I would to make the decision to stop talking to her ...!! what should I do ?

Question

I don't know , but my ex seems to be still wanting to talk with me ..We both broke up, but she was more firm on her decision ..she moved on immediately with another guy ..but, still want to stay my friend ...well, me too , but I can't talk to her yet ..but I can't resist not talking to her when she sends me an email or an IM ...we don't talk about love anymore, but we talked about general things ...!! but, one day I would to make the decision to stop talking to her , and to stop worry about her ...so I can move on too ...!! because, talking to her doesn't do any goo to me ...but, also not talking to her when she sends a msg makes me feel weird either ..what should I do to stop for a while ...? but, I wonder why would a girl who is happy with her new bf still wants to talk to his 1st ex ...? do you think she might still has a little thing for me or is it that she doesn't have feelings but talk to me as a friend ..?

Answer 1

My dear - she just wants the best of both worlds. She wants to have the best of you, but not all of you and enjoy her new guy. I'm sorry for your loss, I think that you need to take care of yourself right now and maybe send her an email stating that you right now can't talk to her, you don't want to think about her...it's too painful and maybe someday though you wish her well you can be friends. But right now, you'll be cordial but nothing more. People aren't Tissues...but it's ok to take a break from someone that causes you pain or holds you back from moving forward.

Answer 2

well if you guys had a mutual agreement to break up..that means you guys didnt fight horribly..meaning you guys might be better as friends..she dated you for a reason..odds are she wants to keep that part of the relationship...the talking..she enjoys your company maybe or she enjoys talking to you...but you need to think about yourself right now..because she has moved on..you should too its not fair for you to keep kidding yourself...talk to her..tell her how youre feeling..dont just stop talking to her..you need to tell her the only way you can move on is if you stop communicating for a while..it will suck at first but slowly things will get better..and if and when you move on and find someone who cares about you just as much as you care about them..then maybe you can go back to talking to your ex...as friends...