Suppose a minor about 16 or 17 gets kicked out of school, they then through a year and a half get back to their zoned school. After being there for about a week they say that they would prefer an alternate school. You cooperate and they are waiting to be registered. In this time, you'd assume that they'd be looking for a job, but they arent. Instead they are getting high with their friends. You have two kids and when you ask the 16/17 year old why they were getting high with their friends you think "...but my other one is the exact opposite..." Now this kid got kicked out of thier original school for the exact same reason, and he/she was over the withdrawl symptoms and on the way to success. You've just come to find out they have stolen four hundred dollars from your atm account. First thirty dollars then eighty next one hundred and lastly two hundred dollars. When you confront them they say thier friend is in some trouble and that they'd be killed if they didnt come up with the money.
2007-02-23 13:12:59 · 6 answers · asked by russelthurmond 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
If it was my kid, I would call the police and have him arrested for stealing from me.
2007-02-23 13:17:59 · answer #1 · answered by Aaliyah & Natalie's Mommy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many issues here. It's so hard when a person is still a minor and your responsibility but does not respond to your guidance and rules.
Has said kid been checked out for mental disorders like bipolar or borderline personality? The kid may need treatment. There has to be some reason the kid has no respect for you and is so destructive to self.
I strongly urge counseling. If your child will not go, I suggest you go. You need help and support to keep your sanity while you cope with this child. If you can't afford it check out local agencies that might have a sliding scale or parenting support groups.
Good luck my heart goes out to you.
2007-02-23 21:35:30 · answer #2 · answered by Karrose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a firm believer in tough love when it comes to kids especially if it involves drugs. Your kid is using that line someone would be killed if money wasn't given,so you wouldn't get mad, tell your kid to go to his friends parents or the police, not to steal your money. Tell the kid if it happens again you will press charges. Stick the kids butt into rehab. Make the other kid get a job or get out. They have 2 weeks to get a job and a month to start giving you money for living there.
2007-02-23 21:26:34 · answer #3 · answered by Virginia C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Call a help line in your area to find help for troubled teens.
2. Find a way to get into a sliding scale family therapy.
3. If you have a relative that lives on a farm send them there.
4. Look at your own life style. Are you a good or bad example? Try to look at their point of view. It doesn't mean that they can get away with anything it just means you need to also clean up your act.
2007-02-23 21:24:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is quite sad, I would suggest rehabilitation. They need to come clean and learn that stealing is a crime and people get punished for it.
2007-02-23 21:21:33 · answer #5 · answered by Sean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've done the soft love thing.
Tiem for tough love.
Have them arrested.
Also, get them in counseling.
2007-02-23 21:32:11 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer Anne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋