My ex boyfriend and I were perfect for each other and were together for a year...then he kissed another girl while he was on vacation so I broke up with him...
Now it is a year later and I can not trust him but we still like each other a lot....more than we have ever liked anyone else and he is really sorry...
Should we get back together?
2007-02-23 15:12:55 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you cannot trust him as you just said, you just answered your own question. You wouldn't be able to trust him.
If you don't have trust, you don't have a relationship. You sound like you have not forgiven him. I have been cheated on numerous times and have given a couple of them a second chance, they did it again.
My mother's sisters husband cheated with my mothers brothers wife. My Aunt divorced her husband, but My uncle stayed married to his wife. It takes a lot to forgive and to trust again. It can work as my uncle has made it work.
You have to question yourself. Why are you attracted to him? Is it physically? or is it for his qualities that stand out? One quality that stood out you didn't like was the cheating part. To get back together is totally your decision.
You would have to seriously sit down and talk it over with him and he would probably endure you asking where he was and what he was doing if you didn't trust him. What kind of relationship would that be if you were to ask him that kind of question?, and rightfully so.
Personally, I wouldn't as I have been hurt so many times before. I have waited and have found someone who is honest and respectful and a true gentleman. He was worth waiting for.
Best wishes to you.
2007-02-23 15:22:15 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. He cheated. Any way you slice it, he cheated. There are varying degrees of cheating but he broke your trust and obviously can't earn it back. That's ok. That's your choice and if you can't get over it, you just can't.
You might still like each other but your relationship is a totally different thing now. It's not all innocent & sweet like it was before. That girl is in your relationship now whether you like it or not and even if it meant nothing, he still did it.
I say cut your losses and go. You'll be better off for it in the end. All you're going to do is torture yourself about this and he'll grow to resent you and then he'll cheat again and blame you for it. People already said it, once a cheater, always a cheater. Very rarely do people change their cheating ways. If they do, it's because THEY want to.
There's too many fish in the sea to try to repair this relationship. He disrespected you once and got off scott free, he'll do it again but next time, he'll up the ante.
2007-02-23 23:28:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was thinking about you while he was on that vacation before kissing that girl then he wouldn't have done what he did. If you let him get away with it then he'll think that he can get a way with anything else. Once a cheater always a cheater.
2007-02-23 23:20:30 · answer #3 · answered by Nigerian Babe Gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he just kissed some random girl, that's not that bad of a cheat. But if he was hanging around this girl all the time, then it's different. Did you ever ask him why he kissed her? Maybe he was drunk.... And if he was, then I wouldn't have broken up with him, just be a mad for a while. But he seems to have the capability of being unfaithful but so does everyone. If you want to chance it, go ahead, at least you were warned and it won't be so much of a surprise if he does it again. But there are more faithful peopel out there, but harder to find.
2007-02-23 23:24:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I say NO. Once a cheater always a cheater. He will realize you let him do it once why not again. Their are way to many guys out there that wont cheat on you to play with this one and see if your heart gets broken again.
2007-02-23 23:18:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The obvious and best answer is yes, stay with him girl. He is perfect for you and perfect in everyway. Yes, he will change his ways for you, just like he promised he would.
Now that I told you what you wanted to hear out of the way, the real question is what do you think?
2007-02-23 23:19:26 · answer #6 · answered by gotagetaweigh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i would say not to go back out with him. But if he is really sorry give yourselves another chance. If you really like each other and cannot forget what you had before its worth another chance. Good luck! And think of what you want for yourself.
2007-02-23 23:19:25 · answer #7 · answered by Cassy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if someone cheats once, they'll do it again....trust me I think you should just let him go....otherwise you'll be wondering all the time, if he was with someone else before being with you, you'll always be thinking about that.....if you want to live your life like that, go ahead......but my best advice would be to let him go and move on!!!! Good Luck
2007-02-23 23:17:50 · answer #8 · answered by ~~~~~!!!!! 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
even though i consider kissing still cheating; i also think its a smaller degree than other scandalous acts. maybe you should give him one more try. he had a whole year to think over what he did and he realizes that you are still what he wants..............but should anything else happen stay away from him for good.
2007-02-23 23:25:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure he just kissed her? If he just kissed her, then its probably o k to stay with him. Especially if he really is sorry and says he truly loves you. Just kissing isn't so bad, especially if it made him realize how much he really liked you.
2007-02-23 23:17:52 · answer #10 · answered by Lana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋