Ladies out there, would you go to dinner with an older gentleman old enough to be your father?

Question

You have met this guy during a business transaction and he also happens to be on the other side of the racial line. If no, why? If yes, why and what do you see yourself talking about over dinner?

Answer 1

As friends, as long as he knows that, is ok. If not, never. Men do not understand that it is an uncomfortable place to be and think that they are all that if they hook up with someone younger....they just look sick. Stay away if he has other intentions.

Answer 2

Just dinner is OK.

What are your intentions? If you just want some company and to talk to someone, find out what he's like, become friends... sure. You can talk about common interests (yes, there may be some even with the age difference), current events, business, career, etc. Try to stay away from going too much into your personal life. You don't need to tell him your deepest and darkest secrets.

If you're thinking about possibly dating this gentleman, be careful. This is where age difference will most likely play a role. As I said above, you may have common interests, but you are at different points in your life. He's already been through most of it, and you still have to find out about it. Yes, not all situations are the same, but I truly believe that a big age difference will always be a problem in a relationship. The racial difference may play a role, but I believe it has a better chance of being worked out.

My advice is based on experience. Good luck :)

Answer 3

Here is the thing you have to keep in mind. There are some 12 year old dads out there. So, if he is "old" enough to be your father, then, a 12 year old can be a father and that is only a 12 year difference-which is not that high as to say 20-25 year difference. (I hope you get what I am saying). Okay, as for being another race or color as you, what do you two talk about? You talk about the things that interest you and that may interest him-regardless of what color that other person happens to be! Black, white, Hispanic, whatever, you sit down, talk about either how hot or how cold it has gotten, what is going on in the news and how was your day at work. Then, slowly, you start talking about where you work or what you do for a living, and then go from there. I mean, if you are attracted to them and they are to you, does it make any difference what color that person happens to be?
I am black and have dated Italians, a Polish person and someone who were of German descent as well as other black men and there were no problems what so ever. Why? They were not dating a black girl just to say that they had, they dated someone they wanted to get to know-the same goes for the way I felt. So, I see nothing wrong with it at all. If others sees it as something wrong, well, they have the problem.

Answer 4

I think it is gross to go out with somebody that old. Every girl has probably thought about it at least once in a while, but if you think about it logically, then it is kind of stupid. I sort of started to date a guy once who was like ten years older than me, but the more I got to know him the more he drove me crazy. Although 10 years doesn't seem like a lot, it is a huge generation gap. Even a guy 10 years older has much different views about the roles of males and femailes in a relationship. If the guy could be your father, then imagine how huge that generation gap will be.

You also should figure out what his motivation is. Why would he want to be with somebody that is so much younger than him? He would undoubtedly have more in common with somebody closer to his age. The only real appeal that I can see is that younger girls are more attractive. Do you really want to be with a guy just cause he likes that your boobs are still bouncy and your skin is taut?

Answer 5

I went to dinner once with a college professor when I was a student - I wasn't in any of his classes, but was a work-study student in another professor's office. A bunch of us in the office would go to minor league baseball games together, and one time he and I were the only ones that showed up at the game, and he offered to take me out to dinner after. Being a poor college student, I could hardly pass up a free meal, and I felt like we were fairly good friends, so I said yes. But all through the meal I felt really uncomfortable, even though we found plenty to talk about, like the game and mutual friends and stuff. But if you feel like you like this guy he seems decent and there won't be any business conflicts, I say go for it. Good guys are hard to find, so don't pass up any chances. It's not like you're marrying him.

Answer 6

I have no problem with interracial dating, but I prefer to date men of my own race. I have dated outside my race before, but I never felt comfortable. I always felt like people were staring at us. I have also dated a man old enough to be my father. The age difference was never a problem for us and we had plenty of interests in common. He was also a control freak and that got to be a problem.

You obviously have some business interests in common so you could start with that. You could talk about current events in your area. But seriously, if you are having trouble finding things to talk about, consider the possibility that you do not have enough in common for anything more than a business relationship.

Answer 7

i would say maybe because i don't no who Ur talking about but if hes handsome and charming why not go for it u only live once so go for it its not like Ur marrying the guy and if Ur on different teams at work i would not suggest for u to talk about work on Ur date u never no if hes using u to get some information so just talk about the things u find interesting or Ur hobbies!well what can i say u should trust ur gut and GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 8

Nope, Nada chance if hes old enough to be my father. He may anticipate something other than just dinner!

Hope this helps!!

Answer 9

Well, older maybe, but not that old. And I don't cross the racial line - just my preference.

Answer 10

Yes of course but I would hope it is for him and not because he may have money. FOLLOW YOUR HEART. If you dont feel comfortable then dont but if you love, or think you could ever love this man then go for it.
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