i recently went through a breakup .. with my first ever boyfriend. it happended about a week ago & i`m still trying to get through it. well, when he broke up with me, he told me he still wanted to be friends. not the ''hi/bye'' types, but the ones who really talk to each other, & hang out, & kid around. we even made a promise to each other saying we`ll be really close friends. the thing is, he`s doing exactly the opposite. when i saw him today, he didn`t even say hi to me. he just walked past me without saying anything. why is he doing this ?
2007-02-23 13:00:23 · 11 answers · asked by miss ZEE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He can talk the talk but can't walk the walk. What he was doing was trying to let you down without hurting you too much. Thing is he only made things worse by his obvious lack of honesty and sincerity. Since this was a friendship of his own designs it was really never meant to be. Want to bet he does this to the next girl he needs to get rid of? You probably couldn't have been friends with him anyway without having false hopes about getting back together with him. So take some time for yourself to sort out your emotions and to get your life back on track. Get over this and move on with your life. In the meantime make the cut final and ignore him completely. See him for the shallow self centered fool that he really is.
2007-02-23 13:26:37 · answer #1 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breakups usually do include someone saying "I want us to remain friends" but in reality they seldom mean it. They are just trying to soften the blow of the breaking up. It is very difficult and takes 2 very special people to be able to go back to being very good friends after having a closer relationship. Give him space and time. Perhaps one day you can be close friends but don't push it for now.
2007-02-23 21:10:45 · answer #2 · answered by Jodi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people say that just to make u feel better. my ex girlfriend sed the same thing and now she doesnt even look at me. it really depends on the person. i dont get the reason y u cant really b friends after a breakup but thats how some people r , but if i say we can be friends i would definitely mean it
2007-02-23 21:09:27 · answer #3 · answered by posada123456 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break up is hard, and everyone that has a human heart and a shred of humanity and kindness always tries to be more subtle in their hints and not be the the bad guy.
a lot of times, not always, when the boy or girl says LETS BE FRIENDS...it usually means good bye on a good note.
2007-02-23 21:03:42 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is "Keeping you in reserve", so to speak. He dosent want to publically aknowledge your friendship, but still knows that you are there if he wants to fool around and have a fling. Not good for you hun... Id walk away from it and find someone who really cares for you.
2007-02-23 21:07:12 · answer #5 · answered by lustydd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no such thing as friends after a relationship. Maybe one in a thousand. Move on and find a true friend.
2007-02-23 21:04:01 · answer #6 · answered by Patrick G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he felt guilty for breaking up with you, and was trying to let you down easy by saying let's be friends.
2007-02-23 21:07:19 · answer #7 · answered by BRIAN W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he really means it..
if he dun.. y spent time to tell u dat.. rite ?
i believe there's still friends after a relationship..
it's not one in a thousand either.. coz i'm one of them
i'm still good frens wit my ex..lol
mayb he was on rush,din notice u,blur or somethin..
i mean hey..u can always be the one to say hi 1st..
c his reaction..
if he reacts good... oh yea.. u guys could be good friends..
if he's cold towards u...
jus 4get wat he had told u..
2007-02-23 21:18:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was being a nice guy, he wanted to let you down easy and not hurt your feelings. He doesn't want to really be friends with you, please don't cry, it hurts I know. Guys don't really want to be friends after a break-up.
2007-02-23 21:08:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may not know how to be friends after you have been dating.. give it time and let him come to you...go on with your life and find someone new.. show him that you can do it
2007-02-23 21:12:00 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋