I'm 26,( I didn't think guys still acted like this, I thought this type of attitude remained in high school ) We only dated for like a month,and he dumped me because I didn't feel like I was ready for sex after a month (which I think is ridiculous to want to sleep with a person after a month of just meeting them)...Was I wrong for not wanting to put out?
2007-02-23 14:14:41 · 15 answers · asked by ƒ®îgg Üþ ©hî¢ ®™ 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
So sorry I just realized that I must have hit the submit button twice so the question posted twice.. my apologies.. :)
2007-02-23 14:21:53 · update #1
Absolutely you were right. You will indulge in that particular enjoyment when YOU feel the time is right as a couple. This is NOT a one-sided decision. You are better off without someone like that. It hurts but you are the better for it.
And think, if you had given in, and then he dumped you because he got what he wanted and then moved on you would feel even worse because you'd been duped.
You're one smart girl there! Keep it up!
2007-02-23 15:35:16 · answer #1 · answered by meretta1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should only have sex when you feel ready and if the guys can't respect that then he isn'w worth much. It a good thing you found that out now.
Broken hearts take time and patience to heal. Every day will help even if you don't feel it right away.
2007-02-23 15:39:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one, male or female, should feel pressured into having a sexual relationship before they are ready. You should always listen to that instinctive gut feeling when it tells you something, it never steers you wrong. It is probably wise for anyone out there to take the time to get to know someone before you commit to the most initmate part of a relationship. If the other person is not willing to wait until you are ready, then it clearly shows that they are not taking your feelings into account. Run for the hills with this type of person! No, you were not wrong. By being true to yourself you will gain confidence, which will in turn, will attract a more considerate mate.
2007-02-23 16:07:20 · answer #3 · answered by Katrina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely, NOT!
I applaud you for having the courage to stick to your morals. And I totally agree with you, it is completely ridiculous to want to sleep with someone only after a month of meeting them.
This guy in particular, I feel was simply an ******! Now I say, accept the situation for what it is, and move on honey! You are 26!
And remember, feel proud for the choice you made!
Cheer up & Good luck!
--Vae
2007-02-23 14:24:53 · answer #4 · answered by Nevaeh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you were not wrong, and he shouldn't have tried to pressure you. As for mending a broken heart, get some movies, get lots of ice cream, and have some of your friends over for a girl's night.
2007-02-23 14:23:05 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Catherine♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK I'm a year younger than you but i know how to deal with this problem.... first of all take time to let your broken heart repair itself then work on meeting someone new.then after that make sure to protect your heart from becoming broken by being more careful next time......trust me i know from experience how these things work...
2007-02-23 14:50:41 · answer #6 · answered by geostrom b 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Broken hearts heal with time, guys act like that at every age!! You were absolutely right in not giving in after a month. You, and only you will know if and when the time is right for you. The "right" one is out there somewhere for you. Just stick to your morals and principals!! Good Luck!!!
2007-02-23 14:31:51 · answer #7 · answered by Suzie- Q 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are wrong at all. I think you are a strong person for standing your ground and not giving in for fear of losing him. I think you did what was rite for you. I also don't think you need someone like that, he needs to respect your wishes. There are better guys out there that will respect you and you can do better. GOOD LUCK
2007-02-23 14:25:31 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ Nikkee D ♥ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wrong?
NO !
You were perfectly 100% right.
Why would any woman sleep with a man before she has a ring on her finger is beyond me.
Go out an meet a REAL man that will respect you and court you properly. He did you a favor by dumping you.
2007-02-23 14:30:29 · answer #9 · answered by Smart Nurse 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, never do things you don't want to do just because someone else wants you too. Be how you are. Your heart will mend (and I know its cliche') it just needs time and so do you.
2007-02-23 14:20:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋