Well, i have a GREAT boyfriend and we are perfect together but I always think negative about things like i think oh he is going to break up with me. But i know he isnt. any ideas about how i can not think so negative all the time?
2007-02-23 11:19:03 · 13 answers · asked by Emily 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The reality of any relationship is that the relationship may not work out in the end, but be happy with the relationship you have in the present. If you are so concerned with the future and so worried about it, then you miss what is happening RIGHT NOW.
Rather than being concerned or being worried about what you do not have, concentrate and be thankful for what you DO have. I imagine that if you think negatively in the aspect of your having to deal with your relationship, then you probably think that way about other things.
Do not worry about other people's relationships or how other people have things you may not have. Be thankful for the guy that you have and the relationship you have and the LIFE that you have. Concentrate what what you have, NOT what you DO not have.
I used to be like you. I used to be fearful of what may come. In fact, I was so worried about the future, I would rather not face it than deal with it head on. The truth is that it's worth it. You future is going to be full of heartache and love, it will be full of sadness AND happiness and joy, it will have times of confusion and times of order and peace, but that is life. You live and you learn and you move on into the next part of your life. Grow up gracefully, friend, and realize that your future is a gift. Any gift is a positive thing. :-)
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Amanda
2007-02-25 08:13:26 · answer #1 · answered by One Odd Duck 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's negative reinforcement and it's good that you're seeing it. When you're thinking negative things you mentally prepare yourself for the inevitable breakup. When you get together, have a wonderful time and end the night still as a couple the euphoria you feel is incredible. As things bring you down again (work, school, whatever) you instinctively think the worst again, only to have "no break up occur" and you're brain and body are once again flooded with serotonin and endorphins, creating the euphoric situation again.
Believe in yourself that he won't breakup with you, believe it with all of your heart. Give yourself totally to the feeling.
2007-02-23 11:31:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ONLY way to stop thinking negative is to STOP THINKING NEGATIVE. You have to consciously make a decision that you are going to have positive thoughts ONLY. When you find yourself thinking something negative ... STOP ... recognize it ... and CHANGE your thought process. This takes A LOT of practice and conscious effort. I am not going to lie to you and say it is easy ... it isn't ... but the more effort you put into positive thinking, the more automatic it becomes. Good Luck ...
2007-02-23 11:22:50 · answer #3 · answered by neilmood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you afraid? are you insecure about your relationship well don't be afraid telling you to think pos may help but it won't fix the prob and don't ask you boyfriend b/c he'll become insecure about if he's a good bf right now i'm not worrying about my problems or thinking neg i'm helping others and i have to think positive b/c if i didn't you would have a crappy answer right now i reccomend watching the movie "patch adams" it has the same concept as you. or listening to The Beatles they always cheer me up
2007-02-23 11:31:15 · answer #4 · answered by yukonSLT3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wear a rubber band around ur wrist and whenever u think a negative thought flick it, after a while u just wont think them
2007-02-23 11:21:58 · answer #5 · answered by Onie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fear of loss leads to hate, hate leads to suffering. Talk to your boyfriend and find out exactly what his feelings for you are and see if he is worried about lossing you too. I was in your situation once with someone, I feared of losing her and I evenually did because I was way too paronoid about losing her. I think If I would of told her exactly how I feel I would be with her today.
2007-02-23 11:30:26 · answer #6 · answered by Woody 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By thinking positive = )
2007-02-23 11:21:33 · answer #7 · answered by rosemarie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop watching TV.
All the relationships on TV are disfuctional. Yours won't be that way, if you don't want it to be or expect it to be.
2007-02-23 11:22:35 · answer #8 · answered by Ben Aqui 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
realize that if he didn`t love you he wouldn`t be with you (:
love yourself . that is something you should work on everyday.
you need to be able to think positive with or without him .
realize all the people who love you like your friends&family.
2007-02-23 11:23:42 · answer #9 · answered by Taylor. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's totally how I feel. Talk to him and when he tells you that he loves you, you're in the clear.
2007-02-23 11:22:12 · answer #10 · answered by ilovreece807 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋