Right now i am single, have been for about 6 months now, and the idea of getting into another relationship with a girl who has mood swings and tries to drag me along to go purse shopping and makes me listen to all of her paranoid delusions about people plotting against her just makes me sick to my stomach. As far as i can tell, this is the average type of relationship that i could get into. I can't stand this crap anymore but yet i don't want a life of loneliness and celibacy. What do i do? Hookers? Are there girls out there who are just calm and normal? Who don't talk my ear off for hours about nonsense or try to destroy my confidence. Are there women like that or am i just hoping for something that isn't real?
2007-02-23 16:16:37 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey Dude! Being single has its own benefits as well.. You can do your things at your own pace, plan your own targets.... Go wherever you wish and do whatever you want. It may be easier said than done. But Trust me, when you enjoying yourself and aren't always hoping that a good and nice gal will happen to pop by, things will look much brighter!
There are always close friends when you need to borrow a listening ear.. Please don't turn to hookers just for pleasure nor go out with gals that are out to destory your confidence. It seems that this girl that you are referring is only asking you out for companionship and she knows that you are able to tolerate all her nonsense.
There are definitely normal girls out there and remember that the ocean is soooo big! Its just that the time is not right to meet your Ms Right... but even though, life each day to its fullest.. Life is short and you are definitely in charge of what you do..
Females will have mood swings from time to time.. and that is understandable.. but to take it out on a poor friend.. such as throwing tantrums on you, its absolutely un-called for.. Why don't take up a new sport or see what are the current hobbies that you have? Play golf, tennis, water sports or maybe travel... These are some of the areas to enjoy yourself and being single really has its own advantages... Trust me! Not being attached isn't always a bad thing. That is a thing of the past.. ok, dude??
Last but not least, NOT all women are like that.. Trust me.. And definitely whatever hopes or dreams that you may have, they are still unreachable.
I have guy friends who still single and they are happy being singles.. Of course, when either party is feeling down, we are always there for each other and we will always be close mates..
Based on our close bond & understanding, they are not really bothered with loneliness because to rush into a relationship, you may end up being more hurt than ever... Try to look on the bright side, and have fun!
2007-02-23 16:35:39 · answer #1 · answered by DriftGal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Successful relationships require give and take--there will be times that you will be inconvenienced and don't want to do something, but news flash, that has to happen to achieve a successful relationship. Have you ever turned the tables and thought that maybe the girl could care less about a hockey game or fast cars, or dude things? Um, no. They don't care about those things, but they go along because it's part of the give and take. And you've probably heard it a million different ways--not every girl you go out with is the mirror image of your ex. Sounds like your ex may be having "paranoid delusions" of people plotting against her just to get your attention Two words--high maintenance. If this is the average type of relationship you keep getting into, clearly there's a common thread you need to identify upfront. Short answer--if you're with the right person, you won't be so miserable purse shopping or having long conversations. You're just hooking up with the wrong types of women. Consider looking outside the scope of how you meet people and identifying what you DO want in a girlfriend. If it's just sex, then hookers are probably your best bet.
2007-02-24 00:35:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Six months ago, I was with this guy who is the total opposite of what I hope to find in a boyfirend/partner. Things didn't do well as I have hoped, I tried to make the relationship work though. Looking for someone who will complete you is just but an overrated notion. My point is why be with somebody you don't feel you've connected with? Talk with her, air your sentiments. If that won't work,be prepared to spend some quality time with yourself. You'll manage ;-)
2007-02-24 00:52:20 · answer #3 · answered by shimmering_lee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quick fiX..hookers work..Use a condom. Long run...take your time there are sane girls out there. Look at her lifestyle. Is she independent? Does she have hobbies, friends, and other interests that can occupy her time? Is she emotionally stable? LOL Maybe, you should try church or someone who is happy. Happy girls tend not to be so delusional because they are too busy for that! What girl would put her man through hell to go purse shopping..most men hate shopping with woman..LOL I'd rather shop with a gf or alone than take a guy with me...LOL They aren't into that! LOL However, I'm old and eXperienced and I know men better..Look for someone with more eXperience...You'll find a sane one! LOL Not all women are like that ..just like not all men just want one thing!..LOL SEX! ha ha ha
2007-02-24 00:39:55 · answer #4 · answered by asiansmile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no no dear, we definitely exist... I mean yea I have my share of bad moments, but so does everyone else. I am "calm and normal" as you put it. I wish you the best of luck finding a special girl. And no, I wouldn't recommend hookers. It might be nice in the moment but later on it's not going to make you feel any better.
2007-02-24 00:21:27 · answer #5 · answered by Green-eyed Nikki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is someone out there for you. There are girls that are calm, and don't try to make you deaf. You just have to be patient. Don't stand for girls who won't respect you like you respect them.
Your respect (should) = her respect.
if that makes sense.....
Good luck finding the right girl......
2007-02-24 00:21:23 · answer #6 · answered by Crappy Haircut Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How cynical you sound, better stick with the hookers.
2007-02-24 00:21:50 · answer #7 · answered by desirae m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seen that movie wedding crashers? I reckon you should give that a try.
2007-02-24 00:19:57 · answer #8 · answered by sunsetconmartini 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT SETTLE FOR SOMETHING THAT IS NOT RIGHT FOR YOU.
KEEP YPURSELF OPEN TO POSSIBILITIES SO WHEN THE RIGHT GIRL COMES ALONG YOU ARE READY TO BE WITH HER .
2007-02-24 00:20:33 · answer #9 · answered by Esperenza 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOOK when YOU really FAll in LOVE all that stuff wont bother you no more.
2007-02-24 00:21:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋