I'm tired of my obsession of guys, and of liking the guys I currently like, because it's causing me frustration and emotional distress. And I don't want to feel this way anymore......
I become so sick and tired of not having anyone (I'm almost 20, and never had a boyfriend before), and I wish I didn't have the urge to be with anyone or to need affection. I wish I could focus on more important things, instead of obsessing about guys.
What can I do?
2007-02-23 15:09:53 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How do I ignore the opposite sex? How do I quit stressing? That is the question.
2007-02-23 15:18:39 · update #1
I do have hobbies, but they don't keep my mind off boys.....I still think about guys while doing my hobbies at the same time.....
2007-02-23 15:19:30 · update #2
And I can't get a boyfriend, cuz no guy I like, likes me.
2007-02-23 15:20:04 · update #3
Go into chatrooms with a female profile.
You'll be disgusted by men in very short order. :)
Seriously, you're probably asking the wrong questions. Rather, the two questions you should ask are:
1. What should I do to eventually be able to attract guys I want to attract?
2. What can I do to avoid getting too depressed between now and when that finally works?
In both cases, offering more details about yourself might help with getting good answers.
That said -- I skipped about 6 grades in school. So when I was a teenager, my love life was pretty non-existent. Soon after I started grad school (at age 16), a friend asked me how I had stood this isolation. I replied, pretty accurately, "I decided not to become preoccupied with women until I was in a position to become occupied with them."
Not a bad turn of phrase, if I may say so myself. ;)
2007-02-23 15:28:28 · answer #1 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Treat every guy you meet as if he were just one of your best friends or your brother (if you have one) until you meet the right one. There's no rush, you're still young, you have plenty of time. Get some friends together and go looking at the right places.
We all stress over this kind of stuff, it bothers me too sometimes, just totally block out those thoughts while doing something you love, start at 10 minutes, you can't think about those things, clear your mind and focus on the activity. Keep increasing your time and reward yourself. If you can reach two hours, you'll be able to really release all of that stress.
Why do we always have that inner desire to find that perfect someone, eh? It makes things so complicated. :/
Oh, and stop with the "no guy likes me" thing, you just aren't looking in the right places. I'm positive there has been at least a couple of guys that have liked you, but if they saw that low self-esteem they might of rethought asking you out. Who wants to love someone who doesn't even accept themselves as a person that deserves that love? If you can defeat that mindset, you will be good to go.
2007-02-23 15:26:46 · answer #2 · answered by Katie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Girl! Chill out!! Every single female stresses over guys...some just hide it better than others!! Just keep on doing the best you can in life, having fun..and sooner or later..he will come along!! Quit stressing & have fun!!
2007-02-23 15:16:33 · answer #3 · answered by ms ambitious 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore the opposite sex.
2007-02-23 15:17:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy yourself a toy and join the human race....Asexual.. Wow
I had to look that word up..All things comes to he is patient..
Work on developing an outgoing personality . very attractive in
young girls.. Good Luck..
2007-02-23 15:25:45 · answer #5 · answered by Robert B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should just get a hobby 2 keep your mind off it or well get a boy friend no offense but my 4yr old sister and 11yr old sis have even had a boyfriend and from my point of view they arn't even that pretty.******
2007-02-23 15:18:02 · answer #6 · answered by lil mama 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
listen to james iha solo cds.
2007-02-23 15:21:36 · answer #7 · answered by nodumgys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a hard one... to ba honest i have no clue
2007-02-23 15:15:16 · answer #8 · answered by Missy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get plastic makeovers
2007-02-23 15:14:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just go get laid.
2007-02-23 16:32:59 · answer #10 · answered by jack c 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋