I am a parent that is single and I have a one year old daughter and it has been a great experience. Lately it has been hard for me to make money and I recently got put out of my 3br home. I now stay with my sister that has no compassion for my situation. We kind of bump heads alot in which dont help the situ. She takes my love for granted and then think that her behavior is exceptable. I cant take it no more and I have no where to go. And I need some help as to what I should do. I try to work things out with her as far as our relationship goes and there seems to be no hope right now. Do you think that adoption is a good answer for this situation. I have no support. And I need to try to better my life for my daughter's sake. I do want to be a good mother to my daughter but I am unable to get out there in the world to do the things that I have to beecause I dont have the right support to get started. This is hard for me to deal with. What should I do?
2007-02-23 11:10:55 · 9 answers · asked by Angel M 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
As a fellow single mom I feel for you! But adoption isn't the answer for you or your daughter! There are so many ways the government can help you get on your feet. Headstart is a free daycare for families that don't have the money for day care. You could enroll your daughter in head start and get a job, live with your sister until you save enough to move out on your own!
While you're saving you can research low income housing. Put your name on their list soon because some times it can take up to a year for them to call you. These aren't always housing projects some apartments in my area are required to have a certain number of apartments for low income families. They set rent by what your earn so if you are at the bottom on the average median in your area they only charge you a few hundred a month. Good Luck and be strong!
2007-02-23 11:33:42 · answer #1 · answered by LBuffo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what state you live in, but alot of states have help for mothers with children. You could call your local court house or housing authority and see what they could do. If you have a small child alot of them with put you as a top priority. As for adoption you have raised your daughter for a year and it sounds like you love her very much. I really don't know if you would be able to do that. I think it would be to hard on you. It is great you are looking out for her best interest. I hope this helps and good luck with everything.
2007-02-23 19:19:20 · answer #2 · answered by mamaof2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I really feel for you and your situation. With no support, it's hard to really get started, but you'll find a way somehow.
You may want to check around to see what's available to you in your area. The first thing to do is to start job searching. There are programs available to single moms. These are usually different per state.
Remember, where there's a will, there's a way. Good luck to ya!
2007-02-23 19:22:15 · answer #3 · answered by Tara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to welfare they can give you money for food stamp and ieven help you get a job a get you study dont give your child in adoption if you want to take care of her i think that you are not goingo to the right people. Another thing dont look for support on your family loom at your child thats the only support you need know that your doing it for her thath should be all that you need another thing go to the state and ask for child support for your child they can track him if you dont know where he is and they will make him paid. Adoption is a big deal you xshoudnt do it unless you are a 300% secure. my best wishes and my best of luck
2007-02-23 19:46:09 · answer #4 · answered by user 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried using the government systems that are in place for your type of situation? You could look into babysitting co-ops too, where a circle of people swap babysitting times with each other to help out. Look for help in your community or others that have been in your situation. Do you have a church family? There are a lot of options out there. You just have to motivate yourself to do so.
2007-02-23 19:22:15 · answer #5 · answered by clothingdisaster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could go to your local DHS (Department of Human Services) office. They should be able to help you with housing, you would be able to receive food stamps, TANF, and they might be able to help you go to school if you would like. Go up to the local office and see what kind of help you can get. If you can find a way to make it work, I bet your daughter will thank you for it later. Best of luck, hope everything works out for you.
2007-02-23 19:49:34 · answer #6 · answered by mommyof2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am including some links to some resources.
Check out what is available in your area.
No one can tell you to place your child up for adoption or not. I can tell you this... but 1, your child has bonded with you... also, she will be harder to place in an adoptive home. (Unfortunately, if she is not white, she will be even harder to place.)
I also am including some links about child support. You need to get it. And dont say I dont wan tmy baby's daddy to know about her... he has to if you want to give her up for adoption anyway.
Good luck.
2007-02-23 21:48:44 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer Anne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was s single parent for seven years i attended church all the time and rised my daughter in church also it was hard at times I thank God I did have my parents to help me at times.. If you haveyou have public asstance in your area call them and get an appointment they can help you a lot.they can get you a baby sitter and help get you a job.to get you on your feet..Your daughter is all that you really have, you will never regret keeping her.i have no regrets at all.good and i'll be praying for you.find a local church they can be a lot of help in a time of need.
2007-02-23 19:24:11 · answer #8 · answered by Rhonda H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feal really bad for you, no tips, just wanted to show some love and say youll get through it
2007-02-23 19:14:22 · answer #9 · answered by Zanersss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋