Assertive and to have more faith in yourself.
I think I am an average smarts guy, maybe more but here is the thing.
Some times i know I am right on something, but i still keep an open mind that there could a chance that i could be wrong. But i feel like people are taking advantage of this.
Some times what people say makes me doubt my self so much, that i think i can be wrong.
What can I do to make my self have less doubt and have more faith in my self, because i think that is holding me back from doing great things in life.
(you can be helping someone change their life here, so please give thoughtful answers, but all answers are welcomed thanks)
2007-02-23 11:22:30 · 7 answers · asked by The Brown Bomber 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Just suck it up and stand up for yourself. If you really know what you are talking about, nothing anyone says should make you feel wrong. It sounds way easier than it is, but you just have to have a little faith in yourself. It gets easier as you work on it. Next time you know you are right, don't let someone talk you into doubting yourself. Then the next time it will be a little easier, and so on..
2007-02-23 11:27:50 · answer #1 · answered by answerman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to be more assertive is to practice.
Lead the way sometimes, rather than follow. Be more decisive, and except that you will not always make the right decision.
Get used to having people disagree with you, it's not that bad. Most people will still respect you for having made a choice, as they may be not too confident themselves.
Remember, if you make the wrong decision or a mistake, except it, take responsibility for it. That is also assertiveness.
2007-02-23 19:33:51 · answer #2 · answered by B T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before you undertake a job/assignment think through what may be the best you can do and do it with awareness.Ignore your negative thoughts they can overwhelm you,while their may be problems sitting and feeling bad about them will not solve them.
Believe that all you need will come to you.It is not enough to be good one must be aggressively good.List qualities you need and focus on a quality a day.You seem to care too much about what people think,when you are talking to them be aware of your intentions..why are you behaving the way you do...is it because you find it dificult to face confrontations...unpleasantness....so what....just be yourself in all situations.Be strong and aware in every little aspect.When you mess up start over.
Do not blame people they are also imperfect like us,so forgive and forget but be aware and work on your behaviours.If you are religiously inclined study buddhism will surely help.
2007-02-23 19:40:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having faith in yourself? Well, first of all, trusting yourself would be the first step. (Although that's just being repetitive in my case.)
I think that getting support from your friends and loved ones is also something that would help. Gradually, that builds self-esteem, and in the long run, can also make you believe in yourself even more.
I've also been thinking about this--and that's the best way I can put it into words; I hope this helped somewhat...
2007-02-23 19:26:56 · answer #4 · answered by Kita 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you're saying. I found that as I got older, I valued and trusted my own opinion more. That's because I used to make concessions to others out of politeness or because I felt intimidated. But nowadays I can stand up for myself better as long as I treat the other person well too.
In other words, mutual respect.
If other people give you problems, succeed anyway!
2007-02-23 19:32:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
fake it until its real........it really works, when I was growing up I was painfully shy and submissive and hated it. I just kept pretending that I wasn't shy and that I had tons of confidence........now people that didn't know me back then are shocked to find out that I was ever shy and quiet. Eventually it works........sometimes practicing with either people you know you can trust or the other extreme people that you could care less what they think.
2007-02-23 19:29:21 · answer #6 · answered by irish eyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have low self-esteem
you should take a course in asertiveness training
think positive about yourself and look in the mirror and tell
yourself you are a good person and YES my thoughts and ideas mean something
2007-02-23 19:28:13 · answer #7 · answered by caffsans 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋