my gf is 22, and we have been going out for nearly 2 mths. However, these 2 mths have been hell for me and her as her mum is strongly disagree in our relationship in a dramatic fashion. The reason her mum doesn't like me was in the past when we were still friends, she used to bad-mouth me infront of her mother, as she is a really decent girl, things like drinking, clubbing and smoking is consider as really bad behaviour. However, as she get to know me more, she realised i am not as bad as she think and I have quit those bad habbit, but her mum already have the impression imprint in her mind even without meeting me. She has try to break off with me but unsuccessfully, and we always go back together after. We try to keep our relationship discretely but we know is hurting her and her parent. So we decided to call it off once again, but to please he mum is hurting me & her. I know not much I can do beside leaving her, but would like to hear anyone w/wo similar experience to advice! Thanks!
2007-02-23 16:06:08 · 9 answers · asked by kwing 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Obviously the issue isn't with her mom. it's with your G/F.
The fact that she bad mouthed you in the past is still sitting on her mother's mind.
Perception is one of the hardest things to change and unfortunately your G/F painted a pretty dim picture.
If you met the mother (several times) she might start to form a better opinion of you.
You need to do things for her (chores, help around house or groceries etc..) something that will allow her to see the real you.
2007-02-23 16:12:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't been-yet, please consider asking her mum for an appt. (lunch) with you at a nice restaurant. And, if you can swing it, your girlfriend too. In fact, it would truly be best for her to come along as well. Your girlfriend also at some time (possibly before the lunch together with her mum), apologize to her mum for the badmouthing she did about you before. And, she needs to let her know how you have changed. Be willing and ready for her mum to ask you many questions. Or, she might just sit back, and listen and watch how you are. I wish you and your girfriend the best. Take care.
2007-02-23 16:30:48 · answer #2 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a very hard situation. Maybe you and her could remain being close as friends and try to get to know her parents. Maybe if her parents get to know you as a friend of thier daughter, once they realize your not a bad person your relationship will be a lot easier.
2007-02-23 16:13:24 · answer #3 · answered by Christy R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go over with a big bouquet of flowers for her mum. Tell her that you are very concerned because she has a bad opinion of you. Try to talk it out. Listen to what she has to say. Be very reasonable and polite. Tell her that you want her approval because it is important to you. You may be able to win her over. It doesn't hurt to try.
2007-02-23 16:11:57 · answer #4 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in line with danger you may attempt to rearrange some form of fancy dinner and be on your acceptable habit or tell your gf to talk to her dad and mom and discover out why your dating is bothering them sooooo lots
2016-10-01 21:45:28 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my parents were really awful to every boy any of us girls ever brought home.
TERRIBLE TO THEM.
I think its just their way. Stick it out if you really like her. Eventually the parents will see you for who you are.
2007-02-23 16:12:07 · answer #6 · answered by Esperenza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the mother and let her get to know you
2007-02-23 16:09:08 · answer #7 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with her and be gay.. find a guy!
2007-02-23 16:21:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE dont take it personal. PARENTS do that a lot.
2007-02-23 16:09:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋