They seem to want to just rush in and do it, no passion what so ever. I mean, like spending an hour kissing someone from head to toe and massaging them, sensual stuff like that. Any ideas?
2007-02-23 15:39:52 · 10 answers · asked by lilybell 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am a guy and would consider myself an expert on selfish sex.
For a long time I would "run" though sex like a race.
Somethings that changed me.
1) Having a women tell me flat out what she wanted, BUT not in a way that crushed me and not during the act
2) Having said women understand that sometimes guys like it quick and ditry. She allows for "quickies" before work and the likes sometimes. That way we both "get" what we want....
3) She also would wear more cloths until I started to get the picture that I better take my time undressing her
4) Falling on my *** in love with a women I want to please more than I wanted to please myself
5) She would take her time on things that mattered to me and then would attatch that to sex. Sounds werid but it worked on me. Cook dinner and make him feel like a man. Then guide him....
6) I think another thing (Slighty embarrasing) was that I just assumed that if a women was not having the big O then the sex was not fun. It made me edgy and feel like a failure. I would push to hard and go to fast. Then I found out the often times the closeness is what women truly crave. Knowing that made me slow down. As odd as it sounds by not trying as hard I finally managed to get the result I wanted.....
2007-02-23 15:56:37 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Depends on your relationship with the guy..how well you know him and what type of lover he is. All men differ, but for the most part if a man is in love with you and wants to see you seXually fulfilled he will do almost anything to make you feel good! A lack of passion and a lack of taking their time shows that the guy just wants to "get his" and has no concern about how you are feeling or if you are pleasured. My eX bf made every attempt to make me feel pleasured..It made him happy to "get me off." It was his duty...he enjoyed it. He wanted to kiss, caress, lick me all over my body. They should want to do it. If he is into you he will be into "making love" a long session not just a wham bam thank you maam. You need to find a different man or one that enjoys pleasuring a woman..there are ones out there that won't stop until you reach the "big O." They are out there and once you find it....it's so utterly AMAZING when someone takes that much time and effort to make you feel so damn good. I think I got lucky...LOL...
2007-02-23 16:06:33 · answer #2 · answered by asiansmile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about most men, but I had a bf that wow! Every time. Have you asked your man why he is in such a hurry? Have you let him know how you feel, about wanting this whole thing to last longer, and be more enjoyable for you? Communication is so very important in relationships. Maybe if you do to him, what (or similar to) you want from him, he may get more of an understanding of your needs. You could possibly let him know that on a certain evening, it's you and him, and a night of romance. Maybe a candle light dinner (can be sandwiches and soup if you want), then, oooh la la! Communication is so important. So, please, start this with a talk with him, letting him know of your needs, wants, etc., and then maybe showing him by example to him. I wish you the best. Take care.
2007-02-23 15:56:03 · answer #3 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are different than women and most need to be trained to do the foreplay thing. If not trained properly they only need a few minutes of sex to get off and their done. I was trained to like foreplay for an hour or so and wouldn't want it any other way now. It is so enjoyable getting the girl off a bunch of times before I even put it in.
2007-02-23 15:57:40 · answer #4 · answered by 55 and trying 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow .. You sure have not been with the right man yet.
Find one that adores beautiful women worships them and his
only goal in life is to please and fulfill them so that you will state
he was the best sex ever.. The art of Love is indeed
exotic and sensual Your last sentence above turned me up
20 degrees..I am taken right now though.. Take Care..
2007-02-23 16:11:03 · answer #5 · answered by Robert B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just your partner. Not allpeople are like that. Some actually are passionate about actually having a relationship rather than just intercourse.
2007-02-23 15:44:52 · answer #6 · answered by 0dd1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Outside of marriage, men are only after one thing. SEX! So if you want love to go with it, you must make him wait until marriage so his true love will develop instead of just his hormones, lust, and penis gets satisfied and he loses interest in you. Studies prove that men and women that have sex prior to marriage are much more prone to divorce.
2007-02-23 15:51:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
100 % it is just your partner.something is wrong there,for sure. Passion need to come natural from both.Seems he has not really enough interest in you.You need to teach him how to do it better.Good question.
2007-02-23 15:51:12 · answer #8 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is SO NOT only your partner. Lots of men are like that. Not all men, but a lot. You are not alone.
2007-02-23 15:46:58 · answer #9 · answered by Kaitelia 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's just your man.
2007-02-23 15:43:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋