my sons father is in jail an he keeps goin back this is not the first time! i love him but i dont think i can take him goin to jail all the time picking drugs over our son an I! what do i do leave him or stay?
2007-02-23 13:21:55 · 11 answers · asked by shayna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your baby should come first. Why are you even asking this question when you know the answer? You need to walk away from this relationship before your baby is put into any danger. Your baby's father has made his choice, now you need to make yours. Good Luck and I will keep you in my prayers.
2007-02-23 13:28:47 · answer #1 · answered by nana4dakids 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem. You need to just leave. Its really hard at first I know but if he is anything like my ex he will never stop the drugs. If it makes you feel better I am now married with two other children and my husband adopted my first child. Really thank about your "family" in ten years. How do you want to live? No money because he spends it on drugs and him in and out of jail? or take your chances on your own and find something better for you and your son?
2007-02-23 23:23:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him! seriously a drug/jail environment is not good for a kid it only sets examples. I'm sure hes a great guy and a good father, he might say hes going to change but he hasn't shown that and even if he was to stop that's only for now who says he wont relapse in a few years time.
You dont want your kid growing up around that. Your son can still see his father but just not have to see the bad side of him if you were to live separate.
Trust me its for the best.
2007-02-23 21:36:28 · answer #3 · answered by Lucy W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break away from him real fast! if you want to have any thing out of life, if you don't one day you might be going to jail with him and the baby will end up in foster care don't wait on him if this is his normal way of living let him have it. think about your child don't ever think you cannot make it as long as you have breath in your body you can make it you say he picks drugs over your son then tell me why are you picking him over your son?i will say this.... he is setting a bad example for your child to follow most people think that children does not see things but they do and carry it the rest of their lives and it surface as anger, resentment,abusesiveness relationships,rapeing, robbing and murder, or drug use so think about you and your baby get in church lay a foundation for you and your child put positive things in your life and his life
2007-02-23 23:45:00 · answer #4 · answered by mishoney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What values do you want your son to have? What type of man do you want your son to become? Can you handle having half of him while he is giving his all to drugs and jail? You need to seriously set down and ask your self what price are you will to pay for loving him? Your life, your son's life.
Bottom line: Children learn what we teach them and if a parent is constantly in and out of jail and on drugs and you continue to let him be in your life and your son's life he is going to learn that that lifestyle is fine.
2007-02-23 21:36:09 · answer #5 · answered by calmlikeatimebomb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what is best for the safety and security of your son and yourself. Do you really want a police raid at your house when he returns home because he's into drugs? Do you want your son growing up in that environment? If not, then do what you have to and leave him, even if it means leaving the state to get away from him.
2007-02-23 21:26:51 · answer #6 · answered by Meredith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has a track record of jail do not look for it to change. DRUGS! Is that the life you want around your child and yourself? Don't just walk honey,RUN as fast as you can and stay away from him.
2007-02-23 21:28:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, DUH? When are you going to wake up? If not for you sake for your child's. His "love" is drugs. . . not you or your son. If you can't DUMP this stone-cold loser and druggie, at least give your son up for adoption so he can have a chance at a decent life.
2007-02-23 21:39:08 · answer #8 · answered by morahastits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were u i would take it easy and analyze what is the best thing for u and Ur son.. there is nothing wrong what doing the best for your children.
2007-02-23 21:28:01 · answer #9 · answered by teebone_23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what kind of question is this? you need to take responsibility of your child and leave his ***
2007-02-23 21:33:15 · answer #10 · answered by bubba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋