his excuse to me was after we were married, he felt like no other woman would ever want him again. we had only been married barely 2 months before the affair took place
2007-02-23 11:44:32 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you already know what to do. DUMP HIM or forgive him. choose one and get on with life.
2007-02-23 11:47:43 · answer #1 · answered by onelonevoice 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not a alone!! My son is 12 months old and I can probably count on one hand the times my husband and I have had sex since he was born. I have next to no sex drive now and like you said, sex with my hubby has become more of a chore than anything. Looking after a baby is a 24/7 job and lets face it, we Mom's get exhausted. I also have a 3 1/2 year old which keeps me busy. My husband works long hours all week so when he gets home from work, he's tired (and I don't blame him I'd be too) But that leaves pretty much all of the duties with the kids on me. On weekends, he wants to relax so all he really does all weekend is sleep, play video games or watch TV. He does help me with the kids a little more on weekends but still, I would say I stil do about 80% of the work load. I ask him to do things and he too puts them off. I get so frustrated as sometimes these things are left on me to do. My husband does mow the lawn, I'll give him that...but pretty well everything else around the house is done by me. I constantly have to ask him to help me out, he very rarely takes the initiative to do things himself. So sometimes I feel like his mother. I'll admit that I nag at him a lot, but thats the only way he'll do things sometimes. Now he calls me a nagging wife. Anyway, I think in both of our situations a lot of the reason we are the way we are is the stress and exhaustion. I think that it will get better, as the issues triggering the stress get better or go away. Also its tough raising small children as they require so much more time and energy.
2016-05-24 03:56:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a bunch of bull...How could he think no other woman would want him....marriage is not a disease or an affliction that makes u invisible to the opposite sex. Run away from this guy quickly. He will only continue to hurt you. By him having an affair so quickly after you married shows he has no respect for you.
He probably was messin around with this person before you got married....
2007-02-23 11:56:08 · answer #3 · answered by answergirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, i think that regardless of whatever reason, extra martial affairs are wrong. A marriage is a convenent, vows are exchanged and the promises are made, going back on your word is inexcusible.
That being said, it would be good if you could provide a little more information, the amount you've given thus far is rather scanty, and i am unable to come to any definitive conclusions over your husband's behavior.
If possible, could you either leave more information here on your question, or perhaps if it is something you'd rather not let out, either send it to one of us by email, or perhaps seek professional help?
Whichever path you choose, goodluck in solving this. I know that it must hurt terribly to have someone so close to your heart betray you.
2007-02-23 11:53:28 · answer #4 · answered by Dai S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 months?!? That is an excuse for cheating and he's almost got you believing it. If it was say, 5 years into marriage, then this would have a little validity to it, but only two months... means divorce or annulment based on being decieved. Look into the annulment process before it's too late. He's not ready to commit to you, you need to run. It wont get any better... ever. Dont convince yourself that it will. Once is enough. Get it before you have kids and then he tells you how many women he's slept with...
2007-02-23 11:49:46 · answer #5 · answered by daddyferrari 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats a rediculous excuse! it shouldnt matter that no woman would ever want him again! you get married to BE with only one woman, your attention and love should be all he needed.
Bin him off, i know it will be difficult but if after only two months he's cheating whats it going to be like further down the line, i doubt you'll ever be able to trust him again and that will effect your relationship and make u miserable.
get rid, you can do better! Good luck!
2007-02-23 11:49:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is a lying cheating jerk. He is feeding you a line of B.S. and it sounds like you might actually be buying it.
It is discouraging to have this happen after only two months (Somehow I doubt this was the first time) but you need to decide what is better- getting a divorce after only two months or staying in a mirrage with a man that you know will continue cheating, lying and breaking your heart until you decide that you have finally had enough. Be kind to yourself and get out. You deserve better than this. He doesn't respect you and he doesn't deserve you.
I wish you the best of luck!
2007-02-23 11:53:06 · answer #7 · answered by Goddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a lame excuse if you ask me. The point of being married is that you want to spend your life with one person. He sounds immature and should not have gotten married in the first place. It's going to be difficult to keep your marriage if he has that attitude. Good luck.
2007-02-23 11:49:23 · answer #8 · answered by Blue Jean 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like something was already going on. He felt guilty and thats the best excuse he could come up with. If he told you before you found out, there is probably some sincerity to his confession.
2007-02-23 11:53:30 · answer #9 · answered by Snowman38 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that is the biggest bull i have ever heard especially for such a short time.
well marriage is a serious thing, it is not a time shared or a piece of property. in a marriage you are married to that person and that person only.
when someone in a marriage tries to see if somebody else wants them apart from their spouse thats the begining of infidelity or a character of a cheater.
girl you need to let him know that you are the in thing you and god should be the center of his life or pack his bag and get a stepping to the door and you need to shut it lock it and keep him out until he has change. this type of change does not comes overnight be aware.
2007-02-23 11:56:45 · answer #10 · answered by monique 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a crock. He's a jerk. Telling you no other woman would want him? They shouldn't want him because he's married, or did he not think of that. Other women should be off the table for him. Tell him what he's saying is BS and you won't accept it. If he can't be faithful then you don't need him.
2007-02-23 11:48:14 · answer #11 · answered by blondee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋