my mom kicked me out because she doesnt like my bf, i dont no why, he is respectful,hes got a job,his own house and has never done anything to hurt me. i really love my mom and when i ask why she doesnt like him, she cant get a reason why, my mom nos that im pg, and i really just want to go home, but i really love my bf, and i dont want to leave him, im currently living with my bf's parents and him cuz his house is beimg re-painted, but what should i do??
2007-02-23 13:05:06 · 10 answers · asked by mari <(*_*)> 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he is treating you right and is helping you through your pregnancy, stick with him. If your mother has forsaken you, just continue to love her and her love for you will conquer all squabbles. It may take a while but it can happen. My sister's b/f lives with me and her because his parents didn't approve of him dating a black girl. Isn't that terrible? but they love each other and are seeing this thing through, and we haven't given up hope that his parents will change thier ways. His father has started to crack so we figure his mom can't be far behind.
Just keep pressing on. You'll be okay. Just continue to pray.
God bless.
2007-02-23 13:12:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the most likely reason your mom doesn't care for your boyfriend, is simply because (regardless of your age) you are and always will be her little girl. The idea that she has to accept that you've gained so many adult responsibilities in so little time is frustrating for a mom to have to see their daughter go through and can throw off parental perspective in a really bad way, leading to the blow out that ended up with you no longer being home. Perhaps explaining to your mom, that while you understand that you getting pregnant may not have fit into her dreams for you at your current age, that it is the reality of things now, and that while you understand her being upset, it's very important to you AND YOUR BOYFRIEND that she be part of her new grandchild's life. Let her know that you also understand that while she loves you, that you can see why she was upset about the order and speed of things, and that placing all her anger toward the father of her grandchild can hurt things in the long run, and you really don't want that. If your mom is the type of mom that has a very hard time letting you get everything you need to say out, then maybe a letter mailed to her, with an invitation to meet you for lunch to talk about the future of things (focusing on what has already happened will not help anybody out after all) together. Leave the next move to her. I also suggest running this idea past your boyfriend's parents and see if maybe they'd like to do something to help to get to know your parents better, since they are now connected through this situation and will be around one another for a very long time if they all hope to be a healthy part of their grandchild's life. It's become your job now to ensure that you can glue everyone together into a family unit before your baby comes, even if it means eating some crow. Showing the effort to your mom might make all the difference in the world and help her to understand that maybe you are more grown up than she is giving you credit for, and even if she doesn't come to that understanding, she will at least know that you realize the responsibilities that are involved in keeping family ties strong, and will more likely than not... respect you for your efforts.
2016-05-24 04:15:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your Mom is deeply hurt that the two of you are having a child. If you were paying attention during your upbringing, you would know this. From her point of view, making her daughter pregnant, is not respectful, responsible or even a remotely intelligent thing to do. Of course in Mom's eye's its all his fault, but you can be sure that you can share in her disdain. What should you do, accept full responsibility for your situation. Show your Mom, by taking pre natal courses, and getting a job to help provide for the baby. IN the most sincerest way you know how, acknowledge to your Mom that the timing of your pregnancy in her eyes was poor but that your are trying to accept that responsibility. Tell her that you really need her to help you through this. Mom's love to be needed....you'll find out soon enough.
2007-02-23 13:17:19 · answer #3 · answered by al b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there, she will come around.You have to realize it is a shock for her to hear this but after she thinks about it maybe she will realize how much you are going to need her.
You sound like a good person who wants to do the right thing so just take it one day at a time. Thank God your boyfriend's parents are helping you because I am sure this is very hard on you and she needs to realize you are her child and you are trying to do what you think is right. I have friends who have gone through this same thing and it will work out for you. Just keep the faith and pray about it....I will keep you and your mom in mine.
2007-02-23 13:13:40 · answer #4 · answered by nancee l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to just wait, I bet she loves you more then you love her, and you sound like you really love her. She's most likely just upset because she thought you would be older when you had your first child. She might just be shifting the blame on him instead just wait i bet she'll come around, try writing her a letter
2007-02-23 13:10:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take your mom out to lunch and just talk . tell her she is gonna be a grandama and you bf is gonna be in the babys life and she needs to exept it or the baby will grow up with out the babys grandma in its life. good luck
2007-02-23 13:09:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your moms the teffnut get a job and a nice apartment
2007-02-23 13:09:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u rele need to talk to ur mom about it.. i think shes to blame
2007-02-23 13:08:34 · answer #8 · answered by luhb u much!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
become a nun
2007-02-23 13:08:14 · answer #9 · answered by empven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mum doesn't like him because he made her child pregnant...
2007-02-23 13:07:38 · answer #10 · answered by rat_leg danny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋