Ok here i go. My boyfriend is in the air force! We have been dating for five months, but we have had feeling for eachother for a couple of years. We have always been friends. Well he is now located 3000 miles away on the east coast. I have decided that i really want to move and he wants me too! He says he will help with my school and everything. And he even talked about getting eloped and then in a couple of years when we are stable and on our feet we will have a big wedding and all the things. This is all great, but the thing is i am eighteen and my parents are not to happy with my situation they think once i move i willl drop out and start a family, but u know me better!! But this thing has got in the way of the family they all leave me out of things and never talk to me anymore. Should i stay and wait a year or should i go and have time to build a firmer relationship before he gets deployed? I love him but i do not want to lose my family over my decisions as an adult!!
2007-02-23 13:49:53 · 3 answers · asked by BeautifulLady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My thoughts are with you BeautifulLady. It's clear from your question that you are very much in love with this guy. It just doesn't sound like now is the right time for you to give up everything in your life to be with him.
Long-distance relationships are tough but I think they CAN succeed with trust, patience and, most importantly, effort. Perhaps you could stay put for a while but still put 100% effort into firming your relationship from afar. Perhaps you can use this time, a year or so maybe, to formulate a plan for your life together wherever he is deployed. Remember just because he is in the air force doesn't mean you should make sacrifices over you're career. It is natural for your parents to be worried about the prospect of you eloping on a whim so maybe if you do have a plan and they see that you are serious about it, you'll be able to allay their fears.
In the meantime, be the best girlfriend you can be in spite the distance between you. If you do get to visit each other, cherish every second you spend together. The effort you put in now might lay solid foundations for a dream relationship in years to come. I wish you all the best.
2007-02-23 15:23:02 · answer #1 · answered by InsideSix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for a bit. Even if you have known him for a while and known you were interested in him, five months is not enough time to say lets elope--especially at your age. There are a ton of things that you will be exposed to over the next five to seven years that may make the relationship much less appealing to you then and instead of getting to know each other without any obligations you'll be in the middle of your marriage going through developmental struggles. Besides if you move to the east coast and he is deployed you'll be alone and in a strange place. Just wait a bit and if you are ready in six months or a year go for it.
2007-02-23 13:59:36 · answer #2 · answered by indydst8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date other guys! He's dating other women regardless of what he's telling you!
2007-02-23 13:59:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋