I have a friend whose a freshman in high school and she's dating a junior in highschool. her b/f wants to have a baby with her and she is not ready for it but since she likes babies she wants to have her own but not right now. after considering all the responsibilities for the babies and every single thing that she should consider...she's confused she doesnt know what to say. what should she do? and also what should i tell her to do?
2007-02-23 14:16:08 · 15 answers · asked by Ezzi 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
1st, I'd tell your friend to break it off with this guy & under no circumstances should she sleep with him. He sounds like a real creep to me. If she has a baby with him, I seriously doubt if he'll be willing or able to help her in any way.
Then, I'd advise her to meet with some teen moms. They can tell her 1st-hand how hard it is to care for a baby at this age. It's hard enough at any age.
When she's much older & more settled, with the right man, then perhaps she'll be ready for children.
I pray that she'll listen. Good luck.
2007-02-23 15:09:42 · answer #1 · answered by WillyC 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everyone likes babies but it's not all fun and games when you have to take care of one 24 hours a day 7 days a week for the next 18 years. I'm 28 years old, I work 50 hours a week and go to college full-time-finally! I have a good job but I still live paycheck to paycheck because children grow fast and they need a whole new wardrobe every six months or so and it's not cheap. My daughter is 8 years old and me and her father are still together but money has been tight and we get angry easy because we don't get much freetime and when we do we don't have the money to do anything. Your friend may think she's in love right now, but I was to with everyone of the guys I dated during high school! She's young, she'll meet and fall in love with lots more guys. Tell her not to settle on this one quite yet. Stay in school and have a baby after she owns her own home. She'll have the money and be able to enjoy her family much more.
2007-02-23 22:29:27 · answer #2 · answered by heatt28 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to tell her to get away from that guy. Any 16 year old kid (just a guess but thats an average for a HS junior) that WANTS a kid...is out of his mind. He most likely just wants to have sex with her, but thats a messed up way of going about it. Why don't you take her somewhere that she can talk with young moms, see the struggle they go through every day and hear it from them. You need to make sure she knows that just becase she "likes" babies..she is nowhere near ready to have her own. Maybe just one night at a house with an infant waking her up screaming in the middle of the night will change her mind.
2007-02-23 22:30:48 · answer #3 · answered by Mr.Robot 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her that if she has a baby now, she seriously limits her chances of having a stable, secure family at any time in the future. She should babysit for a family with small children. If she was around babies and children, maybe she would see how much work it is.
2007-02-23 22:30:08 · answer #4 · answered by sweet pea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men will say anything to get a girl to put out. If your neighborhood has a parenting class, have her take that...a lot of times they have you take care of a computerized baby...not fun. Also, she has her whole life ahead of her to have a baby...why when she's a freshmen...maybe after high school and college, but if she has a baby b4 then, it will be very hard for her to achieve her dreams.
2007-02-23 22:25:45 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Catherine♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from some one who knows. Tell her finish school first.........get a job and then have a baby. Birth control is what you tell her!!
I had a kid in high school and life was a real struggle for awhile. Babies are a major responsibility.
2007-02-23 22:22:55 · answer #6 · answered by JS 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She's too young. Babies are a lot of work! I have two babies under the age of two and I'm married and I still have trouble. Tell her she should wait until she's in a committed, adult relationship..its hard enough to support a baby on two incomes, nevermind on an income of a couple still in high school!
2007-02-23 22:21:53 · answer #7 · answered by Jenn 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
having a baby sounds easy... yeah you can point out the costs, how she going to raise it ,How it will affect her family, her school and all.. But 1 thing normally does not get stated, the medical side, get her facts about how this effects her body & babys..
she not medically old enought to have a normal birth, If she very lucky she be able to have a vagial birth (that hurts like hell) more then likely she have to have a c-section...
pregnant teenagers are especially vulnerable to complications, such as high blood pressure, anemia, and, most troubling, premature delivery & miscarages. Their babies are more likely to be too small at birth and often have underdeveloped lungs, vision problems, or a host of other ailments
2007-02-23 22:57:40 · answer #8 · answered by msmomofmany 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Have her to tell him to get one of those dolls that act just exactly like a real baby. Have him take care of it for a week and then see if he still really wants to have a baby. Babies are great, but their not all fun and games. Tell her to tell him NO!!! They are both wayyyyy to young to even be considering having children. She needs to have some respect for herself.
2007-02-23 22:44:51 · answer #9 · answered by Crystal 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think u should tell her to wait until she is out of school and is financially stable to have a Babbie and can give it every thing it needs and then some.i had my son when i was 19 and i still some times have trouble coming up with the money for thing that come up that cost u. its wounder full that she wants kids but she needs to make shur that this is the man she wants to be in her life for the rest of her life .not just for her but for the kid/kids to be . If this is truly what he wants then he will respect that and wait for her.
2007-02-23 22:31:32 · answer #10 · answered by tinkermomma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋