girlfriend in college, im a senior, questions about our future?

Question

next year my girlfriend is going off to college, and ill be a senior. she might go off somewhere far, or she might stay nearby and go to the local community college for a semester or two. i love her but im having some doubts... im afraid that she'll go off to college and meet some other guy and basically forget about me, or she'll be embarrased to tell people that she has a bf who is in high school. i trust her also, but with her going away, i dunno if i could handle that level of trust... opportunities for her to meet other guys are endless and im worried about her level of commitment. am i limiting myself by staying with her? like am i wasting opportunities to date around or what? i want to stay with her, but im not entirely convinced that its worth it, and i dont want to get hurt. i want it to work and im willing to make it work, but im anxious. what should i do?

Answer 1

In any relationship, you have to have honesty and communication. If you don't have those, you won't have trust. People do change as they get older. If you both decide to commit to each other, then you have to have trust in each other. You have to trust her that she will make the right decisions when she is met with temptation and vice versa. You and she have to not put yourself in situations where you know there will be temptations that you will be weak in.

I know I am a faithful person and I have never cheated on anyone, and at the age of 39, I still will never do it. You have to have faith. In every relationship, you will have your doubts, your fears, and your triumphs. It is up to both of you to make the commitment to make it work. If either of you have different feelings, ever, then you need to discuss the feelings as it is a matter of respect. I have always said that if the person I was dating was going to date someone else, they had better break it off with me first, not cheat on me. That is more respectful than cheating on me and me finding out later. Discuss what you expect with her and what your goals are. Best wishes to you and your girlfriend.