My girlfriend of 2 1/2 years whom I love with all my heart says she doesn't believe in God and she has no faith. This has put a strain on our relationship since I know God but, she wants me to marry her in the next year. She wants me to teach her what I know about God but, she isn't the open-minded type and just can't grasp the concept of spirituality at all! Most of the time she is so jealous of my relationships with my 2 kids, my family, and my friends. She is so insecure that I dare not even make a comment about a women on TV let alone in public. I have to watch what I say, how I act, and how I display friendship towards others. She wants me all to herself! She wants me to dress "down" from my usual self and she doesn't like to dress up at all unless I beg her to. I can't be myself around her or her family! I do love her very much but ,it is tearing us apart when we argue about her loving me more then herself. Last night she said she wanted to die because of all this. Help!
2007-02-23 12:05:30 · 13 answers · asked by saturn man 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She is deppresed. Tell her that you love her more often, also do not forget to tell her how beautiful she is to you. I think that the problem is that she fears you do not love her as much as she loves you, and since she probably has bad self-estem that means she if afraid of loosing you. If I was you I would try and get into a situation where some guy hits on her and then you show her that you are jelous. Do not try and convert her. That will only make things farrrrrrrrrrrrrrr worse. It will make her feel that she is not good enough as she is. How would you feel if someone told you that your believe in God is driving her away from you? If you do nothing else I would try and avoid making her feel she is not good enough for you. Do not try and convert her if you love her. It will distroy your relationship. I know what that can do to a relationship.
2007-02-23 12:22:29 · answer #1 · answered by Michael M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think Christopher Hitchens made a good point about this. He said he'd rather live in a universe with an uncaring God than one that loved you. In a universe with an uncaring God you would have freedom, whereas in a universe with a God who had your best interests at heart you would have no such freedom. Personally I have no wish for there to be a God, though I must admit such a universe is so far beyond my experience I have a little trouble picturing what it would be like.
2016-03-29 09:21:00 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should end it now.... If you believe in God & she does not, it won't work out. You should pray for her that God will change her heart. You should not be in a relationship with her let alone marry her right now. Talk to a priest or pastor about the situation & maybe she will go with you too.
2007-02-23 12:12:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She does not believe in herself and she is in love with idea of loving you, but does not feel worthy of the depth of your feelings,
You need to be yourself. She is manipulating and controlling and really has no sense of self-worth, self-identity, and integrity. You cannot teach her this and you cannot teach anyone about faith, spirituality or unconditional love.
She has to recognize that life is with people. People are made up of men and women. Having to watch what you say, what you do, and how you interact with people is a sign of a very sick woman who will love you to death--spiritually, emotionally and otherwise dead.
I try not to tell people what to do. but in your case I cannot help myself. Run, run as fast as you can. Reclaim all that you may have lost and find a woman who will love you to life.
2007-02-23 12:22:59 · answer #4 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you love her, but perhaps she is not the right one for you. Love is not the issue, it is the lack of shared values and her unwilingness to accept yours. Trying to get between you and your kids is a sure signal you will not survive with a happy marriage. If you can't be yourself around her, then why would you want to share a fake life with her? Be real, be honest, and have the guts to call it quits before the life you have slips away from you.
DrG
2007-02-23 12:11:35 · answer #5 · answered by drg20202004 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tough, tough one.
She's right and you're wrong on the biggest issue of all here -- the non-existence of God -- but otherwise it sounds as if you have a dysfunctional relationship.
Communication is critical, and it sounds like neither of you is very effective at it with the other.
Probably you should split up.
2007-02-23 13:24:24 · answer #6 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. If she just wont listen to you at all, there isnt anything you can do. If shes just the incredibly stubborn type.. i dont know what to tell you, because my relative is like that and i cant deal with her either. Maybe you both are just not compatible. She cant be that obsessed with you---a relationship is a two person thing--a bridge...i dont see that here.
2007-02-23 12:10:48 · answer #7 · answered by theflame_inside 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow...Shes really insicour mabye you need to sit her down and express your feelings to her. Really get her to understand your point of veiw and tell her you love her and you love your kids. Tell her shes the most beautiful woman in your eyes and theres no comparison to anyone else but you are alowd to have friends. And i think she is over exaderating killing herself itll be ok just take it peice by peice and one step at a time youll get through and so will she! Xchoax
2007-02-23 12:12:31 · answer #8 · answered by lil_thing00 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the following::
Please listen carefully:
If you see footmark in the sand, you'll say that someone passed from here...
If you see a piece of dog sh*t on the ground, you'll say that a dog passed from here...
So what about the enormous universe, the sky, stars, planets, earth and all the beauty in it, doesn't it lead to that someone made it?!!!
Some people say that everything is created by itself after the big-bang... I won't ask you about what caused the big-bang, but I'll ask you a simple question:
If you take all the letters of the alphabet, multiples of them, and you threw them randomly on the floor. Do you expect (by a chance of one in infinity) to get a poem like shakespear's??!!
Can't you see how organized our universe is, the planets, the eco-system on earth, look even in your own body... Can you control your heart-beat? Can you control your breath while you're sleeping? Who stopped your eye-lashes from growing after reaching a certain length? Who told the baby turtles to move towards the sea and not to the earth after they come out of their eggs? Who taught the bird how to make nests?
My friend, think with your heart and brain. If you're still lost, think about the following:
Do you know how to play safe?
Non-believer's case:
If there's no God and you do all what you want in life, then nothing will happen to you after life. But if there was God and you were mistaken, then you'll blame yourself FOREVER...
Believer's case:
If there's God and I followed His commands in life, then I'll be in Heaven after life FOREVER. But if there was no God and we're mistaken, then nothing bad will happen to us after life...
Now you know how to play-safe, in case you're not convinced?
2007-02-26 00:08:59 · answer #9 · answered by toon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her not believing in God has very little to do with the other huge red flags I see in this post. She's going to drain you dry emotionally. She needs some help and you need some boundaries. As tough as it might be, break up and break up now!!!!
2007-02-23 12:27:57 · answer #10 · answered by catwommn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋