How can I start faking confidence..?

Question

I really dislike myself, low self-esteem and have no confidence at all and all this stops me from finding a partner and I wanted to know how to fake it so then I can actually start believing it..

Answer 1

First, be honest with yourself. Truly honest. Make a list of all the good things--like, if you were to just meet yourself for the very first time, what positive things could you say about you. You can't say or think or list any negativity, it all has to be positive. And it can be stupid stuff like "I can write English clearly and be understood" and "I have pretty good personal hygiene habits" because there are a lot of people who don't possess those accomplishments so they all count. Post that list where you can see it (but privately enough so anyone visiting your space won't demand to know what that's all about) as a reminder, and keep adding to the list as you think of more stuff. You'll be surprised at all the good things you already start with. To build your own confidence, get involved in things--volunteering to help others in need always will make you feel good about yourself. You public library may have literacy classes you can help out in. Most SPCAs have volunteer programs (and working with animals is a natural ice breaker). Read to the elderly. Etc. For no money, just do it because you can and you're needed. Take classes (not your normal school stuff) doing crafts, hobbies, extra curricular things that will give you more skills and accomplishments. Learn to cook. Learn another language. Do things that add to you and congratulate yourself for learning them, for being able to master these things. It doesn't have to always be major accomplishments. And not everything is going to be blue ribbons and hero parades; if you're like the rest of us, you'll fall short plenty of times (but that's just being human). Learn to enjoy and learn from your mistakes or failures because that's when we learn the biggest lessons. Reward yourself when you've done something you never thought you'd ever do or ever be able to do or even thought of doing before, even the small things--pat yourself on the back. Be your own best friend. That's how you start. Once you get used to it all, you'll find you are confident because you've done things before so you can do other things without too much trouble.

Answer 2

Okay, It's pretty obvious that most of these people have never had this problem.

I Have, and this is how you do it:

What you want to do is at first, just make it sarcastic, when girls talk to you about say looks, just joke around and say things like "I know im a perfect 10, but you just have to learn not to stare." Of course you want to make sure to sound sarcastic, or else people will think that you actually are arrogant. Turn it into a joke, and other people will be able to laugh.

Eventually, even though you continue saying things in a sarcastic tone of voice, you will trick your mind into believing at least some of what you say, which will make you more confident. Even if you cant convince yourself say... that you are attractive, eventually you will have confidence in the fact that you can make people laugh.

Trust me, it works

Answer 3

Unfortunately confidence cannot be faked. It can be obtained by placing yourself into situations you feel comfortable in. Try to spend time with people you enjoy being with and attempt to do things you are good at.
Eventually you will gain the confidence to explore new situations. People will gravitate to you.
Your main concern here is stop disliking yourself.
There is nothing wrong with you!
Be aware that the people that seem confident to you, worry about things as well.

Answer 4

Just be outgoing and if you ever kinda feel like backing out push it aside and just do it, don't think about it! Such as if you want to ask a guy out or want to ask someone a question but are too shy to ask.
Talk more to people it helps build some confidence, just be more outgoing like joining teams and such and in time your confidence will build.

Good luck!

Answer 5

Think of situations in which you are confident and have a high opinion of yourself. Note how you feel and behave. Then imitate that in other situations.

And if there are no such situations, create some. Find a way you can help people charitably, for instance.

Answer 6

Hold your head high!
Your wonderful, whats not to like?
First, dont sweat the small stuff
You have to like what you see in the mirror
Get comfortable
Who cares what others think
Its whats inside that matters
Practice in the mirror, but dont seem to rehearsed

Answer 7

You might be surprised how many males are faking confidence, inside is an insecure person who blusters to cover it up.

Answer 8

You don't fake it. you have to stand in front of the mirror, look at yourself and give yourself compliments. If that doesnt work give random people five bucks to tell you that you're great. good luck :)

Answer 9

Confidence is something that you cannot fake

Answer 10

as hard as it is, start by making eye contact and smiling at them. It feels great to know that someone admires you, and by doing this, you are showing them that you are interested.

I know, I've been there. best o' luck. :)