I NEED GUYS OPINIONS AND GIRLS OPINIONS ON THIS ONE. PLEASE ANSWER! HOW DO I GO ABOUT DOING THiS??????????????

Question

Well here's the thing, I kind of have a crush on him and I know he has feelings for me too. But the only thing is that it's my brothers friend. And he lives directly around the block. We knew him for like 6 years and we've been really good friends for about, that amount of time. My friends are his friends to. And if I try and make a move, and he rejects me, I don't want to make things awkward. SO, instead of just "pouring out my feelings to him" how can I give him hints that I'm interested. And I'll let him retaliate the way he feels comfterable.
BUT, I don't know how to give him clues and hints to have him get the idea that I'm interested.
HOW DO I GO ABOUT DOING THIS!!!

Answer 1

ok i know EXACTLY what your situation is, i've been in the same situation(except i had only been friends with the girl for a few months and she wasnt friends with any of my relatives) if u have a myspace and he does also then leave small hints such as be the first to comment on his pics and say really nice(maybe playful) things about the pics. also anytime u see him run up to talk to him and do your best to have a good conversation(keep breathing, dont just answer questions with yes or no and ask questions that cant be answered by yes or no) conversation is a big thing! if u dont seem interested in talking to him(dont just concentrate on what you're going to say next) then he wont think u like him. make sure and flirt with him also. invite him to group activities such as getting a group of friends to see a movie or go to a place like panda express or starbucks(thats how my best friend and his gf found out about eachother's feelings) also if he starts acting like he likes u and u want to tell him how much u like him, DONT! if u have to tell him something then tell him just a little bit, something like "we should do this again, its fun hanging out with u". also u say u "know he has feelings for u" before u say anything that might make your friendship awkward u should think about how u got this information. did it come thru a string of friends? di he tell u himself? u need to make sure you r absolutley sure that he likes u.

also if this doesnt work out then i have a suggestion. if u put romantic expectations into every friendship u have with a guy then you're setting yourself up for disappointment.

also u really do NEED to MAKE SURE that he likes u. in my situation i was almost completely certain that the girl liked me but it ended up she liked some other guy. so be extra CAREFUL!

Answer 2

Since you've known him for so long and hang out (albeit with your bro and other mutual friends), don't you get any sense as how he feels about you? You should by now know what kind of guy he is and how he reacts to things which will give you a clue how to approach him. Is he the type who, if it turns out he just isn't interested in you as a potential gf, will embarrass you? Or is he the type who would take it in stride and just say no, he's not interested and leave it at that? Or is he one of those rare guys who will feel honored and will let you down easy (without future repercussions) if he's not interested? Since you like him, he's probably not the insensitive type who will try to humilate you. But he may not know how to take your interest in him. You can try to place yourself next to him as much as possible in group situations so you can chat inconspicuously and friendly without any commitment anywhere, making sure you briefly (and as if it is your natural way of relating) touching his arm or his knee (if you're sitting closeby). Physical contact, even slight ones, connect. Since you hang around together anyway already, you can start up conversations with him about movies you might like to see (make it movies that he probably has an interest in too), etc. Just slowly, subtly, discreetly, start cutting him out of the pack so no one else notices. It'll let him know you are interested in him and give him a little space to respond to you quietly. But be prepared to be rejected too--he may not be ready for something outside a group, he may not want to jeopardize his friendship with your bro should have a fight with him. On the other hand, he may just not know how to let you know he wants to move your friendship to a different level. Life is risky; take a chance.

Answer 3

My opinion is this.......You use there word crush unfortunately the word crush isn't love it's just what the word implies.....crush and love are 2 different things. Now you have to think about this he is your brother's friend you don't want to do anything that might jeopardize their friendship which could happen if your relationship doesn't work out...now are you willing to take that risk? Just something to think about...........

Answer 4

Just be your charming self and let him realize that you are someone special. A friends daughter just married her brothers best friend and they are very happy. So it can work. Just don't push it.