Lately, I've really become aware of my mom getting older. She's starting to have problems with her hearing, and her memory is not quite as sharp as it used to be. I'm only 23, and I don't like thinking about my mom getting older because it means I have to think about her dying. I realize that these are the kinds of fears little kids have; but now that I really see the signs that her age is catching up with her, it brings them all back.
Can anyone who's watched his or her parents age give me advice about how to cope with it, and maybe gain a little bit of peace about it?
2007-02-23 15:32:29 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
We all age.
The good news is that more and more people are living at lot longer.
The average age for a woman is around 85.
If you're only 23 I suspect she'll be around for a while.
2007-02-23 15:46:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 29 ...my mom passed away in Feb 2004 and she would have been 46 the next month.
If I could go back and do anything with my mom, I would want to just spend as much quality time with her as possible. Laugh with her, love her, watch her grow old and love the fact that she was still alive, and make sure that she knew with everything that I am that I love her more than she could ever know.
We all grow older every day...it's something that we can't nor will we ever change. It's just life. BUT we CAN enjoy our family while they are here. Cherish the moments that we have and drink it all in. Pictures are worth a thousand words. Take lots of them.
Just love her ...her story is not over yet so don't think about the end.
2007-02-23 19:52:34 · answer #2 · answered by Crystal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to how you are feeling. Not only is my mother aging she is now 65 but she is also unhealthy. That being said I can tell you that I literally stressed out for almost 2 decades after her first stroke worried that she wouldn't be here much longer. How I wish I could regain those years and enjoy them without worry.
You know 2 years ago I spent 2 weeks in the PICU of a children's hospital I can tell you that I learned a very valuable lesson..age doesn't = life. I guess what I'm trying to say that there is never a guarantee that anybody is going to be here tomorrow..you could walk outside and get hit by a car etc..Enjoy life to it's fullest. Live your life and treat everybody as if tomorrow isn't coming. If you do that you'll never have regrets!
As far as watching them age..I guess I finally told myself that it's all part of life. There are times that it's hard and yet strange enough there are times that it's almost comforting to know that they are human and vulnerable just as I am...does that make any sense? They aren't "The Parents" they are "my parents which are everyday people".
Enjoy them..Enjoy your life..An old Italian Neighbor of mine told me this and I pass it on..
Worry is like a rocking chair..it gives you something to do but doesn't get you anywhere.
I hope this helps.
2007-02-23 16:06:08 · answer #3 · answered by missourishol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your negative thoughts will only make things worse. We all age it's apart of life. Instead of dwelling on the fact that age is catching up with her and the thought of her dying why not enjoy the time that you do have with her because you never know what tomorrow will bring.
2007-02-23 15:54:29 · answer #4 · answered by luscious0071 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man.. well every1 grows old at some point of time and u just gotta accept the fact.. i know therez this inner fear which just brings the bad thoughts 2 ur mind but try 2 cope wid it... if u r really worried about ur mom then spend more time wid her and believe me she'll like it 2...
2007-02-23 16:11:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly dont have that negative thinking in your mind....its bad...they too got the same fear as you when they were young..now you are taking their position...treat them the best you can like never before...appreciate them while their still around you....bear in mind dont ever promised youself tat you will wake up tomorrow..you wont know wats going to hapen next...
2007-02-23 15:49:18 · answer #6 · answered by thinkerz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am only 12 and my mom died last week she was 51. my brother is at war and my other brother is i dont know where and my other brother is at collage and my dads always at work i live by my self most of the time all i have now is me and my dog (foxy)... i just have to live with it but always remember ur moms will be going to heaven. she will have no more pains and suffering anymore.
2007-02-23 15:54:11 · answer #7 · answered by maranda 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i remember it happenng to me with my father. it seemed to happen overnight rather than gradually. this man who had taken care of me now looked so much older and needed to be taken care of. you just cope, luv, and know it's a part of life... youre not the only one going through this; everyone who cares about their parents sees it and finds it difficult to deal with. but it's reality and one day, yes, she will die just as my father did. and i love him just as much today as i did then... he died almost 20 years ago. you never lose them, they are forever in your heart, your soul.
2007-02-23 15:53:18 · answer #8 · answered by sonata 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mom is getting old and thats the way it is
2007-02-23 15:37:47 · answer #9 · answered by bubba 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋