2007-02-23 17:41:23 · answer #7 · answered by skalkosa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically you need to go in to detail to find out,
why she is like this?
was she the same before?
If So,what turned her to the present situation?
She may not be the original what you see her at present,may be some sort of bad experience in her life might have led her to this....she needs good counselling.try and take help from some professional people in this matter and try to find out the real answers for above questions i am sure you will be able to dealt with the situation.All the best and my best wishes for your success in your wonderful and nice gesture to bring back your mom to normalcy.You are A TRUE DAUGHTER.
2007-02-23 16:37:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Make sure as soon as you can you let someone know about this, a clergy member, school councilor if it has to be the police, you do not belong in the middle of this, you cannot help her she is a alcoholic and she has to want to quit on her own and after AAA and lots of counseling.
2007-02-23 16:36:41 · answer #9 · answered by sidekick 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Have you told her your concerns about her drinking problem? If you have already, but she doesn't seem to care, then pray for her. If she wants to keep getting drunk there really isn't much you can do about it. That sucks, I know. I'm sorry you have to deal with this situation. You can go on-line and see the sickening, gross pictures of a heart, liver, and kidneys affected by alcohol consumption. Show them to your mom. Maybe it will get her to think about her health. Good luck!!
2007-02-23 16:36:48 · answer #10 · answered by Karma 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋