Is he gay? or am i being gutless?

Question

I went a new hairdresssers a month ago and a really nice youngish man did my hair. He was quiet, fairly shy, polite, and not at all camp before anybody asks! lol, but slightly well...i dont want to use the word effeminate, but you know what i mean. he was emo looking. kind of gentle and slightly bashful. he's gorgeous, and initially i didn't think he was gay. My mother goes there to get her hair cut as the salon is in my hometown and she likes him. yesterday (she doesnt know i like him) she made this littlecomment like" i think hes gay! well you shouldnt say that, its such a stereotype, maybe he isnt, but he likes desperate housewives!" but its planted a seed of doubt in my mind. now all my mates are ribbing me about it.
i don't know what i'm going to do about it anyway as i only seen him twice and i'm no way going to ask him out because i'm not like that. my mate says its just an excuse i've made up in my own mind,so i dont have to do anything about it and thats why im still single!

Answer 1

there is a chance he is but then theres still that chance he isnt lol

Answer 2

i too have made the mistake of assuming the sexual orientation of a man by the way he looks. i am in theater and about 80% of theater people are either gay or bi. i think that you should wonder how he was raised before assuming he's gay. i had a friend who everyone thought was gay. he was raised by women and spoiled shamelessly by his female counterparts. he was also straight as an arrow.i have a gay radar and even i was fooled. some guys are naturally feminine. don't assume. just accept him as he is. if he does a good job keep him cause believe me when i say its hard to find that perfect person who does your hair. i have a straight guy who does my nails and he does it better than any woman and thats what counts the most.

Answer 3

Let him do your hair and while doing so strike up a conversation. Say something like, what does your wife/girlfriend think of you working here around all these women all day? Maybe you can get enough started by then to figure out if he is or not. Also if he's taken or not. It also gets out the point that you're interested.

Answer 4

Try getting to know him better. He'll open up to you, and if he IS gay, then you should probably lighten off a bit untill the friendship breaks down. If he's not, then you can get closer, untill it's actually appropriate to ask him out. MOST chances he's not gay, but don't dive in too fast, or else you might get a surprise in the end.

Answer 5

Maybe he is maybe he isn't gay... but maybe what you should do is test him a little. Have your mom ask him a question like "so do you have a girlfriend?" or something along those lines and see what his reaction is. Or better yet... you could ask him out for a drink or to hang out and just see how he responds. What could it hurt? GOOD LUCK!

Answer 6

So ask him. If he's gay then move on. Too many people beat around the bush too much nowadays. If he gets all angry what are you missing out on? A haircut? Come on now!lol

Answer 7

honey he is probably gay but if you want a shot at him get the guts to ask. No guts no glory and that goes for love as well

Answer 8

Well, some gay guys will go out with regular girls, so ask him out and talk to him about what he likes and talk to him about his past, and see from there!

Answer 9

ughh how can a persn use sterotypes like that lol
1: how do you know he's not bi?
2: just ask (not directly though if he's shy he'll prbly be offended like try to hang out with him and bring it up canually if you see it offends him bite your lip then end)

Answer 10

Only one way to find out.