To women Muslims (how do you feel about your status in Islam)?

Question

I am not a Muslim, but have always been curious about Islam and the way that women are treated. My question is directed at women in the Islamic religion. Are you happy with the way that the customs of the Islamic religion treat you?

Answer 1

Oh please, you will not get a satisfactory answer. They will either attack you for asking or tell you that Islam protects women (this is why thier countries have some of the lowest literacy rates for women, God is protecting them from Books I guess?).

Mark my word.

Did you ever think, we have women that lead Space Shuttle missions, but in Saudi Arabia, the Center of Islam women cant even drive? (ok not for you but all the Muslims who are going to write how great Islam is for women. What exactly do you need protection from? Are your men, humans or animals with no self control, that the sight of a woman driving makes them rapists?)

Answer 2

I am very happy! I recently converted to Islam and married a Muslim man, and I as a woman have never felt more respected!
The good Muslim men don't look or stare at me, immediately they lower they eyes out of respect as do I.
Women are treated just the same in Islam as in the Muslim world. We have rights and a Woman and a mother are considered something very very good in Islam You as a MAN MUST Respect all Mothers.
If a son mistreats his Mother it is something really bad for him, God looks down upon that as something terribly bad.
Even between a man and wife there must be respect.
In the rare occasions a man will take on two wives, first he asks his first wife and then if the wife agrees he goes ahead with it. I know a few women that are "sharing" a husband and they are extremely happy!
Islam is something for men and women. I feel more respect in Islam then in the Western world.
I enjoy that my Husband doesn't want me to work, and I enjoy that he feels it's wrong if I go out by myself. He is concerned so much about my welfare and because of this, When I go out I may not always wear the abaya but I do cover myself respectably. Because my Body is meant for only my Husband, no man should be looking at me thinking lustful thoughts....

I Love Islam, and Love being a Muslim Woman!

Answer 3

I'm not Muslim either, but one of the things that you need to know is that the Islamist view and Islam are two different things. As well, not all predominately Islamic countries practice the same policies and not all allow themselves to be governed by a gross misinterpretation of either the Quran or Sharia law.

And yes, it is more than possible to be a Muslim woman and a feminist. I'm adding some book titles for you to read. It should help. But read anything and everything that you can find from the first author. And be certain to read the second title as well. That attitude is not unique to Islam. (Yes, I've been doing my reading.)

Yours is an interesting question, but please remember that it's not specific to any one religion.

Answer 4

I am a muslim and i'm happy the way islam treats me cuz frankly im granted all the rights women are offered in america (where im living).
i am not oppressed nor is my voice. the customs of Islam grant me fair treatment from other fellow men and women etc

Answer 5

Women's Liberation Through Islam
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By Mary Ali and Anjum Ali for III&E

Today people think that women are liberated in the West and that the Women’s liberation movement began in the 20th century. Actually, the women’s liberation movement was not begun by women but was revealed by God to a man in the seventh century by the name of Muhammad (Peace be upon him), who is known as the last Prophet of Islam. The Qur’an and the Traditions of the Prophet (Hadith or Sunnah) are the sources from which every Muslim woman derives her rights and duties.

HUMAN RIGHTS

Islam, fourteen centuries ago, made women equally accountable to God in glorifying and worshipping Him – setting no limits on her moral progress. Also, Islam established a woman’s equality in her humanity with men, In the Qur’an, in the first verse of the chapter entitled "Women", God says, "O mankind! Be careful of your duty toward your Lord who created you from a single soul and from it its mate and from them both have spread abroad a multitude of men and women. Be careful of your duty toward Allah in Whom you claim (your rights) of one another, and towards the wombs (that bore you). Lo! Allah has been a Watcher over you." (4:1)

Since men and women both came from the same essence, they are equal in their humanity. Women cannot be by nature evil (as some religions believe) or then men would be evil, also. Similarly, neither gender can be superior because it would be a contradiction to equality.

CIVIL RIGHTS

In Islam, a woman has the basic freedoms of choice and expression based on recognition of her individual personality. First, she is free to choose her religion. The Qur’an states: "There is no compulsion in religion. Right has been made distinct from error." (2:256)

Women are encouraged in Islam to contribute their opinions and ideas. There are many traditions of the Prophet(S) which indicate women would pose questions directly to him and offer their opinions concerning religion, economics and social matters.

A Muslim woman chooses her husband and keeps her name after marriage. A Muslim woman’s testimony is valid in legal disputes. In fact, where women are more familiar, their evidence is conclusive.

SOCIAL RIGHTS

The Prophet(S) said, "seeking knowledge is a mandate for every Muslim (male and female)". This includes knowledge of the Qur’an and the Hadith as well as other knowledge. Men and women both have the capacity for learning and understanding. Since it is also their obligation to promote good behavior and condemn bad behavior in all spheres of life, Muslim women must acquire the appropriate education to perform this duty in accordance with their own natural talents and interests.

While bearing, raising and teaching of children, providing support to her husband, and maintenance of a home are among the first and very highly regarded roles for a woman, if she has the skills to work outside the home for the good of the community, she may do so as long as her family obligations are met.

Islam recognizes and fosters the natural differences between men and women despite their equality. Some types of work are more suitable for men and other types for women. This in no way diminishes either’s efforts or benefits. God will reward both sexes equally for the value of their work, through, it may not necessarily be the same activity.

Concerning motherhood, the Prophet(S) said, "Heaven lies under the feet of mothers". This implies that the success of a society can be traced to the mothers who raised it. The first and greatest influence on a person comes from the sense of security, affection, and training received from the mother. Therefore, a woman having children must be educated and conscientious in order to be a skillful parent.

POLITICAL RIGHTS

A right given to Muslim women by God 1400 years ago is the right to vote. On any public matter, a woman may voice her opinion and participate in politics. One example, as narrated in the Qur’an (60:12), Muhammad(S) is told that when the believing women come to him and swear their allegiance to Islam, he must accept their oath. This established the right of women to select their leader and publicly declare so. Finally, Islam does not forbid a woman from holding important positions in government. Abdurrahman Ibn Affan consulted many women before he recommended Uthman Ibn Affan to be the Caliph.

ECONOMIC RIGHTS

The Qur’an states: "By the creation of the male and female; Verily, (the ends) ye strive for are diverse." (92:3-4)

In these verses, God declares that He created men and women to be different, with unique roles, functions and skills. As in society, where there is a division of labor, so too in a family, each member has different responsibilities. Generally, Islam upholds that women are entrusted with the nurturing role, and men, with the guardian role. Therefore, women are given the right of financial support.

The Qur’an an states: "Men are the maintainers of women because Allah has made some of them to excel others and because they spend of their wealth (for the support of women)." (4:34)

This guardianship and greater financial responsibility given to men, requires that they provide women with not only monetary support but also physical protection and kind respectful treatment.

Muslim women have the privilege to earn money, the right to own property, to enter into legal contracts and to mange all of her assets in any way she pleases. She can run her own business and no one has any claim on her earnings, including her husband.

The Qur’an states: "And in no wise covet those things in which Allah hath bestowed His gifts more freely on some of you than on others; to men is allotted what they earn, and to women, what they earn; but ask Allah of His bounty for Allah hath full knowledge of all things." (4:32)

A woman inherits from her relatives. The Qur’an states: "For men there is a share in what parents and relatives leave, and for women there is a share of what parents and relatives leave, whether it be little or much - an ordained share." (4:7)

RIGHTS OF A WIFE

The Qur’an states: "And among His signs is that He created for you mates from among yourselves that you may live in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between you; Verily, in that are signs for people who reflect." (30:21)

Marriage is therefore not just a physical or emotional necessity but, in fact, a sign from God! It is a relationship of mutual rights and obligations based on divine guidance. God created men and women with complimentary natures and, in the Qur’an, He laid out a system of laws to support harmonious interaction between the sexes.

"…They are your garments and you are their garments." (2:187)

Clothing provides physical protection and covers the beauty and faults of the body. Likewise, a spouse is viewed this way. Each protects the other and hides the faults and compliments the characteristics of the spouse. To foster the love and security that comes with marriage, Muslim wives have various rights. The first of the wife’s rights is to receive mahr, a gift from the husband, which is part of the marriage contract and required for the legality of the marriage.

The second right of a wife is maintenance. Despite any wealth she may have, her husband is obligated to provide her with food, shelter and clothing. He is not forced, however, to spend beyond his capability and his wife is not entitled to make unreasonable demands. The Qur’an states "Let the man of means spend according to his means, and the man whose resources are restricted, let him spend according to what Allah has given him. Allah puts no burden on any person beyond what He has given him." (65:7)

God tells us men are guardians over women and are afforded the leadership in the family. His responsibility for obeying God extends to guiding his family to obey God at all times.

A wife’s rights also extend beyond material needs. She has the right to kind treatment. The Prophet(S) said, "The most perfect believers are the best in conduct. And the best of you are those who are the best to their wives." God tells us He created mates and put love, mercy and tranquility between them.

Both men and women have a need for companionship and sexual needs and marriage is designed to fulfill those needs. For one spouse to deny this satisfaction to the other, the temptation exists to seek it elsewhere.

DUTIES OF WIFE

With rights come responsibilities. Therefore, wives have certain obligations to their husbands. The Qur’an states: "The good women in the absence of their husbands guard their rights as Allah has enjoined upon them to be guarded."(4:34)

A wife is to keep her husband’s secrets and protect their marital privacy. Issues of intimacy of faults of his that would dishonor him, are not to be shared by the wife, just as he is expected to guard her honor.

A wife must also guard her husband’s property. She must safeguard his home and possessions, to the best of her ability, from theft or damage. She should manage the household affairs wisely so as to prevent loss or waste. She should not allow anyone to enter the house whom her husband dislikes nor incur any expenses of which her husband disapproves.

A Muslim woman must cooperate and coordinate with her husband. There cannot, however, be cooperation with a man who is disobedient to God. She should not fulfill his requests if he wants her to do something unlawful. A husband also should not take advantage of his wife, but be considerate of her needs and happiness.

CONCLUSION

The Qur’an states: "And it becomes not a believing man or a believing woman, when Allah and His Messenger, Muhammad (P) have decided on an affair (for them), that they should (after that) claim any say in their affair; and whoso is rebellious to Allah and His Messenger, he verily goes astray in error manifest," (33:36)

The Muslim woman was given a role, duties and rights 1400 years ago that most women do not enjoy today, even in the West. These are from God and are designed to keep balance in society; what may seem unjust or missing in one place is compensated for or explained in another place. Islam is a complete way of life