I have this problem - This guy & I were really interested in each other but we were always too shy to speak to one another. He would just look at me out of the corner of his eyes, then when I caught him he would turn his head fast. He was too shy to say hi to me.He would talk to others about how much he liked me but he wouldn't tell me.He always wanted to come see me but when he came, he wouldn't say anything...same routine over and over. Anyways, a month later someone told me that he said he was going to start talking to me this time. I didn't believe it b/c he always said that but nothing ever happened. So he asked me out when I saw him,when I said yes, he immediately started rubbing on me and askng to have sex with me. I didn't want to his excuse was 'this is what lovers do.' I said no so he stopped and said he wasn't mad but he was really quiet afterwards. I dumped him for that but I really miss him. Should I try it (the relationship) again or not? Please tell why.
2007-02-23 15:51:31 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it was very admirable of him to stop when you said stop. The reason he was quiet afterwards was because being a male his ego was shot down just a bit. Thats ok, he will get over it. I think you should give him another shot and just lay down some rules. He could be the one for you. I was more impressed that he respected you to stop. The comment he made " isn't this what lovers do", indicates to me, that he is perhaps a virgin. I think he is just as innocent as you, give it another shot.
2007-02-23 16:01:27 · answer #1 · answered by hbuckmeister 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't go down that alley again, just remain friends, he obviously just wanted to get you in the sack, and didn't have any intentions of having a meaningful relationship. Maybe if you remain friends for awhile and get to know each other a little better, a relationship may develop over time. Every relationship starts with being friends first.
2007-02-23 16:01:04 · answer #2 · answered by robotchic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, I've met a guy like this before, careful, some guys use girls to pump up their own ego. You don't deserve to be put into an unwanted position like that. You can try and talk it out with him, find out if thats the only reason he wants to date you. And if he can't come up with any reasons that are superficial, you deserve so much better so don't go settling for less.
I'm a very shy girl myself, so i know what it feels like not to get asked out, but your knight in shining armor will come soon. Don't settle for anything less hun.
Good luck
2007-02-23 16:01:11 · answer #3 · answered by toronto_leafs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. This guy is one to stay away from! It sounds like that is why he wanted to go out with you. The one reason only. Sorry. Besides, young lady, from a wiser lady, any relationship has to start as friends. He was disappointed that he didn't get to "do it" with you. Lovers are friends first. I'm sorry it turned out this way for you. There was a guy similar to that -that went out with me, and one night wanted to do his thing. I said no. I'm glad I said no. In the long run, he wasn't worth it. I wish you the best. Take care.
2007-02-23 16:01:49 · answer #4 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be shy, but this guy isn't--he's just socially inept. Why waste your time on a guy who clearly has no respect for you. If he want's to bump and grind, tell him to hit the ATM machine and head to the east side of town for a "paid date." Meanwhile, don't spend any energy missing this guy. The only thing you're missing is moving on to find someone who will appreciate & respect you.
2007-02-23 16:18:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your decision, but I'd say no. If he immediately started asking you for sex, it sounds like that was the main reason why he asked you out. Not because he wanted to get to know you better or anything, but specifically for sex. And thats disrespectful. You deserve better.
2007-02-23 15:57:26 · answer #6 · answered by MJ2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it might enhance the guy's esteem yet fairly, i attempted it two times and the two cases felt so humiliated... i in my opinion hated the journey. and incredibly, i does no longer do it lower back... adult men ought to have adequate balls to ask us out in the event that they actually like us and spare us the disgrace!!! Hehehe
2016-10-16 09:04:06 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as much as you think that it'll work i think that you shouldn't because it will only hurt you and you made the right decision to break up with him if he can't understand the fact that you don't want to without getting mad then he doesn't deserve you your way to good for him!
2007-02-23 16:00:50 · answer #8 · answered by Lily_Flowers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
luks like the guy is sexually desparate... normal human need.
But he has to respect your wishes instead of behaving like a dog.
Also, he is shy so its hard to talk these things out.. he wudnt respond if you try to confront him..
if you like him, you can start saying hi to him and start some normal chat... the only way I see around is to re-start it and not to hhasten.. let it flow naturally.
2007-02-23 15:58:53 · answer #9 · answered by masku darling 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt cuz what if sex is all he wants. and he will dump u just cuz u wont have sex with him. i wouldnt know matter how much u love him dont. jst be freinds.
2007-02-23 15:57:47 · answer #10 · answered by maranda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋