the only thing i think it could possibly be is that guys are more logical than girls...guys use their brain when they think-- girls use their emotions when they think.. i really like this one girl..id always go do things with her and my buddy...shes randomly kissed me on my cheek a couple times, would slap my butt alot and just do alot of flirty things to me...i could get her to laugh uncontrollable on several occasions and i was really having a good time with her but when i started doing flirtatous things with her to mess with her, it seemed like it just killed everything. soon after she was talking about wanting her ex boyfriend back(which shes back with him now) and ive been lost since then..ive always wanted to know if she really did like me and if i did something wrong but ive never had the courage to ask her because she never liked it when i got all serious when i talked to her....i dont get it...did i do something to push her away or are girls just floaty like that?
2007-02-23 11:42:15 · 34 answers · asked by ginafisher 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Truthfully she probably just preffered you as a friend. I like to have guy friends that I can have fun with and no pressure to be anything more. She enjoyed your company, as you said you could make her laugh uncotrollably. When you started to show signs of liking her she most likely did not want to give you the wrong idea so stepped back a little. Its ok if she did'nt have feelings for you that way, don't be so judgemental towards all girls just because of a silly situation. What I have experienced it seems she just wanted to be friends. But there is no problem in that.
2007-02-23 11:49:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like she ever actually liked you. She was probably just bored and liked the attention.
As for the comment about guys being more logical than girls, that is a total stereotype. Many girls are logical and do not make relationship decisions based on emotions. I think that it may seem that way sometimes to guys because the emotional, flighty girls are the ones who are usually more visible.
They are the ones who are leading guys on and having a lot of relationships. Therefore, you are probably more likely to have dated or had a relationship with one of them. They are also more likely to have had a relationship with many of your friends as well. There are plenty of logical girls out there who don't play the relationship game and date a million different guys. They are just less likely to flirt with a guy and lead him on out of boredom so you probably haven't noticed them.
2007-02-23 12:05:39 · answer #2 · answered by engineergirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably never really wanted YOU in the first place - don't get me wrong, she liked you on some level otherwise she wouldn't waste her time even touching you (let alone kissing your cheek or slapping your butt). Did she just break up with her boyfriend then? She was probably in the out-of-sight/out-of-mind mode where she got rid of everything that reminded her of him and tried to move on as fast as she could - which led her to you. You were funny, cute, nice but all of that couldn't make up for the hurt about her ex-boyfriend. She just moved on too fast and when you reciprocated the behavior, she suddenly realized that 'oh no, he could actually like me!' and she didn't want to risk the awkwardness of having to explain her fight or flight (in this case flight) situation.
Most likely, you had nothing to do with it, she just wasn't completely done with her ex.
2007-02-23 11:48:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've known a few girls like that, and it seems like they're just out to have a good time. The boyfriends they like are usually have lugnuts for brains, but may be drummers or something..lol
Not all girls are like that, though. But I do know why you like the ones like that, because I like them, too. Something wild and free and untamed about them. But to be in a real relationship with a girl like that could be crazy and tumultuous at best.
I'm not saying you're a 'too white and nerdy' guy like me...hehe But you may want to find one just a smidgen less wild than that.
2007-02-23 11:48:35 · answer #4 · answered by merlin_steele 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was not you trust me she clearly had feelings for her boyfriend still. But was letting her hormones run wiled with you and the minute you show something back to her she ran to him. She wanted to see if she could land you if she wanted to and you played right in to it. I am sorry you got treated that way. But females are good for playing the game like a man. If anything did happened she would of still went back to him. Next time be careful and flirt with someone who is not into playing games
2007-02-23 11:49:55 · answer #5 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi dont stress it sounds like she wanted to wear the pants and do the things that guys normally do. She didnt apprciate it but one day when you find the right girl she will, your the man but she wanted to be. she wasnt happy with the way you are and you need someone that likes you for u. By the way man can be very hard to understand at times too u know? ;.}
2007-02-23 11:50:06 · answer #6 · answered by devangel11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like when you were just "friends/play pals", she could handle the relationship. It was safe. When she realized you were a real, live, emotional being she realized that she was not being fair to you.
Or maybe, her boyfriend isn't secure with himself, like you are, and able to speak from his heart. And maybe she can't handle your maturity. Or she may be a shallow-type of person.
Whatever her problem is.....You sound like a great guy. I don't think you did anything but be yourself. That doesn't sound wrong to me at all.
2007-02-23 12:10:18 · answer #7 · answered by rocky's here 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically, Hormones. Plus... Quite frankly... We're messed. Tell her you don't want to be in a relationship (friendly or really friendly) with someone who toys with me. Either you like me and want more than just a friend relation ship, or you want to remain friends. But with the recent behavior somethings gotta change.
2007-02-23 11:50:14 · answer #8 · answered by xchatterxboxx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man i know how you feel but girls are like not at themsels most of the time and i think that if you can get the courage to ask her than it might work out that you can be flirty with her(if she breaks up with her boyfriend)and she will probaly be flirty back
2007-02-23 11:49:56 · answer #9 · answered by lil'e 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some girls are just floaty like that. She wanted to be in control of the situation. Now that she's gotten you to like her, she's bored.
2007-02-23 11:45:44 · answer #10 · answered by Bavmorda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋