I am 37 years, she is 25. What should I do? If she turns me down, I will be heart broken. I adore her very much but she might think am obese. I am happy with the way I look but will she accept it. We work for the same company and see each other every day. We exchange e-mails everyday but usually it is 'small talk', so to speak. What should I do, lose weight?
2007-02-23 14:32:17 · 11 answers · asked by major2004 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i can imagine it took a long time for you to accept yourself for who and what you are,to evan consider changing yourself for anyone i think would be unwise. what happens when the next woman you are interested in prefers "larger" men? if you have a friendship with her as you currently are,she must like you for who you are! fear of rejection is something that lives in every human,for the mere fact that we are all imperfect,therefore insecurities are bound to "creep" in. go for it,you have nothing to lose,but a potential lifetime of happiness to gain,good luck to you.
2007-02-23 15:53:47 · answer #1 · answered by CHARLIE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The questions would be is she single? Have you so much as flirted with this woman? Have you merely formed an attraction to her from afar.
If you do like her and would like to try and become more than friends you could ask her to go for a drink, take both of you out your normal environment and see how you feel then. You don't have to say its a date and that way you will be able to suss out her attitude to you from this.
As for rejection, yeah it hurts but its a part of life and sometimes people are mean about it but if you don't take the chance then you'll never know, life's too short to avoid the risks. If it doesn't work with this girl then the next one may be the one instead.
If you are happy within yourself and your weight is not an issue to you then don't change for others, people are too vain and you should only be with people who want you for YOU not because you fit some stereotype of what the latest celebrity magazine says is a top catch.
Good luck.
2007-02-23 23:24:38 · answer #2 · answered by lisy_rox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If losing weight will give you the confidence you need then do it.. on the other hand you should never change for someone else. You need to lose weight for you not for her. I doubt she would want you to lose weight for her either. You have had the confidence to contact us on here so thats the first step.
There are lots of steps you could take to finding out if she likes you. How about inviting her for a coffee during working hours first.. so not a proper date - just a casual thing. You could try asking her (by email if you prefer) what type of guys she likes.
2007-02-23 22:40:55 · answer #3 · answered by JustJem 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you're happy with the "way you look" then don't lose weight unless Dr. tells you.
You will know whether or not she likes you "in that way". You will know by the way you interact with each other. Email is not the best way to find out. You know the answer.
One bit of advice though. Stay financially, and more importantly, emotionally independent at all times in life. It may sound harsh but it's good advice.
2007-02-23 22:40:22 · answer #4 · answered by Oliver S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should use her as motivation to lose your weight then go for it, if she rejects you at least you will know how you stand and with your new shape you will have a better chance of finding someone else...or someone else finding you, if you don't go for it you wont ever get it., the age thing means nothing, my misses is 15yrs younger than me and we get on very well and have done for 20years..Good luck mate,
2007-02-24 03:35:21 · answer #5 · answered by venusintransit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt worry about your weight, just be yourself, let your personality shine through, and if your weight ends up 2 be the reason she doesn't wanna know then she is shallow and obviously not worth it. You have confidence in yourself, when you say youre happy with the way you look, this will make you more attractive since females like guys who are self confident
2007-02-24 00:46:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what the flying fox should weight have to do with it hun.but the longer you leave it if she does turn you down for whatever reason the greater the loss youll feel as the deeper you will be.I am 45 and my boyfriend is 36 i am not over weight but i am in a wheelchair.I am the one that makes him feel good, comfortable and important so the chair is not in the picture its not who i am.if you make her feel good it'll be you shes after and not what size shirt you take!!!!!!!!!!!! xxxxxx
2007-02-23 22:45:55 · answer #7 · answered by nendlin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you reading too much into this relationship have you met yet ? you need to get to know her better before proclaiming your undying love for her and if she isn't attrcted to you then your frgile ego willno doubt will be crushed!
2007-02-23 22:39:39 · answer #8 · answered by Andrew1968 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can ask what body type of men that she likes and lose weight if she likes smaller guys
2007-02-23 23:19:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i think u should go and tell her maybe she feels the same way about u, and if ur overweight i think she won't notice that if she feels the same way.u don't have u hide ur feelings about her maybe she is the same way about u.
2007-02-23 22:52:25 · answer #10 · answered by lacholita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋