My girlfriend of 6 months doesn't talk to me about how she feels because she said that she fears that I will blow it out of proportion and I'll be mad at what she have to say or what she feels. I told her that she needs to trust that I won't do that but I don't know what else to do. What should I do?
2007-02-23 13:23:50 · 14 answers · asked by DVS 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she does trust you and just wants yall to be very happy thats all
2007-02-27 01:27:20 · answer #1 · answered by just right 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sure sounds like old "home week" many moons ago. Take it from an "Old Fart" like me that you are just beginning to enter into the realm of the "Mysteries of Women".
The women is the true comunicator in relationships. She will let you know when you are being too sensitive, too insensitive, too nosy, too uncaring, too caring, or just plain "too male". You have no say in this matter. Don't push her and don't nag her or else you will be blamed for all that follows, regardless. Let her open up to you in her own good time and, remember this well, be supportive and hear her out completely. Give her advise only if she asks for it and be as specific as possible. Do not compare her situation with any person (living or dead) because hers is unique and has never happened to another soul before it happened to her.
Hey... You've got big shoulders and I guarentee that your gonna need them for your GF to cry on.
2007-02-23 21:41:48 · answer #2 · answered by shaboom2k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you and she need to make a safe environment in which you both can trust each other enough that you can share feelings and thoughts and fears. Thats the ideal kind of relationship to have.
Remember, whatever you Do feel is totaly ok for you to feel. The next step is to become aware of it and express it and get some kind loving responses, and maybe therapy, depending on what comes out.
2007-02-23 21:30:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just help her become more comfortable enough with you to tell you intimate details like that. Explain to her that you wished she would tell you how she feels about certain things because it may make the relationship better. And all relationships need communication in order to work.
2007-02-23 21:27:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she just wants to keep it to herself for now and when she's ready to tell you what she's feeling, she'll tell you, she just may need more time to be comfortable with you, 6 months isn't really a long time, you're still just getting to know each other.
2007-02-23 21:35:54 · answer #5 · answered by robotchic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you done this in the past? Maybe she feels this way because of past actions? If this is not the case, then you both need to work on communication.
2007-02-23 21:30:12 · answer #6 · answered by ~Secretrose~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can trust her with special things no one else no's, that way she'll no u trust her, hopefully she'll start to trust you. u cant push her on this if she feels scared wait a bit then talk about it. Trust and u will be trusted.
2007-02-23 21:29:57 · answer #7 · answered by Reeses' 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she cannot trust you and your relationship enough to be honest with you I think that you don't have much of a relationship/
Here's what I think, I think she is gonna dump you and is not yet ready to tell you.
2007-02-23 21:27:51 · answer #8 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a new relationship, give her time to feel that comfotable with you, and how you may react to her feelings. She may have been in relationships before where somethings where best left unsaid.
2007-02-23 21:29:54 · answer #9 · answered by Christina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well have she ever tryed to talk to you before that resulted in you blowing up? if so then i dont blame her. if not this is a problem with her own issues. you will just have to let her come to you when shes ready.
2007-02-23 21:36:09 · answer #10 · answered by angelbrat462901 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you given her reason to feel this way or is it residual crap from a previous relationship or even her father. In the long run, it's simple...no communication, no relationship. They go together
2007-02-23 21:29:47 · answer #11 · answered by al b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋