well my boyfriend is 19 and will be 20 on june15th and i am 16 and will be 17 on august 14 we are having a little girl in april and we plan on getting married on july 7, 07. eveyone is looking down on me because i am so young and doing all of this, and all people have to say about us getting married; well they only say really bad things. i am haing a really hard tim trying to just put what they say behind me, we really love each other and have been together since i was 13, we really love each other and the only way i know to explain our relatoinship is like a fairy tale, how can i just put what people say behind me and do what my heart says? or is everyone else right? are we moving too? are we crazy?
2007-02-23 14:29:29 · 15 answers · asked by sexy momma 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i think they are just being realistic. they care about you and don't want to see you go through anything bad. but the divorce rate is so high these days and its even worse for those who get married young. i got married at 20 and there were some who said we were too young. he was 20 also. we got married and i got pregnant 6 months later. it was very hard on us. having a baby is a hard thing especially with you being so young. there is a lot that you can't do with your life once you get married and have a baby. think about what you'll be missing out on. we'll celebrate 6 years this july and also welcome our 3rd child in july. things are going good now but it too a lot of work. i wish you the best.
2007-02-23 14:37:32 · answer #1 · answered by ravinskye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to say from experience that you are to young. I was engaged at your age and we loved each other but as I grew up and began to experience life we moved apart. We were together for a couple of years and I even purchased my dress, we were serious but it was the best decision to not marry him. I am now 28 and married to a wonderful man, I never would have guessed back then that I would be where I am today. I am not saying leave him I am just saying to give you some more time. I don't think that you have to be married to have a baby in a good home either, marriage does not make a family, it is a baby and two loving parents that make a family. I think you should put the wedding on hold and just give it some time for the two of you to grow first just to make sure that it will not end in divorce. GOOD LUCK
2007-02-23 14:44:53 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ Nikkee D ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Good for you! I think that what you are doing is wonderful and definitely would consider it...almost biblical.
I know that this may sound odd to you, but I say this because a century ago, the relationship like the one you just described would be very normal. We live in a society where 'young love' is looked down on and 'adults' ask what do they know about love? However, the general 'coming of age' age has always been right around 13. I don't know why this changed, but I do know that what you are doing is beautiful and wonderful and you go for it sweetie!
I am more than willing to be here for support, if you are interested just chat me, sweetie.
2007-02-23 16:46:50 · answer #3 · answered by TiGeR 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about those other people! It seems that you guys really love each other, plus your guys are having a baby together. I think is great that you guys are planning to get married. I got married with my husband when I was 17, he was 23. I got pregnant right away, now I'm 22 with two children and happily married. People always talk, but that doesn't matter because they are not going to feed you or your baby, they are not going to pay your bills and they are not going to bring you the happiness that your husband and baby will give you. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-02-23 14:51:55 · answer #4 · answered by Beba 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For thousands of years.... I repeat ..thousands of years it was normal to be married early. People lived less than -half as long as they now. Now people get married much later, but it doesn't mean you are destined for failure. With maturity sometimes comes reality, meaning you know it is work and hard to keep a relationship working, but now a days people are spoiled and give up too easily.
The big question here is , how are you both going to support yourselves and a family someday? If you can both finish school and have a future....GO FOR IT... true love is rare, but you better have both eyes open as well.
2007-02-23 14:47:47 · answer #5 · answered by Douglas T 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get some relationship counseling from your church or the person who is conducting the ceremony. There are some simple tests to take that are well proven -- I think the Lutherans and Catholics have them. They can work if you aren't those religions, too. They will tell you whether you have good communication skills and what you need to discuss, like how to raise the baby. That will help quiet people down, if they know you are taking this seriously and want to make it work.
2007-02-23 19:33:14 · answer #6 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, I couldn't get married right now, and I'm your age. Then again you are having a baby and the baby deserves to have 2 parents who loves it. If it works for you to get married so young then go for it. Don't listen to anyone else. Only you know how you feel.
2007-02-23 14:39:58 · answer #7 · answered by littlesisnaka 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you are truely in love with each other and you are sure that you want to spend the rest of your lives together than go for it and dont listen to what anybody has to say! me personally would not know how i truely felt at that age. if I were you I would wait about 2 more years and see how things go and maybe in 2 years your family will be more accepting about all this. but hey thats just me i wish you the best good luck!!!
2007-02-23 14:35:49 · answer #8 · answered by ~~ny giants fan~~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-17 17:31:49 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first of all you really truely should wait awhile to get married. And I know that you've heard this a billion times but you really should. Baby or not. If your problem is that you don't want to wait then before anything you need to learn patience. If your problem is him wanting to wait, then he doesn't really care about you. At least wait until you're 18 and have thought about what you really want to do for a living. You also have to think about his job. What will his job pay him? Will it be enough to garrentee food for you and your baby? You will look at all of this before you marry someone if you really care about the future of you and your boyfriend's baby. Please wait!!
2007-02-23 14:43:08 · answer #10 · answered by Naomi J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋