how do i help others?

Question

when i can't even help myself helping others makes me feel better but i still go w/ my unsolved problems and i want to help but it seems weird thanks in advance

i do give my answers athought and give it the best logical scenario

Answer 1

I often feel inadequate. But you have to remember that so many people do and still help others. In fact, I'm sure you've helped others without even realizing it.

But this probably doesn't answer your question completely. Try to listen and see things from others point-of-view. Sometimes what people want and need is just someone who will listen to them. You can also think about them, make sure they know you care. This doesn't mean you have to straight out tell them you love them or something, but do something so they'll realize that you are thinking of them when they aren't around. I know I feel better when I realize someone actually cares for me.

And as to feeling better about yourself, I've noticed the more I help others and do service, the better I feel. Since you feel the same way, I think this probably means something... Maybe service is connected to love? When we love, we serve and when we serve, we are loved?

But don't be afraid to ask for help yourself. Give someone else the chance to serve and feel good about themselves. ^_^

Good luck!

Answer 2

Two People are Drowning.
The First Person Tells the Second Person How to Swim.
The Second Person Learns (real fast) and Swims over to Help first Person.
As they head to the Shore, the Second Person Asks the First Person---Why didn't you just Swim to the Shore and let me Drown?
The First Person says "I don't have any legs".

Just made this up so if any errors, I attribute to the devil made me do it.
Over and out,
Ditto.....................

Answer 3

Life is full of unsolved problems and we all go through life sorting out some while discovering new ones. Some are spiritual, some are material.

Don't get in to the habit of avoiding your own problems which it sounds like you're doing. You can avoid your problems for only so long but they will chase you, catch up with you and bite you in the @rse.

It sounds like you are trying to raise your levels of self eteem indirectly. Feel better about yourself for helping others rather than feeling better about yourself by confronting your own feelings of low self esteem. It's a very common thing but I have to tell you to sort your self out first as you may pass on some of your problems to others.

If you're feelings about yourself and the world are tainted with personal resentment and bitterness, you may scar somebody psychologically.

You do have to learn to see things for exactly what they are and despite my spiritual beliefs, you have to do this in a very scientific way.

The human brain picks up negativity like a computer does. Computers get viruses, malware, spyware etc. and we get false beliefs, obsessions, delusions, addictions etc.

1st step stop watching ANY TV for the next 6 months, eat healthily every day, drink lots of fluid, give up drinking, smoking, drugs etc. Avoid looking at magazines and expect nothing from anybody.

You only feel inadequate if you place expectations over yourself to be or to acheive or to have

Re-assess who your friends are, who you trust and who you like to be around. Ask yourself what attracts you sexually. Ask yourself what you like doing, what do you enjoy?

At various times you'll be tempted to lie to yourself in order to fit in with what you believe you should be. Those things are the source of your problems. If you have severe, potentially dangerous issues such as suicidal feelings, obsessive behaviour, self harm, eating disorders or have emotional issues from being abused. You must seek professional help and be unafraid to do so.

It's never weird to want to help people and every person who has answered this question will want to help. All of us can see something of ourselves in what you have written. When you are ready to help others you'll do it just for the sake of helping, sometimes you won't even know your helping or know that you helped. You'll hope that you did but know you can't solve the world's problems for it.

I made somebody a cup of tea the other day for a driver who'd been on the road for ages and although a cup of tea means nothing, it meant everything. He said you wouldn't believe how long it had been since somebody offered him a cuppa at the places he delivered to. He'd gone back to the type of driving he was doing and was getting paid less and was sort of unhappy.
He said I'd restored his faith in people and turned around the way he saw his job.

He'd only stopped for directions but it was late and was already dark. He had the tea, said thanks and went on his way. There's no big secret to that. I don't really know why I offered him a tea then but being in touch with who you are and how you feel tunes you in to all sorts of things. I'm not a great human being for making a cup of tea. But I did something good and it helped somebody. All it did for me was make me glad something so simple could have such an effect.

For me it was just nice that somebody acknowledged and appreciated something I'd done in a world that lacks appreciation.

You'll get there. It may take time but be patient.

Answer 4

it's ok. but if you give advice that you can't take yourself, then you need to recognize this within yourself and towards the other person. recognize the difficulty in following what you believe will help the other person (and yourself).

Answer 5

It helps no matter what to help others and you will be rewarded and find the answers you seek.pray and listen and do

Answer 6

we are always willing to do more for others than ourself.... there isnt anything wrong with that really
except we wont always be able to help others if we arent in condition to
so you look after yourself , love yourself , help yourself enough so that you may continue to be there for others

Answer 7

give sincere answers , others may not face the same problems no money and such, so if your sincere you can tell them what you would do in their situation..