I lost my virginity like 4 years ago but i still dont feel any pleasure, just once i did but the worst is that i still feel a lil bit of pain when we make some positions, my friend make fun of me because i cant come or feel goodwhen having sex i just feel like i got something inside of me but thats all ..any advice?
2007-02-23 13:09:24 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe its becoz of the way the penis hits ur vagina but pain and discomfort during sex rnt gd they can b a sign of sti/d's b on the safe side have a check up get it now if it is ne thing b4 its 2 l8 all the best. oh i heard sum women (its believed) dont have a g spot its not prooved that every woman has 1 so maybe ur 1 of them unlucky 1s keep tryin diff positions tho and try pleasing ur self the g spot is approx 2 inchs into the vagina 1ce u have found it it willl be easier 4 u 2 guide him 2 it all teh best!!
2007-02-23 13:15:39 · answer #1 · answered by blossom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GO get a full check up like a PAP EXAIME, and have a GYNO do some tests on you to make sure you are okay...That or just break up with the guy cuz if there's no pleasure there. you sound unhappy why keep going on like this any more? Go seek tthe help for the best way on figuring out what might be wrong...please
2007-02-23 13:15:00 · answer #2 · answered by memjabeana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many books on this. He probally could do more to prepare you before sex that might make it a more pleasurable experience for you. Buy a better sex book. Have him use toys on you. Does he go for the gold right away or does he attend your other areas first, that could be a problem right there.
If I am not mistaken their is a drug a women can take to stimulate her more. I know there are some natural herbs that are rumored to help.
2007-02-23 13:17:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
foreplay, foreplay, foreplay, foreplay.
A lot of women don't derive a lot of pleasure from penetration. It's pretty normal. After all, our sex organ is not IN the vagina, it's right outside of it.
You should masturbate first. How can you ask him to give you want you like if you don't know? You need to figure it out.
Google these terms, learn all you can:
female masturbation
g-spot
cunnilingus (how to)
clitoris (aquaint yourself with this one!)
Get a vibrator like the Magic Bullet or the iVibe that are meant for clitoral stimulation.
Good luck.
While it's true there MIGHT be a medical reason for this... I doubt it...
2007-02-23 13:19:12 · answer #4 · answered by Tiff 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is your feeling because you lost virginity at an early age & did sex without having truthful & loyal relationship. So now you have started suffering from such trouble. Now ignore sex & maintain sincere relationship, a time will come when you feel for sex from your heart, only then you will not feel this problem.
2007-02-23 13:24:00 · answer #5 · answered by P S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is normal for a lot of people i to had the same problem when i was having sex and still do some times its only with certain postions
i could be because he is to big or he might be doing u to hard u just
have to find the best way to have sex but it will get better trust me
there is nothing wrong with u this happens to a lot of people
2007-02-23 13:19:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a doctor and then teach that boyfriend how to give good head. It isn't you, it is him. A good lover makes sure his woman is having a GREAT time in bed and not just pounding her brains out. Sex is intimate and the best when you have a open, fun, lover. Sounds like you don't have one of those men.
2007-02-23 13:13:05 · answer #7 · answered by Patrick G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever felt pleasure at all? I would question my sexuality if you feel that way, maybe guys aren't your thing.As for pain with different positions, i would go to my gyno to get checked out , your pubic bone may be fractured and maybe that's why you experience pain.
2007-02-23 13:14:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First suggestion would be to openly discuss with your boyfriend which positions are comfortable / uncomfortable. Second suggestion would be to consult with your OB/GYN to determine is there is something internally causing the pain. Hope this helps :)
2007-02-23 13:16:33 · answer #9 · answered by JK352 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the same way...have only been with my fiancee though. Were you raped in your past? That could cause problems....I was orally raped at 15 and I know thats where my problems begun. I suggest talking to your doctor...
2007-02-23 13:13:14 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Mommy to 3 year old Jacob and baby on the way♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋