I'm 23 and have never been asked out by a guy. There have been a few that I was intersted in at school (at a university in Arizona). I approached them first, and we would talk throughout the semester but that was it. I tried to be obvious that I was interested without coming on too strong but it's never reciprocated. I'm friendly to everyone, and I like meeting people, but guys don't approach me. My friends will tell me that there are guys who think I'm attractive, but I don't know who they are because they won't talk to me. Every day at least a few random people (mostly older men or women) will comment on my looks and say that I'm beautiful. I don't think I am, and now I'm starting to think people feel sorry for me and that's why they say it. Anyway, I know it takes more than looks to attract a guy...I think I have a good personality...I'm not stupid, I study a lot and I like to learn...Seriously do you think I am the problem? Any suggestions?
2007-02-23 15:36:45 · 13 answers · asked by trenchwatch 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Find a guy you like and ask them out.I think in todays society that is acceptable.
2007-02-23 15:42:09 · answer #1 · answered by Jim C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It appears to me that you are looking too hard...just go out with your friends and have fun, and when you least expect it, you will be approached by someone who is interested in YOU, instead of you being interested in them and approaching them. Most average guys are intimidated by an educated woman, so don't come off as being so educated, let that be something he learns after he's gotten to know you personally. As far as your personality, does it include humor? You may have a wonderful personality, but you may not be letting out your humor side for the world to see, because of the things that you like to do, study and learn, may be keeping you too serious on the outside. The next time you are out, keep an eye on yourself and see if you are laughing, telling funny stories and really having a good time, or are you just sitting there people watching and letting life pass you by? Just a few things for you to think about, it never hurts to tweak your personality. You are only 23, you have lots of time to find the right one for you.
2007-02-23 15:53:48 · answer #2 · answered by robotchic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just a suggestion- maybe you should try to be more outgoing and more open to not only to other's feelings but also your OWN feelings. It is not absolutely necessary for a guy to like you first before you like him. Maybe you need to be less self-concious and let yourself go a little bit. Don't focus on getting asked out as much and work more on actually getting to know the people you meet. Eventually, you will meet someone who you feel a connection with and him to you. Remember, it's not a "problem." You are who you are. If you try to be someone you are not because you think you are " the problem", you might meet someone who is attracted to your false personality. Do you really want that?
2007-02-23 15:46:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well..maybe you are just meeting the wrong kind of people or people don't find you approachable. Are you self confident and outgoing? Are you a good conversationalist? Do you have good flirting skills? Are you happy about life? Men approach women who are independent and happy. They don't like women who look like they want a bf. I mean as long as you are doing your "own thing" and enjoying life you will meet a lot of people along the way. Keep going out..with friends, movies, concerts, parks, gyms, just do what you enjoy doing and you will meet someone. You are young and nothing is wrong with being single. People look at it like it is so bad! Why? You can do what you want when you want and the best part you don't have arguments like other couples! LOL Just be HAPPY! Guys gravitate towards those kind of women. No drama queens please.
2007-02-23 15:54:02 · answer #4 · answered by asiansmile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for the first move, thats how i get my boys, im smart, an athlete, and 100% clean person, people at my school think im all stuck up, because of the way i dress, but im not, i just have good clothing senses, but if i were you, i would put yourself out there a lil more, start wearing shirts that have lettering on them, so guys will be attracted to something on you for atleast a minute, and hey if they look longer, talk to them, or you say that your friends are saying that guys think your attractive, then let them set you up on say a "blind date" with that person then, i tried that and it worked out just fine, well i wish you the best of luck
2007-02-23 15:42:47 · answer #5 · answered by just_right_for_u33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same here, i'm 15 and that i seem approximately 18 with none make up or hair and while i'm finished up i can pass for 20. no longer too many adult adult males my age seem too fascinated yet many juniors and seniors at my college are, there are a bunch of fellows who attempt to talk to me on a daily basis in college and while they study i'm 15 from their friends they cant have faith it and that they've asked me earlier whether it rather is real. while i'm out with my friends older adult adult males in there 20s or 30s will seem at me and verify me out and attempt to talk to me, i dont dress slutty in any respect so that is no longer that, i do even nonetheless have a solid physique, I definitely have an hour glass yet and nevertheless skinny via fact of my bone shape. i think of motives why older adult adult males are attracted to me is via the fact i'm 5 foot 11 and maximum adult adult males my age are shorter than that. only forget approximately approximately it that's what i do, properly i dont forget approximately with regard to the seniors and juniors however the older adult adult males i do.
2016-11-25 20:14:51 · answer #6 · answered by sutkus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, i'm a high schooler and i feel the same way. every girl thats even acting like she liked me was really just flirting to get attention. there is someone out there for u, believe me! i dont have any tips cause i'm a high schooler and dont have much experience just wanted it to encourage you! i have no doubt that u r beautiful. some of my friends that r girls think the same way, they keep bringing up everything that they see wrong with themselves when they r actually very good looking!
2007-02-23 15:44:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get together with some friends who provide some honest feedback as to how you come across to people;they could ask there friend with out letting them know who you are to "test" you and see what happens. If your best friends agree to do this.... you must promise that you will listen to what they have to say and not bite there hair off
2007-02-23 15:46:17 · answer #8 · answered by albere64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you just have to tell the guy. Right now their is this chick in my chemistry class who sounds just like you. We're lab buddies and we talk a lot. I'm really starting to like her, but if she doen't say anything about wanting to go out, I doubt I'll ever ask her.
2007-02-23 15:45:31 · answer #9 · answered by __ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fate works in mysterious ways. Maybe you haven't dated anyone yet because they aren't "the one." When you find a guy worth dating, you'll know, and things will happen.
2007-02-23 15:42:50 · answer #10 · answered by The Goddess of Demons 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋