I am in a dilemma. I *promised* a guy friend of mine that I would go overseas to visit him. He's working there and has been asking me to go over. This is despite the fact that he already has a gf. I suppose he's bored and wants his friends to go over. But, these days, I find myself thinking the better of it. I don't feel like going. It's not that I don't trust him, but I want an end to this see sawing of feelings. At the same time, I have never been to the country and would love to do some sight seeing. Would you have gone if you were me?
2007-02-23 12:59:29 · 28 answers · asked by counterculturalist 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-02-23 13:02:00 · answer #1 · answered by Patrick G 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm a guy.If I were him,and offering to pay for your trip,I would also like to do some sightseeing when you got there,but maybe not the sort you have in mind.And you could do that by staying back home and off someone Else's b/f.
Sounds to me like hes trying to negotiate your value,and I would say,because you have doubts,that you are worth more than that.
I respect you already and I don't know you.Respect yourself too.
If it all goes like horribly wrong,and he makes moves that you don't appreciate,how bad will that be so far from home?
Wait until you can go on your own merit.There is no such thing as a free dinner.good luck and look after yourself.
2007-02-23 13:19:33 · answer #2 · answered by longbow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So do you have feelings for this guy, and are the feelings mutual? If they are and you don't want this to continue I would gracefully bow out by explaining to him that it might not be in the best interest for either of you for you to come. If it is totally a friendship, then what would it hurt. A nice vacation. I would go but only if we were just friends.
2007-02-23 13:09:22 · answer #3 · answered by Debbie E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off..maybe he was just invitied you cause he missed you and not cause he wants to bang you. If you don't wanna go tell him something came up at work and you can't make it. Now what of these mixed feelings ? you have a crush on him is that it ? Did you used to date him or something ? or do you just have feelings for him.?? and if you see him you and him might act on those feelings and cause he has a GF you don't wnat to screw things up ?
What if he was sigle then would you go??
I can't answer the last ? cause I'm not you...and if i were you I don't know.
2007-02-23 13:09:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It kinda depends. your not very clear on what the history is between you. If you have ver fancied him or he has ever fancied you (that you know of) or you've been involved in anyway romantically than i would say no. too precarious a situation. to be fair the fact that you seem so unsure means you made the right decision. if you are feeling this uncomfortable before you go you would not have been likely to enjoy your time there!
2007-02-23 13:05:51 · answer #5 · answered by bamba_982 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I probably wouldn't have gone, think of how his GF must feel and how complicated the situation might have become. If you really wanted to have gone I would have taken another friend along with you.
2007-02-23 19:36:04 · answer #6 · answered by Pearl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like this guy would like to be more than friends! If I were you I would be honest with myself, he obviously likes you or thinks that you would be an "easy score." Is he offering to pay for the round trip, if so then you may want to take advantage of it, if not that is the perfect excuse to get out of it! Go with your gut feeling here, only you really know what he is after, if you like him give it a whirl!! Good luck!!!
2007-02-23 13:05:12 · answer #7 · answered by Just Wondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can spare the time then go, see him for a day then go travelling around and see the sights, then see him again on the way back. Everybody's happy! If he presses you for more time then explain to him what you've just said here.
2007-02-23 13:09:19 · answer #8 · answered by T M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want this whole thing to end, but I say how about letting it end after taking an amazing trip!! My experiences travelling out of the country have been amazing. Go, have an amazing time, and then worry about letting things die off.
2007-02-23 13:04:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its totally up to u. i mean he cant do anything if u dont go and if u do go ull b able to tour around a new surrounding. its all in the perspective of how u look at it. whats wrong with him wanting to c u anyways? maybe he sees u as a good friend and just wants to hangout because he is so far away.
2007-02-23 13:05:03 · answer #10 · answered by posada123456 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Who says you have to be going over for romantic reasons? Don't pass up the chance for a new experience. You'll regret it later on if you do.
2007-02-23 13:05:26 · answer #11 · answered by Blue_eyed_Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋