2007-02-23 11:44:40 · 20 answers · asked by tammer 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
In things such as Santa, easter bunny ect?
2007-02-23 11:45:05 · update #1
Im asking because my Best friend has 6 kids and thinks im Horible because I dont force it on them. My son is 15 my daughter is 6 , and have one on the way.
I never pushed it on them, and when they asked me I told them the truth
2007-02-23 11:49:32 · update #2
How can you tell your kids not to lie then, make them believe.
2007-02-23 11:50:13 · update #3
I take my kids and gather gifts for the poor, and do food drives, So they know about the reason for holidays and learn it feels good to give.
2007-02-23 11:52:43 · update #4
I also dont wrap presents anymore, I take them shopping and get them what they really want. Then we go to dinner and have a great family day. Then I cook and serve them all the holiday favorites.
2007-02-23 11:57:51 · update #5
What upset me was her teacher got extra pushy about it. Maybe they should have to gt a permission slip to brain wash our kids.......
2007-02-23 12:07:45 · update #6
I didnt say it was wrong if thats what you chose to teach your kids, I just dont feel the need in having them believe in a lie.
I never did believe, my parents tried pushing it on me.
2007-02-23 12:16:09 · update #7
I have never told my son about the Easter Bunny Or Santa. (he is 4 currently) This way I feel we can focus on the real meaning of the holiday isntead of silly charecters. You can talk about loving each other, appreciating what you have, and make the holidays more special this way instead of teaching kids that objects just appear out of the air from people in far off lands or giant rabbits.
he still looks forward just as much to the holidays, hes getting candy and presents, who wouldnt?? His eyes are still full of wonder when he see's everything pilled up undder a glowing tree, and painting eggs bright rainbow colors and searching for them never loose their fun.
I just don't see the point in adding the lies in there, thats not what make the holidays special, its the people that you are with and the memories you make together.
I saw in one family fun magazine how a family would make a stocking for santa and fill it with gifts for him!!
They were spending money on gifts for an imaginairy person???
If you want to teach your child gratitude for the things he recieves how abouyt teaching them that you worked hard for the money and bought them the gifts.
also some kids are REALLY let down when they discover santa isn't real. I never was but my husband said he was pretty crushed.
So those are the reason why I never bothered with them in our house.
Things work better for every family, I think aslong as you are building positive life long memories then what ever traditions you decide to follow would be fine.
2007-02-23 11:55:56 · answer #1 · answered by slawsayssss 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes. I have a 7,4, and 2 yr old.
I don't understand this about lying to the kids about Santa and stuff. Did it stunt you in some way to be told later that he wasn't real? Did it mentally handicap you for being told that there was no Easter Bunny? Did it upset you to know that it was really your parents? I figure No.
I lived through it as well as milllions of others. It is the fun thing about being a kid. I will never forget the Christmases that we had when I belived that there was a Sant. It was magical. After I found out, Christmas was nice, but never the same. The presents weren't as cool and it just wasn't as fun. I never hated my parents for it, and I doubt my kids will either
It is a personal choice to tell them he is real, but I cannot help notice that you have taken the fun out of it when they are little. We still help with food banks and buying clothing and toys for other's at the holiday's. We go to Church and they know the religious aspects of each, but I feel that they will never get this time in their lives again. It is the fun of it. I will not appologize for letting them have that magic!
2007-02-23 12:11:05 · answer #2 · answered by chemrose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is 4 1/2 and YES he does still beleive is Santa and the easter bunny. I think it is just something for kids to look foward to and it makes the seasons fun for them. I would not ruin it for a 6 year old, but a 15 year old I am sure does not beleive in those anymore.
2007-02-23 11:54:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I have 2 childre. One is 3 and the other is 14. My oldest believed until he was 12. I couldn't do it anymore. I felt bad for him if he told his friends that he believed. So I did the unthinkable mommy thing and told him. It was very hard for him to believe me about things for a while. But he got over it. I regret telling him, I would of rathered he found out elsewhere. The 3 yr. old. Of Course!!!
2007-02-23 11:50:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
We raised our kids with these delightful traditions, but we never made a big fuss over it. Such as sitting on the Mall Santa's lap or other extra exposure.
So their interest gradually and naturally waned. There was no crisis of discovery.
You know it brightens the adults holidays as well - its NOT just for the kids!
2007-02-23 11:56:25 · answer #5 · answered by KirksWorld 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
That is the magic of childhood. Santa, the Easter Bunny, leprechauns, fairies, etc. will always be a part of little kids lives. Eventually they will either grow out of believing in all that or their parents will tell them the truth. I have school-aged kids and I indulge them whenever a particular holiday rolls around. We go see what Santa brought them for Christmas, look for the eggs that the Easter bunny leaves, etc. Makes you wish you were a kid again.
2007-02-23 11:58:40 · answer #6 · answered by moonlightdriver1313 2 · 3⤊ 3⤋
my parents always told me the spirit of Santa (easter bunny, tooth fairy, ect) was real. it worked real well. It's a good way for kids to have the magic but not be lied too.
2007-02-23 11:53:50 · answer #7 · answered by It's just what i think... 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
mine is 4 and none of the above she was afriad of santa so I just told her the truth also easter bunny come on now who would belive in that ??
2007-02-23 12:28:52 · answer #8 · answered by Melissa H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My 9 year old hasn't believed for 2 yrs.
My 5 year old believes but I think this is her last year. It really is a bummer because she will never experience the tooth fairy.
2007-02-23 11:47:25 · answer #9 · answered by JS 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm getting which you're between a rock and a tough place...notwithstanding this is no longer your place to tell them the actuality. As stupid as you experience mendacity to them approximately it, with their mom being that severe, you may o.k. be out of a job via going against her needs and orders and telling them the actuality. they are going to parent it out on their own quickly. basically flow away it at that.
2016-10-01 21:25:33 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋