we're a perfect match for each other, and i know we both like each other. when i asked her out, her reason why she didn't want to go out was, i'm her best friend, she can tell me anything, but doesn't want to ruin our relationship. so do you think she just wants to wait, or that there's no chance we'll date?
2007-02-23 15:45:04 · 22 answers · asked by redreturns31 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For all of those who have said, move on, get another girl
that's just it
there really isn't another girl that i can find like her
maybe it's just me, but i can't just move on
my friends told me to go for it, one of em said that she liked me after he talked to her
2007-02-23 16:07:50 · update #1
one last addition
my friend, who's very knowledgeable about dating said that she might not know exactly if she likes someone, and stuff related to that
and what i meant by, there isn't any other girl out there
i'm not exactly the guy every girl wants to date
i have some acne
but other than that, i'm not that bad
i play basketball, football, i'm 5'11 and 135ish
it's just, i've never been this close to going out with a girl, there hasn't been a girl i've crushed on that's come this close to me
2007-02-23 16:17:29 · update #2
theres always hope, but i would'nt count on it.....i happen to be in the same situation and have been in it for the last 2 years....it's really f ucked up......but you never know......however when most women say that its because they really mean it.
2007-02-23 15:50:18 · answer #1 · answered by fox mulder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually when a girl seems persistent about that, she is. Chances are slim you will go out later. Stick to the friendship. Those are pretty great too. However, if you still want to give it a shot, you are going to need to step up your game a notch. Make a change in your appearance. Do something special for her. find ways to get closer to her. No guarantees though. I have had relationships where I am still very good friends with. But, not everyone is capable of doing that. So, be careful it doesn't backfire on you, and don't push it too hard. That friendship can last much longer than a lot of relationships. And be more valuable.
2007-02-23 23:57:46 · answer #2 · answered by TopCatt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she likes you. As a friend.
Face it, the 'lets just be friends' line is the kiss of death. Whether or not the other person actually means to continue being your friend, it is very clearly saying "I am not romantically interested in you, but thanks."
I could name off a number of guys who I would be 'perfect matches' with. If love and relationships were a simple matter of arithmetic (sensitive+funny+cute=happy life forever), then wouldn't that be easy? However, it isn't. You can be a perfect match for someone, but if they don't feel that spark, if it isn't there, then there's nothing that can be done.
That spark between two people is the one thing in a relationship that, I believe, you cannot make happen. It's either present or not. And that spark is what makes a relationship really worthwhile.
Move on. She's very clearly told you she's not interested, and if you continue to pursue her, not only will you not succeed, you will drive her away from any sort of friendship with you.
2007-02-23 23:53:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was really good friends with a guy friend of mine and I could tell he wanted to be more than just friends. However, I didn't feel the same way. I loved him like a brother. I will never see him any other way. He was like my best friend as well and would have been perfect for me BUT in my heart - I just didn't feel it and still don't today. This was just my experience - I'm not sure about your girl and how she feels. The only advice that I can give you is to continue to be her friend and dont ask for anything more - You may push her away. In the future if she feels different - Trust me - she will come to you - she knows how you feel.
2007-02-23 23:55:13 · answer #4 · answered by kajungirls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully, I dont know. Ive seen things go both ways. I went out with one of my best friends once, and then we got into a fight and broke up and never spoke again. However, Ive also seen it where my other friend didnt want to go out with me because she didnt want to ruin our friendship. So it could go either way. But if you are really curious, ask her. If she can tell you anything, then she probably wont mind telling you why she said no. But just some advice, you two probably wont be going on any dates anytime soon. Sorry. Hope I could be a help.
2007-02-23 23:50:54 · answer #5 · answered by unreal_punk_rocker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The chance is much higher that you'll go out in the not-so-near future.
Move on, but keep an eye out for signs that thing might have changed with her.
There have been at least three women in my life who took (close to) a decade each to figure out they wanted to be with me.
2007-02-24 00:45:58 · answer #6 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same thing with my best guy friend... he was the only one that really ever understood me... but when we were both finally honest with each other about how we felt we tried going out and both screwed it up royally. while we are still very very close, i dont think it will ever be quite the same as before...
this is probably what she is afraid of... take it slow but assure her that no matter what you will always be friends... she might not know that and believe me... its a lot to risk...
best of luck to you.
2007-02-23 23:56:01 · answer #7 · answered by runningballerina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a chance this would happen; a date. So moving on...this seems a polite way for her to tell you that she is not going to date you ever cause there seems to be something " missing ". she is not your friend if cannot tell your what the real deal is;seems to me that you would like to really like to know. take as a learning experience and move; there great ladies awaiting for you still yet to be discovered!!
2007-02-24 00:05:15 · answer #8 · answered by albere64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i am in the same situation, i have a guy friend i know he likes me and i like him.weboth like the same stuff but people would notice the difference between us.i have asked him out before but he said lets just be friends.he said it was nothin personal.
but you could still go out with her i mean there is a good chance.. and if you guys were ment to be together then you guys will end up together
2007-02-23 23:51:31 · answer #9 · answered by Taylor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's a chance, but reality says being friends after a bad realtionship ending is unlikely. I understand both sides seing as I have been on both. See how things go and maybe if you guys get closer you can try again. JUST DON'T PUSH IT.
2007-02-23 23:50:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have feelings for her that she cannot meet based upon what might or might not happen. If you both went out, don't you think that both of you would do all you can to see the relationship grow? I know you would, but would she?
2007-02-23 23:56:06 · answer #11 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋