I have been bestfriends with Josh for almost two years now and we just recently decided to try being in a romantic relationship. Things were okay for a while even though we were having a lot of trouble transitioning to anything physical. But lately it seems like everything he does irritates me. He never came to see me in my last play even though when we were just friends he came and saw me in my other plays. We rarely even talk anymore. He skips out on things we had planned to do and we never hang out. But when I told him that I felt like things weren't going very well and explained how I was feeling like I've lost my bestfriend, he said that the relationship was really important to him and he wanted to work on it. Nothing has changed though! What do I do? I don't want to dump him and risk losing my bestfriend but I don't feel like I have a boyfriend either!
2007-02-23 14:13:57 · 11 answers · asked by So Complicated 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Seems like his idea of a girlfriend involves substandard treatment. If he treated you with respect and admiration as a friend, then when you became his so called girlfriend, now he's taking you for granted, that says a lot about him. You don't need that. I'd suggest a cooling off period. Some time apart might help you to resolve the situation a lot easier. Think about what you want more than what he says he wants. His actions are speaking louder than his words. Maybe he's infatuated with the physical aspect of your relationship as well. I'm sure if you two were friends and you described his actions as being that of a man that you were involved with, he'd tell you that you deserve better. Right now, he can't see the forest for the trees.
2007-03-03 11:59:34 · answer #1 · answered by sustasue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not know this but in everything you have said here, well you answered your own question . When in doubt " Don't"
it is an old saying but true.
Josh sounds a little too immature. You need someone more mature to be with...Josh is comfortable with you more so now that you two went to the next level. I feel that this is how he would be if you two were married.....Don't tie the knot!
Nothing in this world says you have to stay with him. Tell him you don't feel right about the relationship at this time and you need a break. Maybe the break will tell you more...good or bad.
Go back to being best friends. If he dissagrees, or doesn't understand, then that should tell you a lot. He would only be thinking of himself. good luck
2007-02-23 14:25:37 · answer #2 · answered by mom of a boy and girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is just taking you for granted like people do in relationships or perhaps he is very confused and nervous about how to approach the situation. try talking to him again. Although guys don't open up easily, since u two were friends,it shud be easier for u both. i would suggest that you wait for a while and give him time to work upon the problem, but decide and be firm on how much time he wants.
after that if it works out, it is really nice.
but if it doesn't then it will take a lot of understanding and maturity for you both to be just friends again.
wish u both best of luck!!
2007-02-23 14:21:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to break up because you think that will make things back to the way they used to be. But sorry to say they won't be like that. You'll be lucky if the two of you will still be friends much less have your "best friend" back. Why? He still likes you (you said that he wanted to work things out so I assume he really likes you) and when you start to date other ppl that will make him jealous and he may act like a jerk because of this. So if you don't want to be with him then fine but don't expect it to be the way they used to be because there is a good chance things won't be the same. But hey maybe you'll be lucky!
2007-02-23 14:21:14 · answer #4 · answered by Daisy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. What mistake. I'm sorry but there's very little chance of recovering the friendship. It might be possible, but it's not likely and it'll be different no matter what.
Not much advice for this but I think the longer it's dragged out the less chance you have.
2007-02-23 14:18:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made the mistake and now you are gonna pay for it. You are gonna loose him as a friend you know but you must tell him how you feel and then break off the bf/gf relationship. You can try being friends afterward but be aware that almost never works.
2007-02-23 14:17:43 · answer #6 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well I think that you should talk to him maybe he feels the same as you that if you both break up that there will be no more friendshipp. Talk and get all the chips on the table.
2007-02-23 14:19:12 · answer #7 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say " I thought i could be in this relationship but it's just not working out for me. You are my best friend and i don't want to ruin that. this is for the best of us. i hope you understand."
2007-02-23 14:18:30 · answer #8 · answered by hoh_man 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they said that its better to end up w/ sum1 who became your bestfriend first.but i dont think it will work for you. just give him another chance and try to work things out.good luck!
2007-02-23 14:20:45 · answer #9 · answered by mitchy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time to bridge that gap maybe
maybe let him become a (your) boyfriend
2007-02-23 14:18:00 · answer #10 · answered by icaredeeplyaboutsomeone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋