How do I let a girl down easy?

Question

I don't want to break her heart so I want to let her down as gently as possible without lying or being mean. She really has a crush on me but I don't feel the same way about her. I like her as a friend but nothing romantic or anything. I'm not seeing anyone else. What do I tell her?

I see her at least once a week and she clings to me like a magnet. I can't not go to the place where I see her because I like going there. She also has my phone number and calls me about three times a week. Hope I gave you guys enough information.

Answer 1

there's no really way to let her down gently. You mislead her on too long. Just say she feels like a sister to you and her friendship is important to you.

Answer 2

It's a tough one. There is no easy way really. Whatever u do, dont abandon her without giving her your side of the story or dont change your number or just suddenly disappear from her life. Some guys do that and it's the MOST immature and heartless thing to do. She might go crazy. Give it a proper closure. Talk to her. Be gentle. Dont forget to tell how precious her friendship is to u, but you are simply not *there* to have a relationship with her. Talk about her good qualities, and tell her it's not about her as a person....that u love her as a person. Tell her it is not her fault. Tell her that her friendship will mean a lot to you, but only if she is ready for that. Stay calm even when she is getting mad or hurt. Be a support to her. But keep telling her again n again that you can't see her hurt....and u can't lead her on. That this is the right thing to do as of now. All the best... stay compassionate.

PS: But I do want to point out one thing. It is possible that in ur compassion, you might lead her down the road again....as she will continue to see "hope" with you if u stay in touch with her. So keep that in mind.

Usually, the best course is when a couple takes a clean break...and then returns as friends when strong feelings have died with time. If she can do that, it will be best.

Answer 3

Be honest. Let her know how you feel that you don't want a relationship with her because you feel that your incompatible. Tell her that it is best if she finds someone else because you are not interested in her in that way. However, you still like to be her friend. Or better yet find her someone else. You know so she can stop pursuing you! LOL Then it will be his problem to deal with her neediness and not you! LOL Wow..some women are so funny..she needs to find some hobbies or something. LOL Be gentle..don't say anything mean to her or put her down. Don't let her whine and ask but why? Let it go and let her deal with it. I suggest telling her that you need you space too. So, that she can find someone that likes her back. Thanks for being a "good guy."

Answer 4

Let her down easy. There is nothing wrong with her thinking your special is there ,you are.Dont hurt her but let her down easy and see what happens. you dont want to be tangled in something that you dont want when miss right comes along.Be kind and say something.

Answer 5

easy? Honey, there really isn't an easy way. Be honest with her. Explain how you feel. Its better to do it now rather then waiting cause she's just going to think that you like her more and more. Stop flirting with her, and just let her know where you stand. Tell her that you just want to be friends. She might be hurt by it, but if she gets mad, its her problem. It'll pass.

Answer 6

She obviously likes you very much.
Have you shown any signs of affection back to her?
If not then i'm sure you could tell her that she's a great friend and keep treating her like a friend.
If she starts getting upset about you not 'getting it' then you could tell her that you do get it and you don't think you are right for each other.
Unless you feel different ;)
Good luck!

Answer 7

honestly if she really likes you there no easy way to do it, you just have to spit it out, in a nice way of coarse, tell her you value her friendship and hope yous will stay friends, its better to do that than let her to develope deeper feelings, by avoiding the situation
good luck antway

Answer 8

you just have to tell her DIRECTLY - - it's going to be a big blow to her no matter how you tell her.

It is going to be important that you make an effort to keep your friendship with her and others. There are a number of people who will be friends, but only one person who is a soulmate (at a time).
if you commit to being a friend, then she still has a friend even if she isn't going to be in a dating relationship with you. I think it is stupid to never see someone again just because you aren't going to date. I still am friends with women that I knew back in high school 30 years ago, and it didn't work to date them - good thing neither of them was the right person for me, but they are still good friends, and that's a good thing. I think if you just tell them that they aren't the right person for you as a mate but you still care for them, and value them and still really want to remain friends and you still want to stay in touch with them, m aybe the blow won't be as bad. Just do it with compassion.
You aren't rejecting them as a person - you just don't want to marry them. There are lots of people who I think make good friends but I wouldn't want to marry them and they wouldn't want to marry me. - It takes THE ONE person to make it work.
Just tell her that she isn't THE ONE for you. nicely

Answer 9

First of all, be honest and genuine. There is no easy way to tell someone you're not interested in them.

Answer 10

You're going to hurt her no matter what. But the easiest way to do it?
Just say to her "i dont think its working out" dont list stuff she or you did wrong. that's all you have to say. apologize and walk away. if she asks questions, just say "its not working out" over and over again till she gets it through her head.