A married guy at work flirts with me and I did not like him because he's rude to me sometimes. Recently I often fantasise about the guy having sex with me and I think about him often. I am a virgin and I wonder what sex is like with the guy as he's more experienced and it can be exciting but I don't want to ask him out.
2007-02-23 15:56:29 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
do not waste your time with him its okay to have an fantasy about this married man but sex is not has great with someone you dont even care about has far has the real thing goes it is often a huge dissappointment!please save your first time with someone really special not with someone just out to use you for sex trust me i am 44 years old and been down that road before myself not worth it !leave him to his wife!
2007-02-24 04:53:58 · answer #1 · answered by Alton L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Genevieve...I'd guess this guy is quite a bit older than you. And he's probably having his fun with others too. He sounds like a classic married bore who just wants his ego massaged. If he had any respect for you, why is he rude?
There are plenty of attractive guys out there who aren't married. Ask yourself this. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life with this guy permanently etched into your memory? 'Cos the first love lasts in the mind like no other. Get him out of your head Girl...
2007-02-23 16:09:05 · answer #2 · answered by Stealthbong 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, imagine if he was your husband and someone was fantasizing about him. Some guys are pigs and will flirt with girls even though they're commited to someone else. You're probably a pretty girl that he wants to just flirt with, but if he's rude to you then you shouldn't like him like that. I think that you should have sex with someone who really cares about you that you can actually have a relationship with. He's not going to leave his wife for you. I remember being in your same shoes but it's not worth it. :) Keep your special parts special.
2007-02-23 16:25:50 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
learn the hard side of life- we dont always get what we want,
How many times have you wanted that extra piece of cake- but dont want it on your thighs, so you cant have it, or when you were little you wanted that toy on tv, but you never got it..
Lifes some times hard, hard things happen but we live through them and gain understanding and friends, life is also a learning experience and can be rewarding if you let yourself grow and learn.
. If its love time will tell and he will come for you not the other way around.
If it is just sex, there are plenty more of em in the sea, go fishing. Its not worth destroying someone elses life.
2007-02-23 16:04:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Please don't act on these thoughts and feelings. It is not worth getting involved with a married man. You could get really hurt as a result of this type of affair and it is plain wrong to potentially break up a marriage. Imagine if you really fell in love with him and then he didn't leave his wife? Or you break up this marriage, get together with him, and then he leaves you for a young girl at work? If he cheats on his wife, he'll cheat on you too. Always remember, what goes around, comes around. You wouldn't want someone else to steal your hubby or boyfriend, right? Fantasies are ok, but don't act on them. Give someone really special your virginity. Make it special.
2007-02-23 16:03:39 · answer #5 · answered by Tree 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as your thoughts stay in your head it's ok to imagine sex with this man. If you want to feel god about yourself now & in the future you shouldn't take his flirting too seriously. Do not let yourself get into a situation where he thinks you want an affair, it could be very dangorous 4 you , him & his wife/ kids etc.Find yourself a nice simple single guy,who will love you & only you. Good luck.
2007-02-23 19:19:32 · answer #6 · answered by ROGER E 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will always remember you first time, so the question is when you look back on the night you lost your virginity, do you want to remember that it was with an a**hole who was already married? Besides, you'll enjoy it a lot more if you're in a steady relationship. Good luck in your decision.
2007-02-23 16:05:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you continue to remind yourself that he is married. you ask yourself if you would want some woman to ask your husband out if you were married? you realize that fantasizing is healthy and normal, but that getting involved with a married man is not healthy or is it morally right. Every time he tries to flirt with you, you ask about his wife, and/or children if they have any. Eventually he will get the message that you are very aware of his wife, as he should be, and that nothing will ever happen between the two of you.
2007-02-23 16:03:12 · answer #8 · answered by whatelks67 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was going to say seduce him but then i read your question. If you are still a virgin then don't have sex with this guy. You want your first time to be special and not to be with a married rude guy.
2007-02-23 16:00:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
two reasons why this is a bad thing.
a: he's married
b: you work w/ the guy..
The main issue is that you work w/ the guy (aside from his marraige, but..yah you dont wanna go dipping the pen into the company ink etc..b/c the ramifications of that can be much worse then just having a wife breathing down your neck looking to kill you..
Do yourself a favor, dont let it go beyond the fantasy, only replace dude's face w/ brad pitt (or angelina jolie)..
good luck
2007-02-23 16:02:07 · answer #10 · answered by m34tba11 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋