My fiancee's mom offered to do my flowers. She thought it would be a good project for her since she had a brain anyeurism last summer and can no longer work. I got together pics and showed her what I wanted and she said no problem. The thing is, she's finished my bmaids flowers (supposed to be bouquest of calla lilies, very simple looking) and they are calla lily pins with a rose at the bottom. Now, we talked about that for the guys but I guess she got confused (she's very forgettful since her anyeurism, to the point of calling 3 or 4 times in a row to ask the same question). Well now my sisters who are my bmaids are complaining about having to pin something to their dresses since they're paying for the dresses. I'm sad that the flowers won't be the way I'd hoped, but have pretty much gotten over that. I am just sick of hearing my sisters gripe about how I should tell my fmil to redo the flowers and I don't want to hurt my fmil's feelings over something this silly. What should I do?
2007-02-23 11:32:03 · 10 answers · asked by antiqueyouth 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I stopped at two points here.......brain anuerysm and whiney sisters.
Thank the Lord you have your FMIL still. I am a nurse, and have seen many people who simply do not survive a brain anuersym. You and your future husband are so blessed that she is still with you for this wonderful occassion. How wonderful of you to let her be a part by doing something so important - she must feel like a queen.
Now for the whiney babies - sorry - your sisters - tell them to get over themselves. Corsages have been pinned to dresses since the Victorian era! They will not ruin their dresses for pete sake. Tell them to put on their big girl panties, shut their yaps, and smile!
2007-02-23 13:39:27 · answer #1 · answered by Susie D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let your FMIL that you love the flowers she made and that you think it would be a great idea if she can make some additional bouquets (with specific instructions and pictures) so they can were the corsages for the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner. This way, the corsages will still be used and the girls won't have to wear pins in their dresses. Or you if she hasn't already made corsages for the mothers, hostesses, etc. let her know you would like to use the flowers she made for them and hope she is able to make additional bouquets (again with specific instructions and pictures) for the bridesmaids to "hand carry" when they walk down the aisle. If there is not enough time to make additional bouquets, just let the girls know that your FMIL worked hard to make these flowers and you'd appreciate if they would just wear them and stop complaining about it out of respect for all the hard work she made.
2007-02-23 12:38:02 · answer #2 · answered by Veronica W 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You could ask your fmil to make bouquets, too. (I suggest you write down instructions, since she is so forgetful.) That way the girls can wear the pins, and carry the bouquets, and during the reception they will still have on the pins. Or carry the bouquets during the wedding, and use the pins for the reception. If you really don't want to change anything now, because it might hurt her feelings, then don't. These are just suggestions to make your sisters, bridesmaids, and your fmil all happy.
2007-02-23 11:46:46 · answer #3 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's your wedding & if you're OK with the flowers, they should be fine. Pins will no hurt their dresses at all. Just explain to your sisters that while they aren't what you asked for, you're happy your FMIL was involved & did a good job with what she did.
2007-02-23 11:39:17 · answer #4 · answered by layla983 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should pick an accent color and use that throughout your wedding for the theme for invitations, flowers, reception, ceremony programs, etc. I went to a B&W wedding last Feb and they also used deep hot pink on a lot of things.
2016-03-29 09:19:27 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your sisters to stop whining, and think of someone else other than themselves. Your mother in law is trying to do something for you. She is not messing it up on purpose. They need to grow up. Someday, she will no longer be here and you will look back at your wedding pictures and remember how she wanted to do your flowers and did them for you. It will be a special memory, don't let your sisters ruin that for you.
2007-02-23 14:12:03 · answer #6 · answered by Melissa R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u just have to let her know that what she has done are the groomsman, or that there not right u can do this nice by apologising for not being happy with what she has done, but at the end of the day its your day an it should be done the way you want it as it probably isn't going to happen again or you could say that your sorry you didn't explain it properly and say I'm just so confused at the moment thank god i have you to help me make her feel appreciated. hoping this helps. Im getting married 6/10/07 so i sought of have an idea what your going through.
2007-02-23 11:44:28 · answer #7 · answered by devangel11 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is what I would do. I would tell them to get over it. I would say that she is doing the best that she can and that this is YOUR wedding. If they are going to b-itch and complain then they could go ***** off or accept it. I would sit my sisters down and say the following:"Look, you know my fiance's mother had an aneurysm last year and she made it through. She is trying to be gracious and do something nice to contribute to her son's wedding. This is MY wedding. not yours. YOU ARE GOING TO PISS ME OFF if you are going to complain. Let me know, NOW, that because of the flowers, you do not want to be in this wedding. Because, if you do not because of that, maybe it is better off. And when ANYONE asks me about why, I would be happy to tell them that YOU ACTED LIKE A F-UCKING CRYBABY BECAUSE YOU DID NOT WANT TO PIN SOME STUPID, F-UCKING FLOWERS ON YOUR DAMN DRESS!!! And, thus, that is why you are not a bridesmaid. SO SUCK IT UP, OR, GET OUT! I WOULD BE HAPPY TO REPAY HALF OF THE DRESS FOR YOU! And, remember, each and everyday after this event is each and everyday that not only me, but, other people will realize what a f-ucking complainer that you are."
This may sound cruel, but, guess what. This is your wedding and some crybaby tart should not ruin it for you.
2007-02-23 11:44:01 · answer #8 · answered by uchaboo 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
What about putting all you discussed on cards? 5 X 7 cards. Typed out nice and laminate them. This way there is no confussion and in case she forgets.. she can keep checking the card...
Its a shame she has this problem.. but it doesn't have to be your problem.
Can you sit her down and explain you are not very happy with them?
Try it see what happens.
GOOD LUCK & CONGRATS
2007-02-23 11:51:14 · answer #9 · answered by italianbronxgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell yoru sisters to get over it and deal.
2007-02-23 12:20:57 · answer #10 · answered by Dawnita 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋