(quoting from someone's answer I seen earlier) "When someone endures a great sacrifce or stands up to a threat on behalf of another, it is hard not to love that person for it. "Someone stood up to a threat for me and while they were busy doing that I fell in love with them. Is this the wrong reason to base a relationship on? could it be anything else other than love? Funny thing is this person spent alot of time helping me...... two years now....and now my "threat" is no longer a threat but without his help I would most likely be dead by someone else's hand or suicide..... met him online and never met him in person....
2007-02-23 14:26:04 · 8 answers · asked by mizt 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He tells me every day that he loves me, I still talk to him every day.....we've talked about meeting but are 2,000 miles apart.
To the one that mentioned self love and theraphy.....I love myself, without a doubt...that's not in question.
The thoughts of suicide were caused by the situation I was in.......I was married to a physically/verbally abusive alcoholic....
2007-02-23 15:22:00 · update #1
It's not wrong to care for someone who helped you or protected you...that's much like patients that fall in love with their doctor or nurse.
It may take some time to figure out if you really care for this person for who they are inside, and not just because they did something so great for you that you were emotionally moved.
Sounds like at the very least though, you've got a good friend...and that's no small thing!
2007-02-23 14:32:28 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my opinion is this person could be in love with the person who helped her. she's known him for 2 years now and has seen probably almost everything there is to see about this person's mind, soul, being... the only thing she hasn't seen is his body. but in her mind, either consciously or unconsciously, she sees him as her knight in shining armour, her savior. i'd be curious to see how he feels about her... he could be a social worker or a priest or just a kind soul who likes to help people in distress. i believe in relationships in the flesh though. if there is love involved on both sides i believe the relationship has to evolve into "the real thing" by meeting one another, being with one another then seeing if there is real love involved because the mind can play tricks on you.
2007-02-23 22:41:36 · answer #2 · answered by sonata 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no its not an incorrect reason --- they have shown they care for you and they will stick by you --- it could be that they are not in love with you and that they helped because they are good people --- even if it is online --- talk to him now that the threat is over and see what direction he would like the relationship to go --- best wishes
2007-02-23 22:38:53 · answer #3 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
think its great someone stood up for you.. the last thing u said was u met him online and not in person.... so to me.... you base ur love on this fantasy you have... though its great to have friends and to chat with someone when your bored thats great... you should love yourself first... dont talk of suicide... if u feel that way you should talk with a therapist that will help you not to feel that way... take care...
2007-02-23 22:49:57 · answer #4 · answered by gina B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
for me, I think it's definitely love!...love comes in different forms and ways...you guys should meet in person, perhaps it will bring you on the next level. As for the basis of a relationship, there is no definite thing which you can base a relationship...it depends on the person involved...actually, atleast you know you can count on him...
2007-02-23 22:36:12 · answer #5 · answered by spoiled_rotten_gurl18 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That can start a beautiful relationship. It is those emotiional
connections that are always the most meaningful. They certainly can turn quickly into love and if so you both know it right away.
Love, Matilda
2007-02-23 22:30:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from personal experience, I don't think that loving someone just because they did something for you is good enough. I want someone to love me for me, whether I did something great for them or not. I don't want someone to be with me because they feel like they owe me.
2007-02-23 22:34:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is,............ b-o-r-i-n-g.
2007-02-23 22:30:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋