my mother is really getting on my nerves! what should i do?

Question

my mom is really stubborn and she wont let me grow up! when i was in 6th grade she let me do alot of things. she let me shop at abercrombie and hollister, go out late, and be with my friends more. now im in 8th grade and my mom has me on a tight leash. whenever i go to a friends house she has to call in to make sure im safe and i cant shop at any stores like i did before. its just really starting to bug me. when i talk to my mom about it she doesnt care shes too stubborn to listen to my opinion. what should i do?

Answer 1

Why not suggest to your mum that you both go shopping and maybe even buy her something from your fave store.Meet with some of your coolest friends for a coffee,with your mum in tow,and let her join in with your convo.Make her feel involved in your life,rather than have her feel she has to control it.
She might well be frightened that she is losing you,and I doubt that either of you want that.Try to give her a few moments with you,just as you would your buddies.Even ask her what she thinks of some of your friends of the opposite sex,and ask her how she fared on dates when she was your age.
Remember that she was once your age too,and probably did the same things that you do,which is how come mums know so much about you.
And her wanting you safe is not such a bad thing is it?Dont you want to be safe?Maybe offer to meet her when she goes out,just so she has some company on her way home,like its your way of saying you want her to be safe too.
Mums(and Dads) can often be your best friends,but honesty is a real biggie between you,and they dont know some of your friends from John Doe,so cut a little slack sometimes,and you might see an improvement.
Also say you love her from time to time.Could be thats all she wants.
Good luck,and dont hurry to be an adult out there all alone too soon!!

Answer 2

What changed? Did you do something to give her the feeling you can’t be trusted? Only you know. Nevertheless, let me say, as the dad of a 16 year old, your attitude, actions, friends and many other things that at your age you may not think relevant determine how people respond to you. I was a teenager a long time ago and now that I have one, I see the things I did not at your age. Your mom is most likely afraid for you. She was a kid to you know. All parents did things they wish they did not and want to keep their kids from going through the same. It is hard to watch someone you love get lost. As for growing up? Dont get in a rush. Thats how the thing happen.

Answer 3

I think that your mom gave you a lot of free time in 6th grade. I wouldn't have let my daughter be out late with friends at that age. She gave you a lot of freedom then, but now that you are getting older, she probably realized that she needs to lay down some ground rules for you because you seem like a kind of girl who can get out of control by just wanting to be with your friends and go out all the time. She is your mom and that's what moms do, they protect their young ones from this evil world. Be glad she is a mom who cares for your well being and who calls you to make sure you are okay. She feeds you, buys you clothes, pays the water for you to use to take a shower, pays for electricity so you can have light, buys you shoes, to keep your feet warm. But until you are able and old enough to do all those things for yourself, don't give your mom a hard time about it. She is doing this for your own good. But once you are out of the home and are able to support yourself, then you are on your own.

But, right now, do what she says and respect your mom. Just give her hugs and kisses, moms like that too!

Answer 4

Write her a note telling her the problem and how it makes you feel ending it with saying that you'd like to compromise and really want her to listen. Don't make it a rude note, though.

Leave the note for her to find when NOBODY is around...not even you...this will give her time to mull it over, then when you come back home...see if she says anything about the note and if not say 'did you get my note' and 'what do you think'?

Hopefully this will open up conversation between you both!

Good luck.

Answer 5

Mothers can be real pains - but we should love them, because they gave birth to us and brought us up. When we get older things naturally change. Mums want the best for their kids and that sometimes brings restrictions. When you are old enough to support yourself and have a job - then - then - nyou may look back with greater understanding on tour mum. She may of course, be a comnplete b itch - better reason to work hard and get out.

Answer 6

She's your mom, you gotta listen to her, whether you like it or not. Just agree to whatever she says for now without complaint, and after a couple of weeks maybe you can ease out of that leash a bit, seeing as talking to her doesn't work.
You have to have a lot of patience.

Answer 7

Have you seen the danger around lately? Crime rates increase like flies. Your mother is protecting you from uncertain dangers. You are too stubborn to obey your mother.

Answer 8

whatever you do dont swear
if ur still living with her help around the house a bit
then try sit down and talk to her thats what i do with my mum when she annoys me
if you cant get anything straight try and find something to get ur anger out you could
1) write it in a diary/ write it down
2) take it out on a pillow
3) scream into a pillow

Answer 9

Get over yourself. You can run your life when you are 18 and out of her house. Until then follow her rules, they are there to keep you safe.

Answer 10

Now you are older there are worse things that could happen to you.
Of course she is only trying to protect you , but if , in fact, this is driving you away from her, perhaps you could try to calmly ask what is it she's worried will happen to you ?
You won't appreciate this until you have children of your own .......

M : )